Why would you get married?!

[Kenshin17]

3. Because I am male hear me roar.

Amen brother

For me I want to get married for love. I want to find a beautiful christian girl to love and cherish (not to mention spoil ) forever. She is gonna be my pride and joy.

I really don't mind if God gives me children or not. If he does then praise him I hope I get lots of little blessings. If not then I get a beautiful girl to spend the rest of my life with.

Its win win the way I see it.

Anyway I want to marry for love, and I believe God will give me a girl thats perfect for me.

[CDLviking]

For anyone who might have misread what I said,I was speaking hypothetically as
No I have not converted to Catholicism and No I am not in a monastary although
at times it feels like it!

I, on the other hand, am in a monastery, but I'm not a monk. haha

[Kharl]

Kinda hard. Let's see here....

1.Because I'd eventually get bored living alone in an apartment.
2.Because I'm so bad at cooking that I can't make a tuna & lettuce sandwich on rye..(I like the tuna a little warm, and I like my bread toasted.)
3.Because I'm not getting any younger, and if I want any pipsqueak kids runing around tugging at my pants I'd better make a decision.

I can't believe that for five years I vowed to be a bachelor....

Stupid hormones(I'm kidding).

[Kaligraphic]

I would want a wife to set over my house, and a son to carry my name and avenge my death should I be slain by my enemies.

You know, that thought is actually making me consider having kids.

You know, that's a bit fast, I've only met you once

But more seriously, you want to adopt a kid to revenge your death?

Sweet.

[Fsiphskilm]

Pers

[Lochaber Axe]

To help make the world a more good-kind-of-insane place...

I have many mixed emotions about it, one is a tremendous sense of impatience when alone, another is the die-hard stubborness not to make the same mistake my parents made, and the last is a mixture of the two.

It is hard to see couples walking hand-in-hand when you are sitting on a bench by yourself.

[Azier the Swordsman]

I have split personalities on this one. Most of the time I simply don't care. Actually, I feel much the same as UC. I don't want to ever bother. But every now and then I wake up in a lonely depressed state which can last for up to a week were I really, really, want to find somebody. But I have yet to meet any girl that could "complete" me. Ultimately, I have no clue where I will eventually end up.

[~Natsumi Lam~]

I have split personalities on this one. Most of the time I simply don't care. Actually, I feel much the same as UC. I don't want to ever bother. But every now and then I wake up in a lonely depressed state which can last for up to a week were I really, really, want to find somebody. But I have yet to meet any girl that could "complete" me. Ultimately, I have no clue where I will eventually end up.

make sure to rebuke that depression, remember the the Enemy comes to " Steal, Kill , and distroy" you and all aspects of you. Your depression can only get worse. Dont worry, God has it handled!!! Take a breather and dont worry so much. Just lean on Him right now.

~NL~

[Bobtheduck]

Ok... I really want marriage. I have a line of Cafépress items that say quite clearly "Will work for Marriage, 7 years if need be."

I want a companion. I want someone I can reveal myself to entirely, someone who will do the same. I want physical touch, I don't think that's a wrong desire. I'm not even talking about sex, just close intimate touch. Even outside of romantic relationships. One of my favorite things in the world is for my mom (or another motherly figure) to play with my hair and scratch my head and my back, and I'm 23. I like physical touch, and I really want that comfort which I can't really get anymore. Of course, that's just part of a very large picture.

I want someone who I will be commited to completely, and vice versa, to work towards our visions together and work on our problems together. I want someone to share my entire life with, who will be honest about me and her and everything she sees and does as well.

I don't have that right now. I'm waiting for God to supply, I'm going through changes to make sure I'm fit for her, and I'm praying that God is working things in her so that she's ready. I've given up a lot because I want God to be calling the shots. I don't want the process to be slowed down by me trying to do it all myself anymore... OF course, I know I still try to take control, but I also stop myself...

I am also praying that God can make me content with being single while he has me that way.

[mitsuki lover]

I know the type of girl I want to marry.In general she's the Kagome-Yuki
Saiko-Belldandy-Kes-Mitsuki-Winry-Penny Robinson-Lafiel type of girl.

[shooraijin]

This Kagome thing ... you wouldn't say you're a little obsessed or anything, would you?

[bakura_fan]

Well, I'd marry because I love the guy and we both know that we are for each other in God's eyes and that He has brought us together for a special reason.
My guy and me want to get married ASAP....;-; but cause he just started college in Maine he has roughly 5 years to go...and I'm going in the Air Force....so...it all depends on when God puts it on his heart to propose officially (ring and all) on whether we marry in (roughly) 2 years(while i'm in air force, he in college) to 5 years or more.(he's done with college) *sigh* ;-; I miss my micah.

[TheMelodyMaker]

I read a saying once somewhere, though I can't recall exactly where from, that went something like this:

"Don't marry someone you can live with. Marry someone whom you can't live without."

[Kaligraphic]

"Don't marry someone you can live with. Marry someone whom you can't live without."

Like an EMT

[dragonshimmer]

"Don't marry someone you can live with. Marry someone whom you can't live without."

<3

: ) Exactly.

[Qwilek88]

I would get married for the following reasons:
1)If it was God's will for my life.
2)I love the man and could see him being the lead and my best friend
3)I really want to be a mom.
That are my reasons. Still, I can't imagine myself getting married so it is irrelevant to me. If not, I want to be a wedding planner still! I love weddings, apple cider all around!

[mitsuki lover]

Well as far as Kagome goes,partly it probably is a bit obssessive then again
you could say the same thing about Koga's interest in Kagome.However if
you would note I also am just as obsessive about say Flay.Overall though
Kagome is the TYPE of girl that I would love to marry.

[IZ&Trigun4life]

I have a fear of physical intimacy....I find it repulsive, and well If you're married that happens...often, so I do not want to get married. It would be nice to find someone to marry and not be intimate with, but unfortunatly thats almost impossible, because like someone said much earlier, not many are blessed with the ability to remain celebate.

But on the other hand, I'm not sure whether or not I want to have children, again the intimacy issue. I could artifically insemate myself.....but I don't like the idea of carrying the child of a man whose face I could not recognize if he stood in front of me. So beasically God must have MAJOR plans for my life, for I will not be distracted by married life.

[dragonshimmer]

I have a fear of physical intimacy....I find it repulsive, and well If you're married that happens...often, so I do not want to get married. It would be nice to find someone to marry and not be intimate with, but unfortunatly thats almost impossible, because like someone said much earlier, not many are blessed with the ability to remain celebate.

This might be a bit off topic, but I wanted to comment on this n_n

You're only fifteen, miss. That's not unnatural to feel that way.

In fact, I had a fear of physical intimacy until about a year ago. I also found it repulsive. I think perhaps there's a reason that some people feel that way for periods of time, whether it's something personal or God gives you the feeling for a time to keep you in check. For me, it was probably the latter.

[That Dude]

Actually I really don't care much either way. If God wants me to get married to someone than that's great but if not I could pretty easily live single my whole life. The main reason why I'd want to get married is companionship...But on the flipside I can have a wonderfull David/Jonathan friendship with a guy and be content with that. So yeah...I'm not looking for anybody to marry but I wouldn't abject if God kinda placed a girl in my way for me to marry.

[Jaltus-bot]

The father in Captain Corelli's Mandolin said about love:

When you fall in love, it is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake, and then it subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots are become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.

I want to know what it is like to love someone like that. I want to meet some wonderful God-fearing Christian man and know what it is like to fall in love with him and care some much for each other that our lives begin to grow around each other. I want someone to share my life with, my thoughts and memories and who I can believe in to make a difference in others lives and I could support him in that. The man I marry would have to bea man who can share my sense of certain things in life and he would have to be a great man. I Want to do a lot in my life and I really want to make a big difference in some way or another to change something, but I cannot truly imagine myself as a fifty or forty year old woman who has never married.

I don't feel motherly. I want to learn to take care of things, but I feel like if I was handed a baby, I would feel like "*blank distant puzzled look* what do I do with it?" but probably would do my best not to let on quite how much. The idea of babies coming out of me is something that has seemed weird or something and so is something that I've always put off really thing about. I always figured that would change later, but I still sort of feel that way at almost 22 though I don't quite want to part with the image of having children someday. I would not necessarily mind adpting children or being a foster mother to children because then I could give a loving, Christian and good home to children who didn't come from good homes and even if only for a time, that is important for them to have. Whether somewhere in life I have my own children I shall not say, but that is as I see it now.

[SailorDove]

Why get married?

So you can join the brotherhood of married men who weekly sneak away from their wives and grip and complain about the horrid hell they've entered, being tied 24/7 to that ball and chain.

:: CAA girls bear their teeth and aim their swords::

Err....actually marriage is cool. But I want to be the best man at my friends' marriages so I can have fun. Be the one guy who helps lightens things up. Hey, what man wouldn't want their crazy (and funny) best friend there when the entire wedding falls apart (groom and groomsmen oversleep from their wild bachelor party getting lost in the woods while rapelling, so they end up leaping into their buddy's jeep and speeding down the highway at 150 mph with cops in hot pursuit. What started as a normal wedding turns into something out of the Blues Brothers as the entire wedding party watches the news as the Jeep leads the cops on a high speed chase, with all the guys trying to change into their tuxes DURING the chase. Throw in jumps, stunts, and crazy turns for kicks as well. After losing the cops :: or so they thought:: the groom and groomsmen crash into the chapel looking like trash, despite their tuxes :: which are now dirty::. Before the parents of the groom can hang their heads in shame, the cops lay siege to the chapel and start firing, and the fun begins again. And I would be there to fire off the funny one liners and Johnny Depp-like reactions.)

Now THAT MY FRIENDS is MY idea of a wedding!!!

Well, that and the idea I had for getting married in a football stadium, with the New England Patriots standing at attention. And when you say "I do", BLAM! The Brett Favre delivers the kick off and then begins the SUPERBOWL!

Oh yeah...

(chuckling after laughing so hard)

Don't worry I wasn't one of the teeth bearing CAA, sword pointing girls. Liked your post a lot. You are quite a Docter, "Laughter is the best Mediciene" on the Blues Brothers tie-in!

To keep this post on topic for the sake of the Mods, I'll just say this about that, "What will be, Will be." and my favoritest quote, (well, one of them, at least) "A spoonful of sugar helps the mediciene go down in the most delightful way"

Yes, I have a sweet tooth, why do you ask?

Seriously, if you really want to me down for a straight answer. Love kids, but happier beinging the "big" sister. And if I never get married, I know I'll be just fine.

Good night ur... Morning to all my CAA brothers & sisters!

[uc pseudonym]

"Don't marry someone you can live with. Marry someone whom you can't live without."

I have heard this from many married people. It is not something I feel I can relate to, but also something I think is unlikely can be explained to me.

You're only fifteen, miss. That's not unnatural to feel that way.

Do you see the irony of you making that statement? (If you don't, and I'll admit it is a bit unusual, look at your "age") That doesn't decrease the value of what you said, but it is still amusing, at least to me.

[dragonshimmer]

Do you see the irony of you making that statement? (If you don't, and I'll admit it is a bit unusual, look at your "age") That doesn't decrease the value of what you said, but it is still amusing, at least to me.

Actually, I don't, but that might be due to the fact that I'm not feeling well and am also a bit doped up on various medicines. Do you mind explaining?

UC NOTE: I'm going to explain via PM.

[Azier the Swordsman]

The only reason I would ever marry is if I met someone I knew without a doubt was my soulmate; someone I knew I could never live without. And for the feeling of being complete. It's the reason for my occasionaly depression periods; I feel like half a person. The other half is missing; and I don't know if I will ever find it. Not even sure I want to sometimes.

[mitsuki lover]

I can only think of three reasons why I wouldn't get married:
1.I die before I find Miss Right.Since we can't predict when we're going to die
that is a high possibility.
2.I convert to Catholic Church and become a monk,as I said I haven't done that
but one shouldn't put such things out of the line of possibility.Although it's more likey if I did switch churches it be either Lutheran or Episcoplian.
3.I have a sex change.I know that one is far fetched but again one never can
predict the future.

[That Dude]

I find it amusing how like %80 of the people I know say I'd make a great father and husband...And I don't really want to get married.

[RoyalWing]

Right now, I'm kindof.. scared. Because I think that CAA has so much of these threads about marriage and mushy things.

But I think I am too young to answer the question. And too confused! I have NO IDEA what I want, if I want to be married. Some of the answers in this thread are so lucky, I think, because alot of you know exactly, very strongly, what you want. Some one said "I can't think of being a single all of my life." I agree with this. But I also think maybe it would be better. Would I be a good wife? A person who could support another and be patient with everything that is wrong with them. The answer to that is a very big 'no' right now, when I see the way I simply act at school or family. I am so moody and get tired of people and things very quickly in a cruel way. This brings that, if it's possible, I'm even more confused about having children. I think it would be very sad if I had children because I would never be a good mother, and they would grow to hate me.

My conclusion, , is that if I am going to fall in love and be married and (aaahh) have a child, I am going to have to change very much very quickly, which in the end all relies on God. What does He want for me in the future? I don't know. But I think what He wants me to do now is to become a good servant, help others, study and learn hard, and decide what socks I am wearing on Monday morning.

I'm sorry for the long boring post. I don't think I even answered the question

[Ashley]

I have to say reading this thread gave me lots of warm fuzzies.

As for myself...because I've always wanted to? Seriously, my dream in life since I was a kid was always to be a godly mother and wife like my mother before me. I know quite frankly that I do NOT have the gift of singleness, and the idea of being able to open up to someone about absolutely anything in the world, to run into their arms crying and know they'll be there for you, forever...I don't know, it's just what I've always wanted in life. That sounds really selfish, but honestly, I get a great amount of joy being able to do that for my love, too.

Honestly, I've grown a lot spiritually just from dating a godly Christian guy, so I can't imagine what it would be like to be married and experience that growth on an even DEEPER level. That's also really exciting.

I've also heard that being married is like being a projector screen to your community to see God's love in a very pratical way in your life. Good, lasting, biblical marriages are so rare these days, I think being married would be a great way to be a witness to those around us, and make them ask "what's different about those two?"

Many other people, especially BobtheDuck and D-shim said exactly what I wanted to, so I won't take up much more space repeating their words. ^^

[Syaoran]

Why would I get married??? Good Question. Let me get back to this one latter on so I can think up a answer.