where have all the good guys gone???
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lol..in ref to the title. 'good guys'? does not compute. :-P
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FadedOne - Posts: 881
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"Good guys" is NOT an oxymoron. *pokes* But I presume you meant something else? 
"you're a doctor.... and 27 years.... so...doctor + 27 years = HATORI SOHMA" - RoyalWing, when I was 27
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"Al hail the forum editting Shooby! His vibes are law!" - Osaka-chan
I could still be champ, but I'd feel bad taking it away from one of the younger guys. - George Foreman
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shooraijin - Posts: 9927
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>^^< Be patient. You're still 18, enjoy life as is. And don't lower your standards. That special guy will come around some day.
I live to love and love to live! >^.^<
I am part of The No Group.. Group.. >"<.. >0.o<
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I am part of The No Group.. Group.. >"<.. >0.o<
~Real guys go for real down to Mars girls ~ "Roses" by Outkast
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c-girl - Posts: 683
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[quote="shooraijin"]"Good guys" is NOT an oxymoron. *pokes* But I presume you meant something else? ]
not really
lol..i just couldn't resist. Nothing against the male gender....er other than the fact guys have the talent of driving me mad. other than that, nothin.
not really
lol..i just couldn't resist. Nothing against the male gender....er other than the fact guys have the talent of driving me mad. other than that, nothin.
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FadedOne - Posts: 881
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Naughty girl. 
"you're a doctor.... and 27 years.... so...doctor + 27 years = HATORI SOHMA" - RoyalWing, when I was 27
"Al hail the forum editting Shooby! His vibes are law!" - Osaka-chan
I could still be champ, but I'd feel bad taking it away from one of the younger guys. - George Foreman
"Al hail the forum editting Shooby! His vibes are law!" - Osaka-chan
I could still be champ, but I'd feel bad taking it away from one of the younger guys. - George Foreman
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shooraijin - Posts: 9927
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Volt wrote:MAYBE if you just posted your pic, he might be able to find you easier.
[color=DarkGreen]Oh, you'd like that, wouldn't you? ]
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BOOSTER: What? THIS thing's a cake?
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People who write below their abilities in order to crank out tons of books and make a buck. Especially Christian authors who do that. Outsiders judge us for it, and make fun of us for it, and it makes Jesus look bad. We of all artists on earth should be the most concerned with doing our best possible work at all times. We of all people should write with all our hearts, as if writing for the Lord and not for men.
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inkhana - Posts: 3670
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inkhana wrote:[color=DarkGreen]Oh, you'd like that, wouldn't you? ]
From the sheer gorgeousness I would assume.
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mechana2015 - Posts: 5025
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Ashley wrote:Look out Ink, the boys are coming after you like otaku to a con. Do you need some pepper spray, or a cattle prod? XD
O.o I was just trying to be a little silly... (please don't kill me Texas admin peoples)
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mechana2015 - Posts: 5025
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From the sheer gorgeousness I would assume.
I like you. X3
Look out Ink, the boys are coming after you like otaku to a con. Do you need some pepper spray, or a cattle prod? XD
Eh, let's not get the hick-bashers going. Give me the pepper spray. LOL jk
You don't wanna prompt another California vs. Texas war again, y'hear?!
Indeed. But then again, it takes a Californian to start it at this point.
BOOSTER: Hey, No.1! Where's my cake?!
SNIFIT 1: Booster, Sir! There's a 70% chance the object you're standing on is a cake.
BOOSTER: What? THIS thing's a cake?
You have the power to say anything you want, so why not say something positive?
- Frank Capra
(in response to an interview question "Do you have a pet peeve having to do with this biz?")
People who write below their abilities in order to crank out tons of books and make a buck. Especially Christian authors who do that. Outsiders judge us for it, and make fun of us for it, and it makes Jesus look bad. We of all artists on earth should be the most concerned with doing our best possible work at all times. We of all people should write with all our hearts, as if writing for the Lord and not for men.
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inkhana - Posts: 3670
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Me...
20 years old, never had a girlfriend because of many of your reasons... never kissed a girl, never held hands with a girl out of the context of praying or something like that, never had sex, never did drugs...
Yeah there are god guys out there. Me? I am not good. I am sinful as everyone else in the world is. I comitt sins and feel horrible about them...
My sin is no different than the sin of doing drugs or having pre marrital sex.
My Point?
I have Christ in me. I love God and want to please Him even though I know I fail alot. But I try. I try my best and with God's help, keep most of my morals and don't violate them. I won't lower myself to be with a non-believer, you shoudn't either.
I think it is kind of a privilage to be single now and be 20 years old. I do want a girlfriend and want to get married, but I will wait on God. I still look, but it is not a top priority on my list any more. I have much higher, more important things to look forward too and you do to. Keep your eyes on God and someday when your not looking, you and that special guy will bump into each other and it will be a moment ordained by God.
20 years old, never had a girlfriend because of many of your reasons... never kissed a girl, never held hands with a girl out of the context of praying or something like that, never had sex, never did drugs...
Yeah there are god guys out there. Me? I am not good. I am sinful as everyone else in the world is. I comitt sins and feel horrible about them...
My sin is no different than the sin of doing drugs or having pre marrital sex.
My Point?
I have Christ in me. I love God and want to please Him even though I know I fail alot. But I try. I try my best and with God's help, keep most of my morals and don't violate them. I won't lower myself to be with a non-believer, you shoudn't either.
I think it is kind of a privilage to be single now and be 20 years old. I do want a girlfriend and want to get married, but I will wait on God. I still look, but it is not a top priority on my list any more. I have much higher, more important things to look forward too and you do to. Keep your eyes on God and someday when your not looking, you and that special guy will bump into each other and it will be a moment ordained by God.
The Straight and Narrow
I chose to walk the straight and narrow road, but one day I lost balance and fell off it. I had fallen onto some sharp rocks and injured myself. There were people passing by who would merely stare at me, and then keep walking. Thoughts of worthlessness entered into my mind, and as I chose to believe the lies, my wounds grew worse. I was so overcome with grief that I nearly gave up... but then a man walked up to me and stopped. Without saying a word, he started to wrap my wounds, he gave me some water, and then lifted me up and embraced me. He then whispered these words into my ear, "I love you my child." As he said those words I could feel all the worthlessness and despair fall away. He then held out his hands. They had huge holes in them. He then said, "Walk with me." I then took his hand and we walked together. Every now and then I would fall from the road, but no matter where I fell, he was always there to pick me up and tell me that He loved me.
-by Micah Smith
I chose to walk the straight and narrow road, but one day I lost balance and fell off it. I had fallen onto some sharp rocks and injured myself. There were people passing by who would merely stare at me, and then keep walking. Thoughts of worthlessness entered into my mind, and as I chose to believe the lies, my wounds grew worse. I was so overcome with grief that I nearly gave up... but then a man walked up to me and stopped. Without saying a word, he started to wrap my wounds, he gave me some water, and then lifted me up and embraced me. He then whispered these words into my ear, "I love you my child." As he said those words I could feel all the worthlessness and despair fall away. He then held out his hands. They had huge holes in them. He then said, "Walk with me." I then took his hand and we walked together. Every now and then I would fall from the road, but no matter where I fell, he was always there to pick me up and tell me that He loved me.
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Heed - Posts: 149
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Many of you are saying that no good guys are close by, meaning near where you live. Why should a requirement for your true love be that he/she lives close by? I mean your true love could live in australia or africa or anywhere. I live in the UK and my true love lives in america. Where have all the good guys gone? They might just be where you're not looking. Yeah, it's hard to have a long distance relationship, but it's also hard to have a successful relationship in general.
I know there's a perfect guy waiting for you to notice Him very close to you. I'm talking about God of course. No human can love you as much as He does. It's not possible because Gods love is infinite while human love is finite. My point. Look for love in God. He can give more love than anyone else ever can.
I know there's a perfect guy waiting for you to notice Him very close to you. I'm talking about God of course. No human can love you as much as He does. It's not possible because Gods love is infinite while human love is finite. My point. Look for love in God. He can give more love than anyone else ever can.
Absence is to love as wind is to a flame. It extinguishes the little, it ignites the great.
Life is a test. It is only a test. Had this been real life you would have have been instructed where to go and what to do.
When i argue with reality I lose.....But only 100% of the time.
Once you've decided on a course of action, only you can finish it. As long as you remember that, there's nothing you can't accomplish.
Life is a test. It is only a test. Had this been real life you would have have been instructed where to go and what to do.
When i argue with reality I lose.....But only 100% of the time.
Once you've decided on a course of action, only you can finish it. As long as you remember that, there's nothing you can't accomplish.
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Kura Ookami - Posts: 766
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amen
The Straight and Narrow
I chose to walk the straight and narrow road, but one day I lost balance and fell off it. I had fallen onto some sharp rocks and injured myself. There were people passing by who would merely stare at me, and then keep walking. Thoughts of worthlessness entered into my mind, and as I chose to believe the lies, my wounds grew worse. I was so overcome with grief that I nearly gave up... but then a man walked up to me and stopped. Without saying a word, he started to wrap my wounds, he gave me some water, and then lifted me up and embraced me. He then whispered these words into my ear, "I love you my child." As he said those words I could feel all the worthlessness and despair fall away. He then held out his hands. They had huge holes in them. He then said, "Walk with me." I then took his hand and we walked together. Every now and then I would fall from the road, but no matter where I fell, he was always there to pick me up and tell me that He loved me.
-by Micah Smith
I chose to walk the straight and narrow road, but one day I lost balance and fell off it. I had fallen onto some sharp rocks and injured myself. There were people passing by who would merely stare at me, and then keep walking. Thoughts of worthlessness entered into my mind, and as I chose to believe the lies, my wounds grew worse. I was so overcome with grief that I nearly gave up... but then a man walked up to me and stopped. Without saying a word, he started to wrap my wounds, he gave me some water, and then lifted me up and embraced me. He then whispered these words into my ear, "I love you my child." As he said those words I could feel all the worthlessness and despair fall away. He then held out his hands. They had huge holes in them. He then said, "Walk with me." I then took his hand and we walked together. Every now and then I would fall from the road, but no matter where I fell, he was always there to pick me up and tell me that He loved me.
-by Micah Smith
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Heed - Posts: 149
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I told yo
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I'm leaving CAA perminantly. i've wanted to do this for a long time but I've never gathered the courage to let go.
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NEVER LOWER YOUR STANDARDS. NEVER. God has someone out there for you, but you just may find him in His time, not ours. I have the same problem but I know the wait will be worth it. and in response to Volt's pic: OH. MY. GOSH. ROFLMBO. omgsh i love that!
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Starfire1 - Posts: 303
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Kura Ookami wrote:Many of you are saying that no good guys are close by, meaning near where you live. Why should a requirement for your true love be that he/she lives close by? I mean your true love could live in australia or africa or anywhere. I live in the UK and my true love lives in america. Where have all the good guys gone? They might just be where you're not looking. Yeah, it's hard to have a long distance relationship, but it's also hard to have a successful relationship in general.
I know there's a perfect guy waiting for you to notice Him very close to you. I'm talking about God of course. No human can love you as much as He does. It's not possible because Gods love is infinite while human love is finite. My point. Look for love in God. He can give more love than anyone else ever can.
You've got some wonderful points in there, Kura. Sometimes it's just a matter of waiting on God to bring the person to you, or to take you to them.Singleness really is a blessing, though we often don't see it that way. It's because of how society is and because of the natural desire we're born with...to want to love someone and have someone love us.
But, as Kura said...there IS the perfect guy near you, and it IS God. While you're feeling lonely and waiting for the person meant for you, why not let God fill that void? It's what He wants, and He can fill it so much better than some silly boy can (or girl, if you apply this to the men). I've heard it said that when one is feeling lonely...it's God's way of calling you back to Him. God has the perfect love, and if you let Him, He can fill that little empty spot in your heart pretty well. I'm certain that's what He wants...for us to let Him fill it until the right person comes along. n_n
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I know I might be repeating what a lot of you have said already, but I'd still like to put this into my own words if I can -- as simple as they may sound. ^_^;
Keep your eyes fixed on the Lord, and seek Him above all else. Then, If He sees that you need a mate, He'll provide one for you at just the right time -- one more wonderful than you can imagine.
Keep your eyes fixed on the Lord, and seek Him above all else. Then, If He sees that you need a mate, He'll provide one for you at just the right time -- one more wonderful than you can imagine.
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I have two very simple questions and I'm looking for a short specific answers from anyone: What--according to the Bible--is marriage?
And what--again, according to the Bible--is the process for getting married?
(I know what the answers are, I'm just testing a theory out.)
And what--again, according to the Bible--is the process for getting married?
(I know what the answers are, I'm just testing a theory out.)
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Michael wrote:I have two very simple questions and I'm looking for a short specific answers from anyone: What--according to the Bible--is marriage?
And what--again, according to the Bible--is the process for getting married?
(I know what the answers are, I'm just testing a theory out.)
The Top 15 "Biblical" Ways to Find a Wife. (Author: Unknown)
* Find an attractive prisoner of war, bring her home, shave her head, trim her nails, and give her new clothes. Then she's yours. (Deuteronomy 21:11-13)
* Find a prostitute and marry her. (Hosea 1:1-3)
* Find a man with seven daughters, and impress him by watering his flock. (Moses--Exodus 2:16-21)
* Purchase a piece of property, and get a woman as part of the deal. (Boaz--Ruth 4:5-10)
* Go to a party and hide. When the women come out to dance, grab one and carry her off to be your wife. (Benjaminites--Judges 21:19-25)
* Have God create a wife for you while you sleep. Note: this will cost you. (Adam--Genesis 2:19-24)
* Agree to work seven years in exchange for a woman's hand in marriage. Get tricked into marrying the wrong woman. Then work another seven years for the woman you wanted to marry in the first place. That's right. Fourteen years of toil for a wife. (Jacob--Genesis 29:15-30)
* Cut 200 foreskins off of your future father-in-law's enemies and get his daughter for a wife. (David--1 Samuel 18:27)
* Even if no one is out there, just wander around a bit and you'll definitely find someone. (It's all relative, of course.) (Cain--Genesis 4:16-17)
* Become the emperor of a huge nation and hold a beauty contest. (Xerxes or Ahasuerus--Esther 2:3-4)
* When you see someone you like, go home and tell your parents, "I have seen a ... woman; now get her for me." If your parents question your decision, simply say, "Get her for me. She's the one for me." (Samson--Judges 14:1-3)
* Kill any husband and take HIS wife (Prepare to lose four sons, though). (David--2 Samuel 11)
* Wait for your brother to die. Take his widow. (It's not just a good idea; it's the law.) (Onana and Boaz--Deuteronomy or Leviticus, example in Ruth)
* Don't be so picky. Make up for quality with quantity. (Solomon--1 Kings 11:1-3)
* A wife?... I THINK NOT! (Paul--1 Corinthians 7:32-35)
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Azier the Swordsman - Posts: 3109
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wow that was a mouthful
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I am basically going to say a lot of what has already been said in that you should never, ever lower your standards....I did with my first bf because I was feeling exactly as you are...and all it got me was feeling empty and more lonely... he ended up cheating on me because I wouldn't give him what he wanted....
anyways, it has been nearly four years since that horrible three month experience... after which I decided it was better to be lonely.
I gave it up to God and now I am with a wonderful Christian guy who has never smoked, doesn't do drugs, doesn't drink, ect. God gave me the person that I am meant to be with. I am happy....
I know that it is hard to be lonely. But, give it up to God and he will provide when he knows that you are ready. Sometimes we feel like we are ready to be in a relationship with the person that God has intended for us, when we are not. It is important to do things in God's time and not push for them to happen in OUR time....
anyways, it has been nearly four years since that horrible three month experience... after which I decided it was better to be lonely.
I gave it up to God and now I am with a wonderful Christian guy who has never smoked, doesn't do drugs, doesn't drink, ect. God gave me the person that I am meant to be with. I am happy....
I know that it is hard to be lonely. But, give it up to God and he will provide when he knows that you are ready. Sometimes we feel like we are ready to be in a relationship with the person that God has intended for us, when we are not. It is important to do things in God's time and not push for them to happen in OUR time....
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livewire - Posts: 280
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That was great... that list... just great
BUT!!! back to the main topic...
I, personally, have been battling this same thing for a long time. I have come to the conclusion that God has someone for me. Period. He has placed this desire in my heart to have a wife, and kids, and all that that entails, and He loves me. Therefore, he has one for me. THe other half of my mold, so to speak!^^
BUT!!! back to the main topic...
I, personally, have been battling this same thing for a long time. I have come to the conclusion that God has someone for me. Period. He has placed this desire in my heart to have a wife, and kids, and all that that entails, and He loves me. Therefore, he has one for me. THe other half of my mold, so to speak!^^
Imperfect.
Flawed.
Forgiven.
Flawed.
Forgiven.
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Markus wrote:That was great... that list... just great
BUT!!! back to the main topic...
I, personally, have been battling this same thing for a long time. I have come to the conclusion that God has someone for me. Period. He has placed this desire in my heart to have a wife, and kids, and all that that entails, and He loves me. Therefore, he has one for me. THe other half of my mold, so to speak!^^
My true feelings on the subject:
I feel the same way at times. Truthfully, I've still given up looking, since I've encountered too many 'false alarms.' Most of the time, I'm perfectly fine, but there are times I wake up and just feel incomplete. Seperated. I desire for what I can't have yet. And it drives me nuts. I hate hormones. I hate the desire for a mate. I hate romance. Why? Because it drives me insane. Because while I hate it so much I want it so bad. And it just feels like a general obstacle in life. It's more of a curse than a "Gift from God".
Seriously. I either want to know her now or for these darned feelings just to go away. I can't stand them.
And I don't want any "Just keep waiting, God will eventually bring her to you and you will live happily ever after" replies, because they won't help.
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Azier the Swordsman - Posts: 3109
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Azier the Swordsman wrote:And I don't want any "Just keep waiting, God will eventually bring her to you and you will live happily ever after" replies, because they won't help.
Ok, so I won't tell you "Just keep waiting, God will eventually bring her to you and you will live happily ever after" (even though it's the truth!) but can I just try to encourage you a little bit?
You've got to be content in your singleness... use this time in your life to enjoy your freedom. Enjoy this time God has given you... and live it up! Singleness is such a good time to really focus on the Lord and walk with Him. When you have a mate, it's more distracting. That's why Paul said it is better to remain single. You've got nothing tying you down; take advantage of it!
For awhile, I didn't want to be content, I wanted to want a mate... I struggled for a while thinking, "Well, but if I'm content with being single, then will God think I don't want to get married anymore?" No way! God knows your deepest desires, and He wants you to be happy. And believe it or not, you can be so happy and so content being single. Does that mean you won't ever want to be married? Nope, it just means that the desire will stay tucked away, and you'll be so content and have such a peace.
I feel like I'm kinda repeating myself, and I probably am, but I just wanted to tell you, Azier, that there is nothing like having peace and contentment while you're single. Ask the Lord for it... even if you're not sure, tell Him how you feel, and what you want... You just might be surprised.
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Megan86 - Posts: 14
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Seriously. I either want to know her now or for these darned feelings just to go away. I can't stand them.
Oh boy, do I remember feeling that way. Guess what? At least in my case...no matter how many times I very sincerely prayed "God, please bury these feelings in the bottom of my soul", it never happened. And I look back now and realize why: that was a very selfish thing to ask for. It's natural to want to not be hurt, but it's selfish to tell God you don't want to trust Him to protect you and your heart.
Yes, I got hurt. A lot. Yes, I've had several crushes and no, it almost never worked out(God said "trust me about this one" once and He was right ^^ ). Yes, it was very painful. But, God knew what He was doing. He taught me how to love. How to take that step of faith and go out on a limb and try it. And at least one time, it's been very worth it.
So, I don't know if God will work in a different way for you, but I encourage you to do as others have said: use that lonliness as fuel to seek after the One who will love you like no one else will.
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Ashley - Posts: 7364
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Hmm... In the circles I'm in, even among christians there are almost no virgins... I don't hold that as a requirement any longer. Though I am technically a virgin, I'm not in the philisophical sense or perhaps the spiritual sense, though God forgives me... I am not going to hold it against someone for acting out what I thought in my head numerous times.
That aside, I won't marry someone who currently smokes, or currently does drugs, and I will only marry a christian... I don't have a hard time finding people like that.
You should be able to find someone, really. If those are your only requirements (I doubt they are) that is really easy to accomplish. What's more complicated is whe you, like me, have a decent sized list with some specific and, in many people's views (though not mine, of course), unfair requirements...
I think, for the most part, God will supply you with a person that meets your requirements, provided they aren't selfish ("He/she has to get sick at the sight of any woman/man but me and any sons/daughters we may have" or "He/she has to do all the chores, sit on the toilet/hide all signs of a woman living in the house, smell like roses after a hard day's work, be stylish when he/she first wakes up, and earn the money I need for my clothes, jewelry, and various toys (like a PS3, Xbox 360, Video Editing Computer, and a corvette (oh, and for refference, I hate sports cars)")
That aside, I won't marry someone who currently smokes, or currently does drugs, and I will only marry a christian... I don't have a hard time finding people like that.
You should be able to find someone, really. If those are your only requirements (I doubt they are) that is really easy to accomplish. What's more complicated is whe you, like me, have a decent sized list with some specific and, in many people's views (though not mine, of course), unfair requirements...
I think, for the most part, God will supply you with a person that meets your requirements, provided they aren't selfish ("He/she has to get sick at the sight of any woman/man but me and any sons/daughters we may have" or "He/she has to do all the chores, sit on the toilet/hide all signs of a woman living in the house, smell like roses after a hard day's work, be stylish when he/she first wakes up, and earn the money I need for my clothes, jewelry, and various toys (like a PS3, Xbox 360, Video Editing Computer, and a corvette (oh, and for refference, I hate sports cars)")
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evcNPfZlrZs Watch this movie なう。 It's legal, free... And it's more than its premise. It's not saying Fast Food is good food. Just watch it.
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Bobtheduck - Posts: 5867
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- Location: Japan, currently. Gonna be Idaho, soon.
The older you get the harder it becomes especially when you see everyone else of your generation pairing off and getting married.Most everyone my
age has either kids in college now or some of them are starting to get into
the early grandparent stage.
That's why I suspect the woman I marry is going to end up being something
like 30 or 25 years younger than me because by the time I DO find the right woman all the women my age will be too old to have children.And I do
want to have kids.At least two daugthers to begin with.
age has either kids in college now or some of them are starting to get into
the early grandparent stage.
That's why I suspect the woman I marry is going to end up being something
like 30 or 25 years younger than me because by the time I DO find the right woman all the women my age will be too old to have children.And I do
want to have kids.At least two daugthers to begin with.
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mitsuki lover - Posts: 8486
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