Ever had a friend who thinks he/she knows everything?

[Destroyer2000]

That is annoying. I just got off the phone with a friend who called asking if I knew about Ilovebees.com. I told him yes, that I have been following the story, and the countdown, not to mentiont he arguments over what would happen August 24, for months. He apparently just found out about it. I told him I spent my time at GameFAQs finding stuff out, and he said he stayed at so called 'official' sites to find stuff out. I asked him why not GameFAQs, and he said, "There's too much false information floating around there." That's the biggest load of BULL! There's heaps of false information floating around other forums and sites, as well. He just thinks he knows everything and that the places he goes are best, and everything else is inferior. Argh...I can't argue with him because he will hold a grudge for months on end, and he is my best friend. Heck, I've known him since he was born, due to our parents' friendship, and the fact that I am a year and a few months older than him.

So...do you have any friends like that, and how do you handle them?

[Jaltus-bot]

I'm sorry I don't have anything to really say. I haven't actually dealt with that myself. I will be praying for you and your friend.

[Raiden no Kishi]

I know people like that. They're no friends of mine. I detest people like that.

Rai

[Hitokiri]

I have a "friend" like that. She's my sisters friend and I'm on friendly terms with her. The fact is she does know eveerything. She takes college classes at the same colelge I go to and she's in 8th grade. She just thinks though she's th ebest, everyones inferior. Like she wants to be the head of the youth group and will do anything to become th eleader. She gets power hungry at times.

For instance this guy she likes (he's my age) and he'go to college in New York and so she said to my sister that'll she'll miss him. well my sister didnt know him much but she said she'll miss him as well and this girl got in my sisters face about how she doesn't know him and that she was never his friend and stuff. She just seems to think she's constantly right bout stuff.

[skynes]

I know a guy like that... His I know it all attitude really rubs me the wrong way, I usually just lose my temper with him as I've no patience for that kind of thing, its even worse when he starts whining about something... U ever heard a grown man whine? Not a nice thing...

[JediSonic]

Maybe I missed something but it doesnt sound like your friend said anything rude, destroyer 0_o

Anyway I like the bumper stickers that say "those who think they know everything annoy those of us that do"

[Swordguy]

Ephesians 4
2Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 3Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.

the best advice i can give is to be humble even if you think he is the one who should be. and pray for him intencsly

[uc pseudonym]

Yes, I know the type. Many of them are my friends. I think the words of many martial arts masters fit well here: do not fight against the wind, bend with it.

Essentially what I mean is this: cut your friend more slack, and just let him speak as he wants. Not that you shouldn't disagree in an ordinary, respectful way, but if someone is being bull-headed there really isn't a reason to stop them. Unless I feel that it is a serious issue that hurts them, I generally just bear with it.

[Yojimbo]

Hmm...I used to know a guy like that till he we had an argument that was so bad it turned to blows. I tend to stay away from people like that now...

[ShiroiHikari]

I have had some "friends" like that. I can't deal with them because I try to tell them something I know is right, and they end up saying rude things to me, and since I'm oversensitive I get my feelings hurt....>_o now I try to avoid people like that.

[shooraijin]

The other bit, too, is it's very hard to change people like that (and keep in mind the speck in their eye may be the plank in yours). Odds are they're very aware of the mistakes they make, even if they aren't telling you about the fact that sometimes they're actually wrong.

[Roy Mustang]

Be glad that you don't have my problem.

Insert family member who thinks he/she knows everything and that my problem.

My cousin on my dad's side of the family is bad about that. But to make things worst, she is very cocky and a smartmouth.

She lives on her own, because her mother had to move to keep her job out of state and she thinks that is the best thing in the world. Since I been in college more then four years, ever time we have a family dinner, she will bring up to me in a very smartmouth way, so, have you finish college yet and gives me a hard time about how I still live at home. She has anything good to say about others and she gives my dad a hard time. I think its because she unhappy that I have a loving dad that wants to do things with his two sons and be there for them. Plus, she started to go church a few years go, something that her mom never push her about in going, and I'm happy and glad that she goes. But there is one problem, since she started going to church. She thinks she all that for just showing up for church and mostly doesn't really go there the right reasons too, she goes there to meet guys and I feel that is just wrong.


You are glad that you only have friends that are like this. Its hard, because when we have a family dinner, she loves to disagree with about everything and makes you feel like nothing. Sometimes, I really can't enjoy Christmas that much, because she and her mom have to come.

[Spirit_Wolf8356]

A former friend of mine thinks he's a genius. He says to people he won't take an IQ test because he doesn't want the government to find out how smart he is. And he's a complete jerk. He thinks he's the coolest cuz he downloads all this crap and argues constantly with people. He argued with one of our teachers for cripes' sake. His attitude rubs everyone he meets the wrong way. He had no friends his entire time at our school. Well, he had a few for a short period of time (me and my friends), but he quickly lost any attention he woudl've gotten from them. It's kinda sad, really.

[PumpkinKoRn52]

I have friends like that. I hate people like that. The moronic ignorant fools who think they know everything all eventually get horribly embarresed when every one fugures out that they have no clue what they're talking about. I usually deal with them by proving they have no idea what there talking about.

[cbwing0]

I will be honest and say that I have been the know-it-all friend a lot of times in the past. Fortunately I didn't annoy too many people, since I am also somewhat introverted.

The important thing to remember is that this kind of a personality can be a gift. In my case, I discovered the subject of apologetics when I realized that I couldn't defend my beliefs, and now I spend a great deal of my time arguing for Christ (so to speak).

You have to be pretty dense to keep a know-it-all attitude after you have been at college for more than a week. Once you get there, you realize that there are other smart people in the world (otherwise they wouldn't be there), which is a humbling realization for those that were always looked up to as the "smart ones" in high school.

I agree with UC that you should bear with your friend and accept his faults. After all, at this very moment your friend could be on another forum complaining about all of the things he dislikes about you .

[Kat Walker]

I have friends who have somewhat bossy tendencies, but nothing unbearable. When people get that way though, it really is best to just go "Uh huh, whatever you say" and leave it at that. Know-it-alls have only one agenda, and that definitely does not include listening to what anyone else has to say.

If there's anything that theology debates have taught me (particularly with atheists), it's that some people aren't interested in balanced dialogue, they want an excuse to whine/rant/bash or just plain have their butts kissed. Let them have their little ego trip. There's no reasoning with them, it just doesn't work. Be as nice as you want, but you might as well be arguing with the change-eating soda machine down the hall because all they do is totally waste the valuable company of intelligent and patient people.

[RoyalWing]

I really can't say more than others have said already. Everyone here is so smart and has given the best answers possible. ^-^

Many people are like this, specially at my school. But, I think it's a test of patience, don't you? You're being built up for harder times with more 'annoying' people. You just have to let them go on their way, and maybe, after a few mistakes they'll realize. Pray for them and act as humbly as you can. ^-^

I have friends like that. I hate people like that. The moronic ignorant fools who think they know everything all eventually get horribly embarresed when every one fugures out that they have no clue what they're talking about. I usually deal with them by proving they have no idea what there talking about.

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[Saint Kevin]

Yeah, I gotta confess I've been that cocky know-it-all at times. But honestly, that attitude wasn't productive. I'd like to think that I'm humble now, but the truth is, I still struggle to be humble sometimes.

I think the important question, that UC alluded to, is: Is this a hill worth dying for? i.e. Is this argument worth killing a friendship for.

Honestly I find that if you say "fine, if it's that important to you, then sure, you're right," makes them even angrier than arguing with them, because they like the feeling they get from winning an argument. If you choose not even to participate in such arguments (because they are trivial), then that angers them, but that's probably the best way to go, IMO.

[Destroyer2000]

Thanks. This guy really IS my friend, and we spend most of the time on weekends together. He just gets like this occasionally.I guess it could be that he's just starting puberty and is at the stage that most teens get where they are the superior beings, or so they think. Fortunately, I've avoided that. I've watched myself to make sure I don't become what I dislike.

[Mr. SmartyPants]

I must say, I don't like these kinda of topics. They're like gossip and you're talking negative thigns about other people

therefore, I'm not reading these

[Madeline]

I think he ws just trying to get some advice...I'm fresh out.
Sorry. I'm having a hard time right now...

[Kisa]

Yes and it is very annoying! Especially the timing of some of the things . . .
Most of you remeber when my Dad has his heart attack, well this guy I'm friends with went on about how it is God's will and that becuase I was worrying I was sinning . . . What he didn't realize is that God never wills for anything bad to happen, but to use bad for good. Becuase of this heart attack my Dad was saved from dying from a more serious one if it had gone any longer . . . also I was not worrying as in the sinful sense, but concerned as anyone in that position would be.
Some people just think they are God's gift to others to share their great knowledge they think they have . . . >_<

[Mave]

I could grumble about other ppl's attitudes but everytime I point a finger at one person, I have at least 3 fingers pointing back at me.

I don't have friends with that attitude because I don't put up with that. Most of my buddies have learnt how to respectfully disagree with each other in certain topics. With such ppl, my cold response is usually "Everyone is entitled to their opinions. I respect yours, you respect mine. If you can't do that, pls share your opinions with someone else." And that's the end of it.

[uc pseudonym]

I must say, I don't like these kinda of topics. They're like gossip and you're talking negative thigns about other people

therefore, I'm not reading these

I am uncertain from your post if you read the thread (it could be take either way) or even if you will respond. But at times the purpose of a response is not so much for the original person as for all who read.

This thread has not really become gossip. A person was asking for help and (by large) people have been giving there advice. From the most recent post by Destroyer, it seems that we have done at least some degree of good and they are now more ready to deepen their friendship. Among proper Christians, these threads can be beneficial indeed.

[Kisa]

Ah. . . I didn't mean it in a bad way . . . I was just commenting on how I took that person's comments and used them for good . . .
But yea (to Mave) I don't and didn't put up with his attitude and he doesn't even talk to me anymore . .
Also this can or not become gossip, it's all how you post and if you even post to help the original poster with their situation . . .
arg . . . now I feel dumb T_T

[termyt]

I don't know anyone who thinks he knows everything, but all of my friends say they do. I don't know who they all know that I don't.