guys (i need help)

Postby **fairyprincess90** » Tue Jun 20, 2006 1:22 pm

there is this guy i like... and i want to talk to him... but im too nervous! i need some simple conversation starters... he plays guitar, and he loves it very much (i know nothing about it ) and other than that hes kinda shy and practically likes only his guitar haha.
and i have no idea how to talk to him!
any ideas?

Postby **Angel37** » Tue Jun 20, 2006 1:24 pm

well, he loves guitar and you know nothing about it! perfect conversation starter! ask him to tell you all about his guitar and playing it and why he likes it, songs he likes, maybe ask him to teach you!

Postby **ChristianKitsune** » Tue Jun 20, 2006 1:25 pm

Talk about what he likes.. Guys like to talk about that sometimes.

Like point to his guitar and be all "Can you show me what that sounds like?"

OR ask him what he plans to do with his music.

i dunno..

Postby **fairyprincess90** » Tue Jun 20, 2006 1:29 pm

hmm yeahh... i was going to ask for lessons but im broke right now... haha. but yeahh i have no idea what he is doing after he gets out of high-school like if hes taking up music at college! hmmm. thanx!
more ideas are welcome still!

Postby **Radical Dreamer** » Tue Jun 20, 2006 1:30 pm

ChristianRonin wrote:Like point to his guitar and be all "Can you show me what that sounds like?"

That would be awesome.

I agree, though, talk to him about what he likes. Ask him who his favorite bands are, and ask him how he picked up guitar in the first place. Or you could go with the whole "drop a pencil/book/etc. in front of him and see if he picks it up for you." XD Or not.

But yeah, just ask him what kind of music he likes, and that sort of thing. Once you find some common ground, it should be easy to get a simple conversation going.

Hope that helps!

Postby **agasfas** » Tue Jun 20, 2006 1:39 pm

Like some of the other's have said... It's a good idea to start the conversation about something he's interested in. But don't make it one dimensional... We guys like to know a bit about y'all too. Just try to let the conversation flow, but don't make it too long the first time. Just enough to let him get to know ya. Dont' try to force it. After that, just let it flow from there.

Facebook · Postby **Neko Niisan** » Wed Jun 21, 2006 1:35 am

DON"T TRY TO GET HIS ATTENTION!!!

Ok, that sounds a little counter-productive but hear me out. Instead of being all like "I-like-you-but-to-nervous-to-make-anything-of-it" just try to be friends. If you wanna learn to play a guitar,then genuinly talk to him about it.
Ask him useful things like "Can you recomend a good make of guitar" or "wheres a good place to get a guitar". Things like that.
If there is a serious connection between you God will bring the rest about.

Postby **glitch1501** » Wed Jun 21, 2006 6:03 am

fairyprincess90 wrote:hmm yeahh... i was going to ask for lessons but im broke right now... haha.

ask HIM for lessons!

Postby **mitsuki lover** » Wed Jun 21, 2006 11:14 am

Well if he is shy and introverted then the first thing to do would be to wait for a place where you would both be comfortable in talking to each other.This will sound a bit corny but you might want to sound his friends out first before actually approaching him.

Postby **fairyprincess90** » Sat Jun 24, 2006 5:14 pm

thankie!

more comments are welcome!

Postby **fairyprincess90** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 9:54 am

hmmm now i need more help...
grant found out that i like him cuz i these girls found out and blabbed it to him! (im so mad at them)
now there's even more tension cuz every time i try talking to him i feel tension like he doesnt want to talk to me. and i tried saying good bye to him and his mom (cuz his mom and i are kind of close) and he totally ignored me. he just turned around. and then i said hi to him before and he said hi to my cousin and just looked at me. and every time i add something in the conversation like for example he said "has anyone gone to the beach lately?" and i said "my mom went this morniing and said it was nice" he just looked at me and then turned to his friend and started talking about how cold the water is.

what should i do? should i stilll try to talk to him or just let it go and dont talk to him! and just wait until he forgets? im so confused.
i wish i could just atleast be his friend and know him alittle more.
but its so hard.

oh and i found out other stuff he likes to do... hes a life guard and he loves the ocean.

oh! but i have made progress! i went on a missions trip and he went aswell and i heard him playing the guitar and i commented on how well he played and then i asked him who he was taking lessons from and how long hes been playing it and stuff ^_^
so thats good... but then he found out and now he wont talk. V_V

Postby **Raiden no Kishi** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 11:46 am

Well, you certainly can't make someone be your friend. I wouldn't sweat it. And your friends are in the wrong for not being respectful of feelings that you're still coming to terms with. A note about those feelings: infatuation is not the proper foundation for a relationship. Just be interested in someone as a person.

Take it easy. ^_~

.rai//

Postby **Mr. SmartyPants** » Thu Jul 13, 2006 12:52 pm

The dude definately feels awkward around you. Because your friends babbled it out to him (highly disrespectful of them might I add) yes there is more tension.

Try not to engage him in a romantic sense. But in a more friendly manner.

I dunno much advice -o- sorry

Postby **fairyprincess90** » Mon Jul 31, 2006 6:26 pm

he really is avoiding me so right now im just not doing anything.
why are guys so wierd?

like if ur a guy answer this...

if u knew a girl liked u and u didnt like her what would u do?

and answer this...

if u knew a girl liked u and u DID like her what would u do?

thanx for ur help

Postby **Sammy Boy** » Tue Aug 01, 2006 7:31 am

It could be because this guy doesn't know how to handle his feelings for you. He is not mentally and emotionally equipped / mature at this stage in his life to sort those things out.

Or it could be he is trying to tell you that he doesn't want to relate to you in a romantic way, but in which case he seems to be going about it in a most unfriendly and hurtful manner (by ignoring you).

I am just guessing here as I don't know you both personally.

Postby **Silent Hunter** » Tue Aug 01, 2006 7:49 am

ya, if he's shy already, then something like this is even harder for him to handle than just making a new friend. esp. since he didn't even hear it from your mouth. he probably isn't even completely sure if you like him. It might even be a good idea just to tell him yourself that you like him, if you can get in a word without him ignoring you. at least he wouldn't still be wondering if what your friends told him was true

answer to qu. 1. Honestly, there's this girl who i think likes me(and I don't like her) and I kinda avoid her.. a little. but I still talk to her, cuz she's still a friend and all

answer to qu. 2. I'd probably talk with her, tease her, look like a dork

i'm not gonna be a whole lot of help in this area, but that's my 2cents worth just in case

Postby **Warrior 4 Jesus** » Tue Aug 01, 2006 7:52 am

Just politely tell them that you don't like them in that way. Be direct, none of this 'beating around the bush' that many girls seem to enjoy. Us guys like to be told the truth.

Postby **fairyprincess90** » Thu Aug 03, 2006 6:27 pm

yeah thanks guys!
im kinda not talking to him or making any moves, just chillin and stuff...
and i'd rather just be his friend... im not all into the lets go out even though we just met type thing... im interested in him and i'd like to be his friend so i could know him more... so yeah. im not all... OH MY GOSH HES SO CUTE!
type thing... lol
but yeah im trying to be his friend and i feel really awkward around him now that i know he knows and like i already felt akward around him in the first place cuz im not sure how to act... i dont wanna come across as flirty and stuff but yet i wanna talk to him! so im kinda confused...
but yeah... im not looking to make him my boyfriend i just wanna get to know him better...
so yeah

enough of my talking... lol

Postby **Knives** » Mon Aug 07, 2006 10:45 am

Nevermind, I think you have enough advice?

Postby **fairyprincess90** » Mon Oct 02, 2006 5:42 pm

i've been talking to him alittle! and hes really nice... and really outgoing if you get to know him.. i dont talk to him a whole ton but we both like the same music so i asked him the other day if he had this one cd and if he did if i could borrow it. he said he'll see if he could get it for me... and then!!! ^_^
this one youth group night... i went early to sit through the band practice because my good friend plays the piano and grant plays the guitar... its like our youth group band or whatever.
so anyways.
i went early and the lead singer never showed up.... so grant asked me to sing! and then people kept telling us how good we sounded together and he told me my voice was amazing and he smiled at me and i know im a dork but i was soooo happy! so yeah. i talked to him alittle about guitar and such and things are looking good! thanks for all your advice! i really really appreciate it!
here are some pictures of him!

Postby **fairyprincess90** » Thu Oct 19, 2006 9:56 am

i swear i give up!
like we were doing better..... now he doesnt even say hi to me anymore!
i went over his house because his brother broke his wrist so i was like there to tell his brother ya know... get well and all that... and i went with two of my other friends, josh and his sister janelle and like i walked in cuz grant like answered the door and he didnt even look at me never said hi... just started talking to josh and then the rest of the time i was there him and josh were in a different room so me and janelle talked to grants brother ben and his mom.
but like... hes been like that lately... just kinda avioding me and stuff and i get so mad! cuz its like i'm trying! and nothing is working......!!!
i'm just so discouraged..
if you have any tips i'd appreciate it...
and i'd appreciate your prayer too.
because i've been very down lately.

Postby **Puritan** » Thu Oct 19, 2006 2:51 pm

I wouldn't take it too hard. To be honest, there are a number of reasons why he may be avoiding you, and one of them is that he may like you and feel nervous (although it is possible that he isn't interested either). Trust me, many guys have trouble functioning correctly around girls they like, so I wouldn't let his avoidance worry you. Now, I wouldn't make a pest of yourself and I would be careful to leave him alone if it become clear he isn't interested in doing things with you (and I know that it is probably quite annoying for him to avoid you) but I wouldn't give up, give him time to come around. It may take awhile for you to figure out exactly what he's thinking, but his avoiding you doesn't indicate lack of interest, it sounds pretty normal for a guy his age no matter what he's feeling.

Postby **Ryupower** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 3:07 pm

is he Christian?
Ooooh...shy guy...me likes shy guys....

Postby **Raiden no Kishi** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 4:12 pm

fairyprincess90 wrote:he really is avoiding me so right now im just not doing anything.
why are guys so wierd?

like if ur a guy answer this...

if u knew a girl liked u and u didnt like her what would u do?

and answer this...

if u knew a girl liked u and u DID like her what would u do?

thanx for ur help

1. Guys are different, not weird. Our minds work differently than yours. This is the foundational truth you will have to understand in order to work with them. The reverse applies to us. ^_^

2. If I knew a girl liked me and I didn't like her, what would I do? I wouldn't know if there was a proper response, and thus I would not address the problem, not wishing to make it worse by my actions. This is likely what HE is doing too. It's likely an awkward situation for him. When you talk to him, he is probably unsure if you are interested in him honestly as a person or because of a crush. There is plenty of logic behind his actions. We men aren't psychic, you know!

3. If I knew a girl liked me and I did like her, what would I do? I'd be one dang happy Rai, that I would. XD But I would just treat her as a friend until I was certain it was more than a silly teenage infatuation [which is all too common].

.rai//

Postby **fairyprincess90** » Fri Oct 20, 2006 7:03 pm

Ryupower, yes he is christian

and

Raiden no Kishi, thank you for giving me your answers to my questions it helps.

and thanks everyone for praying!

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