Not going to PROM

[Linksquest]

I'm not going to my Senior Prom and many of my friends are making a big deal about it. Is it really a sin not to go to your senior prom? I just wouldn't get that much out of it. I can't dance, and I have no one to go with. I just think, in my case, it would be a waste of time and money. We are having a Senior Picnic in a week and will all be able to chat and have a good time there. I think the Prom is more of an excuse for the girls to dress up in pretty clothes.

What are your opinions?

EDIT: by the way... is the word "prom" an abbreviate for something... what does it mean?

[Mr. SmartyPants]

I didn't go to my junior prom. I guess I would of been okay if I went. Could of brought a friend, could of talkedon the boat's deck and stuff. No way am I going to dance XD (MSP is single)

I may go to my senior one

Actually, my ideal prom is just going with a significant other (providing I have one XD) just the two of us. Somewhere... or something... I dunno

Proms are overrated

[Syreth]

I didn't go to my prom and I don't regret it. I had a girlfriend at the time, but she couldn't make it and we broke up shortly after. I think it would have made the situation altogether more painful. x_x The whole idea of highschool dances doesn't really appeal to me. I went to a few, but it wasn't really worth it.

Of course, it just depends on the type of person you are and why you go.

[Steeltemplar]

I'm not going to my Senior Prom and many of my friends are making a big deal about it. Is it really a sin not to go to your senior prom? I just wouldn't get that much out of it. I can't dance, and I have no one to go with. I just think, in my case, it would be a waste of time and money. We are having a Senior Picnic in a week and will all be able to chat and have a good time there. I think the Prom is more of an excuse for the girls to dress up in pretty clothes.

What are your opinions?

EDIT: by the way... is the word "prom" an abbreviate for something... what does it mean?

If it doesn't appeal to you, don't go. While the senior prom may be a highlight for some, I think that it shall hardly be a significant matter if you do not attend. As you point out with the picnic, there shall certainly be other occasions for you to socialize with your friends.

[Tarnish]

I'd rather be spending the time playing an FPS...pretending the enemies are all classmates.

Mmm...^^

*ahem* Yes...anyway. The whole idea seems like a waste of time to me, anyway. But I've never really been into the whole "being-in-a-crowd-of-people-I-don't-know-or-care-about-doing-next-to-nothing-hoping-the-drinks-aren't-spiked-" thing. But that's just me..

[Tenshi no Ai]

Prom? What's that? Here in my town we've had dances in middle school and a couple in high school (which I, nor did anyone really go to) but never a formal dressy dance thing :/ Even when we gradded we had a "dry grad" where we just got out diplomas all dressed up, and then changed into our regular clothes and ate food and played games all night :/ Nor freshman, nor sophmore, no senior have we ever had some sort of formal. Although in gr 9 we had a banquet and a dance afterwards. Of course every time I say "dance" I mean dress up a little and watch music videos off tv to dance too :/ No waltzing but only slow dancing :/

Of course this year's grad bunch will be getting a prom... first I've heard since... well not sure when the last time this town had a prom^^

So that's my experiences... :/

[Raiden no Kishi]

To answer your question, no. It shouldn't be a big deal if you don't go to the prom. Why should it be? Your friends should respect your choice and get over it.

~ I think "prom" is short for "promenade", but I have been oft wrong before.

.rai//

[Bobtheduck]

I was given a choice: Prom or Grad night... I chose grad night (I mean, it was disneyland) In retrospect, I wish I had chosen differently... Mostly because i got separated from my school at Disneyland so I spent the night alone... Disneyland is a horrible place to be by yourself...

I had another chance to go to one, with my ex-GF to her prom, but I think I was on internship when she had her prom, so I didn't get to go. Then, I was invited to a prom during my internship (at a church) and I had two people i could have asked for permission. One of them, the one I was living with, would have said yes. The other one was a rediculously conservative angry man, and got offended that I'd even suggest such a thing... Going to a dance (that was just for fun, really) during my internship... *sigh* I actually tried to call the nicer one first, but he wasn't there...

3 chances, all blown. Once by me, once by location, and once by a guy who really needed to get the stick out of his digestive system...

I've gone dancing since then (the kind where you switch partners, not one where I was just with one girl), but I still have not ever been on a date...

[ShiroiHikari]

I went to my junior prom. I wish I hadn't, it was a waste of 200 bucks. I skipped out on senior prom.

[Cap'n Nick]

I'd recommend going. It may not be all that great, but it's just one of those things that might give you a lot of "what ifs" when you're 35. Plus, if you do it right it can be a lot of fun. No girlfriend? No problem! Going with a girl that's just your friend is perfectly acceptable and can still be a lot of fun. After all, if the prom's just a glorified mating ritual then it's not worth your time. Dancing isn't an issue, either. Only a handful of people actually know how to dance. The vast majority will just be out there having seizures. So, find some fun people, prance around in your fancy pants and have a good time!

[Radical Dreamer]

Well, first off, Raiden is right--Prom is short for promenade, which...has something to do with dancing. Anyways. XD

I went to my Prom this year, the main reason being that I was the music coordinator, and I wanted to hear the fruits of my labor. XD Other than that, though, I just thought it would be a fun time with my friends. I go to a very small private school, and there were probably only about 50 people at my prom this year (plus or minus a few, maybe). I know everyone pretty well, and even though I didn't bring a date, I still had an awesome time! I wouldn't say prom is totally pointless, though...Maybe it's just because my school is so small, but I see it as a great chance to sort of get to know your fellow juniors and/or seniors a little better.

I think the Prom is more of an excuse for the girls to dress up in pretty clothes.

And there's something wrong with that?

[Rogie]

I'd recommend going. It may not be all that great, but it's just one of those things that might give you a lot of "what ifs" when you're 35. Plus, if you do it right it can be a lot of fun. No girlfriend? No problem! Going with a girl that's just your friend is perfectly acceptable and can still be a lot of fun. After all, if the prom's just a glorified mating ritual then it's not worth your time. Dancing isn't an issue, either. Only a handful of people actually know how to dance. The vast majority will just be out there having seizures. So, find some fun people, prance around in your fancy pants and have a good time!

Exactly. I went to my junior prom with a girl who wanted to date me. Although the relationship never worked out, she did encourage me to dance, and we had a great time. We also double-dated; going with another couple makes the night so much more fun because there aren't any uncomfortable silences, and so the night is just a memorable bit of fun.

For my senior prom, I went with a good friend and had an even better time. If you can get the courage to get out there and dance to both the fast and slow songs, then you can have a blast. I'm the type of person who really enjoys dancing because of my proms (and many other high school dances in-between).

I would advise you to try one and see what you think. You won't know unless you experience it. Be adventurous!

[JadePanther]

As a 21 year old guy who went to both his junior and senior proms, I can most definately tell you that they're all a big waste of money. The only reason people have them is to let the popular kids get their egos inflated one last time...

[Sakaki Onsei]

Savor your youth while you still have it. If you boycott Prom, make certain you have others to boycott it with. And have a great time doing it.

[Puritan]

For what it's worth, I went to prom and enjoyed it, and I wasn't at all popular. I didn't have a girlfriend so I went with a friend of mine, and I enjoyed dancing. The highlight of the night was when we got to polka! If you like dancing (and I think it's pretty fun) or enjoy that type of socializing, I'd suggest going. If you really dislike that type of thing it can be a waste of money, so it really comes down to what you like or not. I would tend toward going because this is your last chance to see a prom, and you never know whether you will like it or not until you've tried it.

[ChristianKitsune]

I had more fun at my Junior prom than my senior prom, but I don't regret going to either. (hey I got a 250 dollar scholarship at after prom ^^)

In my honest opinion, going to prom was a great decision it's one of those memories I will try to never forget! ^^ I had a blast...and it was fun watching others dance...a bit sad too since I was the only wall flower..but still I didn't regret going.

[Omega Amen]

Linksquest, I did not go to any prom in my life. I do not regret my decision. I was reallly unhappy and upset with my class and my school administration with several events and decisions that came to pass during my stay there. At that time, I did not feel it was right for me to implicitly endorse their actions by particpating in activities that were not necessary for my degree. I did not even attend my high school graduation ceremony.

Of course, I do consider my personality and my situation a special case. A lot of people get joy out of socializing with one another (I really do not) and have a pleasant sense of nostalgia of their high school years (which I do not) that culminates in the tradition of a prom. So, if you are the type of person who likes to be around your friends in a socializing environment, and you will also like to cherish your pleasant high school experience one last time, then I suggest you seriously consider going. If you do, do realize you do not have to take a woman with you. You can always be the well-dressed and charming single man and create a whole lot of envy everywhere.

Is it really a sin not to go to your senior prom?

No.

[Mr. SmartyPants]

I was reallly unhappy and upset with my class and my school administration with several events and decisions that came to pass during my stay there. At that time, I did not feel it was right for me to implicitly endorse their actions by particpating in activities that were not necessary for my degree. I did not even attend my high school graduation ceremony.

I feel that I am in your shoes Omega Amen. I do not know if I neve want to go to my graduation ceremony next year.

[Cognitive Gear]

I wnet to my senior prom, and honestly, I think it was a waste of time and money.

Although it may have something to do with the girl I went with showing her true colors a few months later, but that's a different story....

I certainly don't tink you are missing out on anything... other than having a few hundred bucks out of pocket.

[KhakiBlueSocks]

Everyone in my family went to their senior proms except me. I just didn't feel like going. I'm not the real out going, social type, and it would have just been a waste of money because I didn't have anyone to ask out. I really think the whole "Prom" thing was made up just to make money for the school. IMHO, it doesn't serve a real useful purpose.

[White Raven]

I didn’t go it a prom.
I wouldn’t count it on my list of regrets.

In my opinion, you should be able to live a full, and happy life without going to the prom.

prom >noun informal 1 Brit. short for promenade (in sense 1). 2 Brit. a promenade concert. 3 N. Amer. a formal dance, especially one at a high school or college.

[LorentzForce]

If you go to prom thinking it'll suck, it will. If you however, like me, go to the prom thinking it'll be completely awesome and full of fun, then it will.

I had no date for the night, nor did I have the grandest suit, nor can I dance nor am I the most popular. But I went, got together with all my friends, and had a lot of fun. Good food, good music, and just a whole night of fun that'll probably never ever happen again. A nice memory to keep.

If you really don't want to go and feel like it's a waste of money, it's your choice. But I'd go to it anyway for the heck of it, because you never know.

[TurkishMonky]

i didn't go to any of my high school proms. Even thogh i was homeschooled, the homeshool group had proms, but it just looked like a waste of money to me.

[blkmage]

I had no date for the night, nor did I have the grandest suit, nor can I dance nor am I the most popular. But I went, got together with all my friends, and had a lot of fun. Good food, good music, and just a whole night of fun that'll probably never ever happen again. A nice memory to keep.

Exactly. I'm going, but I don't care enough to drop loads of money on other things for prom. I'm just going with my friends and have fun.

[Kkun]

I'd say just go ahead and go for it and have a good time. I was home schooled, but I did end up getting to go to a prom (albeit it was a year after I had finished high school and it wasn't "my" prom) and it was a lot of fun. I'd say that you should just go and jam the heck out, man. Just have fun with it. If you make it out to be bad, then it will be.

Is there anything wrong with not going to the prom? Not at all. But, I think you'd have a good time!

[zelda]

I think you should go to the prom. yes, it can be a waste of time, but prom only happens once(I don't count junior prom!). it's your chioce, but i'd encourage you to go.

[mastersquirrel]

I didn't go to prom, mainly because it seemed to me just like I was going to spend a lot of money to go hang out with my friends when I could do that for free.

[Mithrandir]

I didn't go to mine. I think our church had a beach vacation trip that I went on instead.

I don't really feel like I missed anything, and I don't ever think about it. Honestly, I don't think people are going to spend much time thinking about high school later on in life. College, maybe, but not HS.

At least, I would hope so...

[Uriah]

Blech.. Proms are pointless. I'm homeschooled anyways, and the only person I would ever go to one with probably wouldn't enjoy them either.

[Puguni]

I'm going to my prom. I like the idea of dressing up. Heck! Who needs a date? I think next year, me and my buddies plan to have a dinner before the prom. Homecoming dinner this year was a blast.

But of course, there are also other fabulous alternatives to prom. At my old school, there was the anti-prom, where you hung out. You weren't allowed to have dates, and I think they played video games, and fought with toy light sabres on wheely chairs. XD I would have gone to that one.

This year I'm going to something my friends made up. It's called morp, where everything is backwards. The girls wear guy clothes, and the guys get to wear frilly things. I think one person is bringing a kilt. XD