Lyren wrote:Very, very good advice. Many times, that's the reason why one is left without friend, but not always.
Well it takes effort to make friends. I once did not have many friends and I would brood over the fact and isolate myself further from society. I made myself a person who no one wanted to be around and no one was around me because of it. But then I started to be more friendly. Talking with people, listening, dropping a line, and just taking time out to care about someone else other then me. Being a friend means caring about someone other then ourselves. Sometimes people think that they have to give up their individuality to have friends, and they have to fit in to be considered normal. And true this would be a way to get friends, but they would be superficial friends, and not true friends. The key to gaining real good friends is it be yourself but also practice Christian virtues. In Colossians 3:12-14 it says, "Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." People like someone who is compassionate, kind, humble, gentle, patient, forgiving, and loving. You mat not attract everyone, the bad superficial friend will flee from these virtues, but the good caring best friends will be attracted by them.
God Bless
HS5000