Would you marry an older person?

Postby **Michael** » Sat Sep 03, 2005 6:33 am

If I she were maybe a year or two older than me, I think it'd be OK. But much more and I probably wouldn't consider it. I'm not really thinking so much of romance (that's not the why you should seek a marriage), but practical marriage-wise, it'd be too wierd.

Postby **dragonshimmer** » Sat Sep 03, 2005 6:45 am

SonicRose wrote:Nahh, I wouldn't marry someone older])

Simply awesome. I'm curious...do you guys ever get raised eyebrow sort of reactions when they find out he's five years younger?

I'm partially suprised at the number of guys who seem to be uncomfortable with the idea of marrying a girl more than two years his senior. But then again, I'm partiallly not. It's something that we grow up with as being "acceptable".

I guess I'm different. Almost all of the women in my family are older than their husbands, so the idea of being attracted to/married to a guy a few years younger doesn't phase me TOO much, unless I do the whole "When I was a senior in high school he was _______" thing. I'm personally very attracted to guys who are a little younger than I am and have been known not to express much interest in men older than me. I could probably deal with someone the SAME age as me, but I don't think older. That's mainly due to the difference in interests...there aren't many 24 and up guys (around here, anyway) with the same interests that I have. If it were up to ME, I wouldn't marry someone older than I am, but it's not up to me. It's up to God. God ultimately knows the person who would make my heart melt, and I wouldn't let age get in the way of such a wonderful opportunity.

Postby **Arbre** » Sat Sep 03, 2005 8:57 am

I've always been more comfortable with the idea of dating/marrying someone at least slightly older. Even a few months younger made me feel uncomfortable. o_O

10 years? Nooooo. 1-3? Ideal.

But life doesn't always go according to plan and selfish expectations.

And that's often a very good thing.

The preference for an older guy is from wanting someone I can look up to, respect, feel safe with, and trust, I think.

But obviously people born after me can fill that role too.

Still, the stereotypes and expectations I've been surrounded by in my upbringing stay with me, even if it's only the knee-jerk first impression-type reaction to a thought.

But if I love him, and he loves me, and it's right, there's no way I'm going to refuse to date/marry someone who just happened to be born after me by a little. Life experiences mold maturity and personality more than just simple age, anyway.

The same is true for a man who's older. I *would* worry a little bit more about being alone in my last years if he was significantly older (more than 5 years), but that's about it, I think.

Postby **agasfas** » Sat Sep 03, 2005 11:07 am

Sure, I don't see why not. If there was a connection (spiritually, emotionally and etc), I have no problem. I know many married couples that have at least a 5-8year difference in age and they are still happily married after many many years.

So yeah, I would consider it.

Website · Postby **bakura_fan** » Sat Sep 03, 2005 11:25 am

hmm...only if the guy is 3 weeks and 3 days older than me. *cough*swordguy*cough*

seriously though...even before I met him I didn't really want to marry anyone with more of a five year difference ahead...or one year behind me.

Postby **Fsiphskilm** » Sat Sep 03, 2005 12:41 pm

Older poe

Postby **Mr. SmartyPants** » Sat Sep 03, 2005 12:45 pm

Volt wrote:Older poeple are usually more mature, and thus will handle problems at home in a more mature manor.

If you and your spouce get into an arguement, and your spouce is older and wise enough to understand that all relations have struggles, they'll be more open and understanding, rather than resorting to divorce right away.

In that case, I want a wife whos older than me. And at the same time I want to be older than my wife

Postby **Mithrandir** » Sat Sep 03, 2005 1:03 pm

Hmm... I don't think I would consider marrying someone that's older than me. I may just be a victim of circumstance, though.

Postby **mitsuki lover** » Sat Sep 03, 2005 1:36 pm

Only if said older woman was Amanda from Highlander! :lol:

Ok,to be serious for once,no.Although the woman I marry will end up
marrying someone 25 to 30 years older than her.I mean the way it
appears to me to be is that my best chance would be with someone
who was at least 25 years younger than me or perhaps 22 years
younger.
I don't know when I'll find Miss Right so it may be that she will be somewhere between 25 to 30 years younger.
Y'never can tell.

Postby **Lunis** » Sat Sep 03, 2005 9:24 pm

Hrrm... Does 136 years older than me count? *coughKnives-samacough* *blush*

Ahem, but anyway, to answer completely, yeah, I'd consider it. But it would have to depend on how much older.

And besides, he isn't physically 151!! ><;

Ah... Ignore me.

Postby **mitsuki lover** » Sun Sep 04, 2005 1:21 pm

My 4xs great grandmother was about 16 and my 4xs great grandfather was
around 51 when they married in 1769.That is a 34 year difference.Actually
my 4xs great grandfather was about a YEAR OLDER than his father-in-law! :lol:

Postby **Kaligraphic** » Sun Sep 04, 2005 3:56 pm

[quote="Mithrandir"]Hmm... I don't think I would consider marrying someone that's older than me. I may just be a victim of circumstance, though.

]
For the sake of your peace and quiet, I wouldn't suggest looking too broadly in the other direction, either.

But personally, I would never want to marry someone older than I am unless she's hot
Seriously, though, I would expect that I'd end up with someone a little bit younger than myself, but not too much. A little older is okay, but not as far as the other direction.

Postby **Sam*ron** » Sun Sep 04, 2005 4:00 pm

The farest I would go is a seven or eight year diff. ONLY, cause thats about how far apart my parents are.

Any older then that, NOPE.

Postby **Little T-chan** » Sun Sep 04, 2005 10:07 pm

I always thought my...guy...would be a couple years older than me. But I honestly don't know. I wish I could just meet that guy already! @.@;; Sheesh.

Postby **HikariChan** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 12:31 am

Id go as far as 5 years difference
My Boyfriends 2 years older than me XD

Postby **Kisa** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 6:05 am

sure, if that is who God brings me to.... but hopefully not like 10 years older, lol

Postby **mitsuki lover** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 4:19 pm

With God you cannot never say never ever!

Postby **Mr. SmartyPants** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 4:24 pm

mitsuki lover wrote:My 4xs great grandmother was about 16 and my 4xs great grandfather was
around 51 when they married in 1769.That is a 34 year difference.Actually
my 4xs great grandfather was about a YEAR OLDER than his father-in-law!

O.o woah.... crazy!

Postby **The Last Bard** » Mon Sep 05, 2005 5:33 pm

Yeah, I wouldn't have a problem marrying someone 3-4 years older than me. But when it gets too much above that...Well, it would depend on God and Love in both cases. So it really depends!

Postby **That Dude** » Tue Sep 06, 2005 1:16 pm

It seems like most of the girls would like to be married to someone older than them and most of the guys to gals younger than said people. Anyway for me I'd be most comfortable with someone that's about the same age as me...I'd say about four years either way. But I don't really care if I get married or not...I'd be fine with being single the rest of my life.

Postby **Kami** » Tue Sep 06, 2005 1:33 pm

Well, my parents are 5 years apart, and it doesn't make that much difference when you're older, but in High School when one person is a Junior and the other like, ...a 7th grader, that's a huge difference. I might consider being with an older person, but not too old ;3 . I like em' young and fresh. ^_^;

-Kami

Postby **AngelSakura** » Tue Sep 06, 2005 2:01 pm

Why isn't there a "Totally" option? XD I would. Definitely.

Postby **dragonshimmer** » Tue Sep 06, 2005 3:22 pm

So...are Sonic Rose and I the only 20+ age ranged women who wouldn't mind dating someone younger? Interesting...once again I find myself in a minority, lol.

Postby **Azier the Swordsman** » Tue Sep 06, 2005 3:35 pm

I'm not really picky on the subject. I actually wouldn't mind someone older or younger than me.

Of course, if God's involved, and it's true love, it's destiny either way.

Website · Postby **Alice** » Tue Sep 06, 2005 3:37 pm

dragonshimmer wrote: So...are Sonic Rose and I the only 20+ age ranged women who wouldn't mind dating someone younger? Interesting...once again I find myself in a minority, lol.

Maybe you should start a thread about that?

Postby **Azier the Swordsman** » Tue Sep 06, 2005 3:45 pm

If you like younger guys.... I'm still single.....

*hint* *hint*

Postby **dragonshimmer** » Tue Sep 06, 2005 5:30 pm

Azier the Swordsman wrote:If you like younger guys.... I'm still single.....

*hint* *hint* ]

Oh my...

Alice wrote:Maybe you should start a thread about that?

You know...I think I might do that...now I'm dangerously curious.

Postby **Roy Mustang** » Tue Sep 06, 2005 5:34 pm

I would marry someone that is five years younger or five years old.

Wingzero22

Postby **the_lizardqueen** » Tue Sep 06, 2005 5:39 pm

Eh, I have the disturbing habit of crushing on old hollywood actors (i.e. 51-years-old, EEK!). But I think it would weird me out if a guy was more than 5 or 6 years older than me in a real-life relationship. Frankly, I have an easier time relating to guys that are a couple of years younger than me, in an idiotic goofy way. Actually dating someone younger would be weird, since they'd be my baby brothers age. But guys my own age and older tend to intimidate me, so it's all terribly confuzzling.

I believe my answer is 'maybe', tho' I'm not sure if that's on the poll.

Postby **mechana2015** » Tue Sep 06, 2005 6:37 pm

yeah i would.... they would obviously have to be compatable and all that and not... more than 10-11 years my senior.

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