The Left-Out People's Club

[holysoldier5000]

\T.T/ I agree with what Gypsy said~ It makes me sad when people feel left out! So if anyone needs a fwiend PM me! Then you'll have a friend AND your fingers will stay intact!

I agree again with Gypsy and Kokoro Daisuke! I am going to offer too...anyone need a friend can PM me as well. No since in anyone staying left out. PM me, I'm a guaranteed friend. And when you PM me you will either like me or run away sreaming "Run for your life!" Either way it should be a lot of fun.

[Rachel]

Seriously, will the server explode if it suddenly tallied Goof Off/RPG threads? I'm sure Animeheretic's postcount will increase tenfold.

I think mine would too.

[Alice]

[quote="Gypsy"] I think Otaku10 had the right idea as far as hanging out in Goof Off to mix and mingle, but I do suggest trying to post on the regular boards and contributing to coversations too.

I'd also like to suggest the old "if you want friends, you must be one first" method. If you're just going around looking for people to like you, scanning posts for your name, or always just posting your opinion or story, it might take a while to make friends on the board. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be noticed or wanting to make buddies, but you have to give and as well as take, you know? Taking a genuine interest in what someone else is saying will take you far (as will actually reading other people's posts). ^^ If you want to be noticed, take time to notice someone else.

Other than that, just stick with it. Regardless of how it feels sometimes, every member is wanted here. It sounds so corny, but it's the God-honest truth. ^^]

Or you could take a short cut and create a thread in the Goof Off section titled, "Pay Attention to Me!"

I actually considered this in my zanier moments.

[the_lizardqueen]

Or you could take a short cut and create a thread in the Goof Off section titled, "Pay Attention to Me!"

I actually considered this in my zanier moments.

Oo! I like that idea! Um, as much as it might bug the bejeebers outta people if everyone starts one (trying to picture 2000+ members demanding attention, hehehe, anarchy). Mebbe one specific attention thread would work better, though that's probably what you intended, I just have a rambling psycho imagination

[Alice]

No, I really was going to do it just for me.

But I realized the replies would go something like this:

*walks into thread* *stares at you* Yeeeeees?

Then, the thread would morph, turning into an entirely different topic, which I would have no control over and probably not know anything about.

So I decided against it. But hey, anyone else is still free to try it! If they can stand the attention...

[White Raven]

I have felt left out a lot of the time.
I have posted comments on threads and people ether ignore them or don’t see them.
Like my new avatar thread> http://www.christiananime.net/showthread.php?t=22072
nobody said anything about it.
I drew it myself and I know this sounds dumb, and I know I’m way too sensitive, but it kinda hurt my feelings.

[Alice]

Oh no, that's not dumb. I love everybody's art, but I don't go to the art threads much. And yeah, I felt a little hurt when no one commented on my art thread, too. I think it's normal.

I guess people don't always know what to say about art...?

[Jeikobu]

I definitely feel unpopular on CAA, but I wouldn't say left out. I've been left out IRL when I have gone to schools (I've been homeschooled most of the time though, and thankfully I am now) for certain, but it's alot easier online. And at least I feel like I fit in more at the anime club I go to because I know I have big things in common with the people there. *waits for fall so it can start again*

[White Raven]

Hey Jeikobu I have been meaning to tell you.
I love your avatar.

[the_lizardqueen]

I have felt left out a lot of the time.
I have posted comments on threads and people ether ignore them or don’t see them.
Like my new avatar thread> http://www.christiananime.net/showthread.php?t=22072
nobody said anything about it.
I drew it myself and I know this sounds dumb, and I know I’m way too sensitive, but it kinda hurt my feelings.

It definitely hurts to have your thread get ignored, I've had it happen once or twice but I just keep posting, and trying to make sure that no one else gets ignored (it's so hard sometimes though...the CAA's a biiiiig forum)

I'm realizing I should be checking the Testing forum more often, and I'm so sorry that I missed your avatar thread Iloveart! I most definitely would have commented on it. I noticed that you had changed your avatar and I was wondering if it was your art (whee! I can recognize your style! ) Your new aviies' so cute, and the art looks awesome, like a professional children's book illustration. I always look forward to seeing new pieces of artwork by you ^_^

[Jeikobu]

Hey Jeikobu I have been meaning to tell you.
I love your avatar.

Really? Arigatou! ^^ *loves Sen to Chihiro no Kamikakushi (Spirited Away)*

[White Raven]

*Hugs the_lizardqueen*
You have always made me feel good about the things I draw.
And ps I was looking at the purple girl you drew.
I liked it, her eyes are kinda creepy though.
But in a good way.

[White Raven]

Really? Arigatou! ^^ *loves Sen to Chihiro no Kamikakushi (Spirited Away)*

So do I. I have seen it about five times.
And princess mononoke.
Have you seen it?
Oops I'm getting a little off topic.

[Jeikobu]

Wow, I've seen it 5 times also (4 times subbed, once dubbed)! I seem to like it more and more each time I see it (it seems to have a lot of replay value too, since I've been wanting to watch it about every day recently). It's easily one of my top 10 favorite films ever. I could go on and on about it.
Yeah, I've seen Mononoke. In fact, I've seen all of Miyazaki-san's films, even the music film On Your Mark. I like Mononoke, but it's my least favorite of Miyazaki's 8 full length Ghibli films, due to the religious content. The Deer God bothers me. But that's another story. ^^

[the_lizardqueen]

Aww, thankie Iloveart! Yup, she is rather strange, in a funky way

[FadedOne]

*cries* my comment got deleting after I finished it. evil AOL!

anyway..

Taking a genuine interest in what someone else is saying will take you far (as will actually reading other people's posts). ^^ If you want to be noticed, take time to notice someone else.

hai. I think that's why I feel left out alot. Since it's so easy to feel no one will notice anyway, I tend to just not participate that much. Plus i'm weird and it's kinda well..hard to fit into groups sometimes.

But it definitely takes a bit of effort to truly find a home at forums, and yeah...I agree. effort is usually worth it too. just a matter of one doing so.

[jazz]

hai. I think that's why I feel left out alot. Since it's so easy to feel no one will notice anyway, I tend to just not participate that much. Plus i'm weird and it's kinda well..hard to fit into groups sometimes.

But it definitely takes a bit of effort to truly find a home at forums, and yeah...I agree. effort is usually worth it too. just a matter of one doing so.

yes yes, i agree. my left-outedness (new word) is a result of a lack of effort on my part. quite often i'll be inspired to say something, and by the time i get to typing it out, i don't feel inspired anymore, or i'll forget it, or decide it wasn't important enough. so i end up not saying anything...

[VioletEyedCat]

I think everyone feels like an undertow at times, makin' a difference, but nobody notices you until they trip over you.

That is some serious wisdomosity. The love that I have for that saying is too great for words. Perfect - go Zilch!


Anyway - most unfortunately, I cannot empathize with those who feel left out - for I have always been my own best friend. I'm not really caring if anyone notices me or not - this site's not about me, and if you wanna get noticed, you have to do something to earn it. I am a lazy bum compared to some people who put so much time and effort into this site - they should get more attention than me. But whatever. I do find this to be an extremely welcoming place compared to other forums I've posted on. We're lucky to have such a haven. Go mods and admins!!! Yay!

[the_lizardqueen]

*cries* my comment got deleting after I finished it. evil AOL!

Oooo, I hate it when that happens!! *pats FadedOne on the head*

I'd definitely like to encourage both of you (FadedOne and Jazz, and mebbe others?) to post when you feel called to, and even mebbe when ya don't. Alot of times in RL, I stay silent during conversations, even when I feel that I have something to contribute. It's pretty frustrating, not being able to speak up.

I've noticed when both of you have posted in the past and I definitely think you'd have alot to contribute

Though I do have to admit that lately I'm kinda worried that I'm getting too comfortable with the CAA and turning into a total motormouth...

[White Raven]

[quote="the_lizardqueenThough I do have to admit that lately I'm kinda worried that I'm getting too comfortable with the CAA and turning into a total motormouth...[/QUOTE"]
When I have read your post's you didn't come off as a motormouth.

[FadedOne]

I've noticed when both of you have posted in the past and I definitely think you'd have alot to contribute

aww..thanks!

And yes..going to attempt to contrib more around here. hopefully lol

[kazekami]

I only felt left out once on a certain thread wher i posted a link and then someone else posted the article directly and then soemone said that only 2 people were provideing information and i wasn't included in that. kinda hurt. Just like that time my my two friends went to see a movie and didn't ask me or tell me because they didn't think I'd want to see it. But oh well.

I think people around here are pretty nice. And i really like everybody a lot. I've been to other forums where the atmosphere isn't that great. I may be a silly nonconformist obsessive weirdo but if anyone wants to PM me feel free. No one should have to feel left out.

[Mave]

It's easy to feel left out when other members don't seem to pay 'enough' attention to a single post or comment in chatrooms and such. Have I felt ignored? Ohhhh yeah.... although I doubt I have any concrete justification to such assertions.

Most of the time, I remedy it by reminding myself that the world doesn't revolve around me and after all, there are 1000+ members on CAA who have their own problems/interests and are not obligated to pay attention to every single little post of mine.

It's good to know that you are never left out in God's eyes. *nods nods*

[bbboy21]

I think this is the reason why I really dont post here much...I guess...-_-

[Rachel]

A lot of my posts don't make sense, but then again, neither does a lot of what I say IRL. So sometimes I try to be a little more normal so people won't like, think I'm completely nuts. But then I realize there's no point in trying to be "normal" at all because I'd rather not by "normal" anyway...If that makes any sense.

[Alice]

*hands out milk and cookies to everyone who feels left out*

*munches a cookie*

Hey, these aren't bad!

[Kiba-kun]

yea free cookies now i dont have to bake them my self (munchs on one) huh...these arent that bad maybe some M'Ms would help

[CreatureArt]

So sometimes I try to be a little more normal so people won't like, think I'm completely nuts.

Personally, I like people who aren't 'normal'. Or, more specifically, people who tend to be the odd one out, who have different ideas and interests that other people might think are silly or that other people dont understand.

I mean, there's always going to be people who for some reason dont like us, whether we're the nicest people in the world or not. Even if a person was the kindest, most compassionate and easy to get along human on the earth, there would still be people who would still not like them for no intelligent reason. So I figure that we might as well just accept our weird, un-normal selves and try to find other people who will, too.

I'm not trying to play down the fact that it really does hurt when you feel weird, especially when you feel you've made a mistake by being too loud, too quiet, saying the wrong thing, acting weird/stupid... etc. I'm also not trying to spout that old 'be yourself and then you'll be all happy and rabbits will drop delicious candy eggs in your gardens all year around...'. I guess I'm trying to say that we just can't be perfect, and that there are a lot of people who will pull us down no matter who we are. But who you are is ok, no matter how you feel. You might not be perfect, but God has seen every single bit of you, even all the embarassing squirmy bits, and he was willing to devote his life and death on Earth for you so that you could be saved and be with him, because he loves your strange sense of humour, your interest in drawing, telling stories, liking odd sights, smells, tastes... all of it.

Maybe I'm repeating what I already said, but I like people who are different, even people who aren't easy to get along with. There's something deeper, more interesting and more rewarding to me in friendships with people who aren't completely normal. I also like normal people, but often I find that their 'normalcy' actually disappears once I get to know them!

So yeah, that's just my little rant. [/rant] . I'm sorry that you guys feel left out at times. But try not to worry about having to be 'normal', k?

Maybe I'm on the wrong track. Please let me know what you think.

<<EDIT>> Whoa. Long post.

[Anime Dad]

Let's see... i'm a Christian, an anime fan, over 40.... I guess that puts me into a very small minority, even here lol. But do I feel "normal"? Nope. But then again, I rarely do. The only place I feel right at home is, strangely enough, home.
I don't feel left out here, really, just a bit out of place but I do appreciate the people here.

BTW, I agree with CreatureArt. If you're happy with who you are, don't let anyone tell you you're not normal

[Mr. SmartyPants]

heres a tip: if ya wanna feel un-left out, make cool threads! and also get to know the mods