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Postby Tigerchu » Sun Jul 30, 2006 4:19 am

Umm, this is a real subject matter, and it might help me if I get it out and ask others if they feel the same way:

Is there anyone else who hates peer pressure? Like they were pushed around when they were younger and now they just DesPISE it? LIke the FEEL like pulverizing who ever if peer pressuring some one else or themselves, but due to any reason there might be, you don't pulverize them(be it societies rules, Christianity, or your own morals)?

And who else out there has been picked on but they couldn't do anything about it, they wanted to trash the other person, but didn't allow themselves to?

Yeah, and also, anyone else out there that once they get reminded about how much they dislike peer pressure, that hatred gets pushed onto "hating of general society"?
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I've recently been learning that I don't need to be "loud and pushy" to Evangelize; just living it out is enough witness. The problem was that I grew up around strong Evangelists (Korean Christians) and they were really into getting people involved and setting out to Evangelize, and me being a a yes-man (or yes woman) I was into trying to convert people.
I've been learning this lesson over the years, but have been trying to be pushy. Now I'm trying to ease off.
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Postby Sammy Boy » Sun Jul 30, 2006 4:58 am

Hi, I am not sure if I understand you correctly.

I recall being expected from some friends to conform to how other students behaved and spoke. I later found out that real friends don't do that to you.

I was also physically assaulted by some other students simply because they were mean and I was not very big nor popular.

I learnt to protect myself by not disclosing myself or being open with others. I also learnt to entertain myself by reading books as I didn't have any friends for most of my high school years. I knew that not everyone out there were mean, and things got better and better when I became a Christian and started going to church more often and getting to know other brothers and sisters.

There were times I felt like lashing out at those who picked on me, and I used to wonder whether I would "have my revenge" if I met them in person now. Probably not, because it's just not something that I think could be of benefit to anyone.

That's what I think...
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Postby Tigerchu » Sun Jul 30, 2006 11:03 pm

Oh. I had a friend problem, too. I was Christian from a very young age, but recently(past year MAYBE) I think I started getting into it deeper.

My question is asking basically if anyone feels the same way I do:

I hate peer pressure, when others tell you to do what they do or you won't fit in. I was pressured, I said no, and I was tormented. Now when I hear that someone was peer pressured or picked on when they were little, I get hatred.

At times I get so mad now a days that I fight the urge to pulverize who ever was peer pressuring, or say negative stuff, like "retarded", and how much I hate them.
Have faith
-From somewhere in the Bible, and I agree with it

-God will only give you what you can take. He will not overwhelm you.
-From somewhere in the Bible

-Your faith becomes stronger when it's tested.
-I saw a Chinese guy with a cross on his restaurant desk in America. That's so cool. You can do that here. Not so much China.

I've recently been learning that I don't need to be "loud and pushy" to Evangelize; just living it out is enough witness. The problem was that I grew up around strong Evangelists (Korean Christians) and they were really into getting people involved and setting out to Evangelize, and me being a a yes-man (or yes woman) I was into trying to convert people.
I've been learning this lesson over the years, but have been trying to be pushy. Now I'm trying to ease off.
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Postby Slater » Mon Jul 31, 2006 3:50 am

Pere pressure can be bad, definitly. It can kill, even. It can breed new bad habits, cause you to do stupid things to be "cool" and just be plain rotten. The way to beat it is just ask yourself... Is this really what I want to do?
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Postby termyt » Mon Jul 31, 2006 6:53 am

Peer pressure isn't all bad. The negative effects are felt especially in high school, but negative peer pressure exists every where.

But there's positive peer pressure, too. Basically, any type of influence to do something or act some way that comes from people within your own age, economic, social, or work group is peer pressure. So, if you tell a friend not to do drugs or hire that prostitute, you are inflicting peer pressure on that friend.

But, to answer your question, I hate it when peer pressure is used to try to force someone into doing something that is either wrong or they simply aren’t ready for.
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Postby Puguni » Mon Jul 31, 2006 7:14 am

termyt wrote:Peer pressure isn't all bad. The negative effects are felt especially in high school, but negative peer pressure exists every where.

But there's positive peer pressure, too. Basically, any type of influence to do something or act some way that comes from people within your own age, economic, social, or work group is peer pressure. So, if you tell a friend not to do drugs or hire that prostitute, you are inflicting peer pressure on that friend.


Yes! I remember I was peer pressured to go to church at summer camp. :]

But high school peer pressure can be the worst. Many students are pressured to have girlfriends and boyfriends, but it's dumb; soon you get convinced that you wanted a boyfriend/girlfriend in the first place. :shake:
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Postby Cap'n Nick » Mon Jul 31, 2006 8:29 am

Earlier this year my peers pressured me into donating blood. It was something I had been thinking about for a long time but without that added push I doubt I would have gone through with it when I did.
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