Mangafanatic wrote:I've seen this scenario play out, and it does stink. I'm very sorry you're having to struggle with it.
If you were really serious about "how to get over stupid little crushes", I do have a few tips that I've had to use on myself many a time. They're 63% effective in my experience. Well. . . not really, but the statistics sounded good. XD
First, don't indulge the feelings of being wounded. A lot of girls, after being hurt this way, find book and songs that feature feelings like their own, and they completely submerge themselves in their angst and anger. It doesn't help. If you have a song that makes you want to shout "All men are scum bags" from the roof tops-- don't listen to it. Refusing to do what feels natural here is going to help you more than I can even say.
Next, if you don't think the relationship is going to work out, consider letting it go. If you're sure it's not going to work out, decide to let it go. I know you can't turn off your feelings, but you can short cut the effects of those feelings. You know, don't try your first name with his last name anymore. That kind of stuff. Don't let your heart strings get tangled up when you can see the knots starting to form. I had a "would-be-relationship" that I had to fight against for quite some time. Ever so often, my mind would start straying to him, and I would tell myself "No, I'm not going there." The more I did it, the less and less the temptation presented itself. After a while, I could actually come to terms with the whole situation and I could get on with my life.
That's my two yen.
ChristianRonin wrote:It's not like I am UBER sad. To be honest, a part of me is relieved..I wasn't sure about his relationship with Christ.
Mr. SmartyPants wrote:That is always definately the most important aspects of things. Don't keep your expectations low. Keep them waaaaay high. Because God, with all his powers and awesomeness and such, will exceed your expectations by miles.
Mr. SmartyPants wrote:That is always definately the most important aspects of things. Don't keep your expectations low. Keep them waaaaay high. Because God, with all his powers and awesomeness and such, will exceed your expectations by miles.
FadedOne wrote:lol, something like that. I used to have a crush on this sweet guy friend. Unfortunately it was very unmutual and rather he was in love with my good friend! LoL so yea, life can be interesting. however, they're getting married in a few months and enough time has passed that i dont care anymore. it makes me happy
another frurstrating thing is when guy friends decide that they want to ask their girl friends for romance ADVICE. I tell you, the male species has rocks for brains sometimes! (especially if said guy KNOWS you like him, and yet insists on asking advice anyway. *shakes head*
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