GhostontheNet wrote:May I ask if you have anything particularly in mind that my Christian brothers and sisters might stumble in some way for gothic dress?
Certainly. Someone who was involved in a non-Christian gothic or pseudo-gothic scene that involved drug use, witchcraft, or the like might think that a Christian wearing gothic clothes is supporting these ideas, similarly to how former pagans might think Christians eating meat sacrificed to idols were supporting pagan beliefs. Also, children, teens, or young Christians who see or look up to a Christian dressed like this could also see this manner of dress as supporting the bad elements of gothic or pseudo-gothic culture depending on their experience with the person wearing gothic dress and their upbringing or experience. However, I am not trying to say that this type of thing is a certainty or a reason for people not to wear gothic dress, I simply wish to point out that everyone, no matter what they wear, should watch what they do and how it affects those around them. Christians are all at different points in their walk, and sometimes things which are not wrong can cause certain Christians to stumble becuase they are struggling with a related issue. Each of us should be cautious so that we do not cause others to stumble by our actions.
GhostontheNet wrote:May I ask if you have any advice for what to do when others bring controversy to you, or how to make changes within a church on things that are in error without the all-too-typical infightings and schisms for every dispute
I find that focus on the core of the gospel helps immensely. For example, I am currently the housefellow of a Christian house on campus which brings together people from many different parts of the church and widely varying theological backgrounds. As you can imagine, the potential for religious debate is practically endless. However, we get along quite well, even in the midst of debate, because our focus is the core of the gospel and we are all committed to the gospel and to Christ. That's not to say any of us have necessarily changed our theological views, simply that we are willing to discuss our views politely and try to understand each other rather than forming divisions in the house. While there are issues that we will likely always disagree on, I find that simply being willing to discuss things in a logical and polite manner helps tremendously, and a willingness to understand the other person's position helps too. Also, being willing to not debate topics of interest because you know the debate will only cause trouble is an extremely important thing as well. My best friend in my house and I differ on a number of issues that we could argue about for years (most of the issues have been argued about for centuries), but we both focus on Christ and the gospel so we have a common ground that allows us to be good brothers in Christ. Life in community is all about being polite and willing to work through differences, and life in the Church is no different.