For Love? Please help me ><

[Kenchii]

Hello. Its been awhile since I posted on CAA. (due to my grades in school =__=) I'm in a pretty bad delema.

Well, this is how my story goes. About two months ago I attended the Buzz Bake Sale (concert) and met someone there. we had the day together until she had to leave (everyone had to) we exchanged email addresses, and from there on talked online. we wanted to spend a day together again (she lives 4 hours from my area tho) so this fair came up (that she is attending/workin there) and I wanna go too. but the thing is.. I can't. my parents dont want me to go (accedents on rides) and I cant go with my friends, my parents wont allow that. so.. I dont know wut to do.. humm...I really want to be with her again.

[Rev. Doc]

In the long run, it's always best to do what your parents say. As difficult as that is or unfair as it may seem to you, it will definately lead to harmony in the home and greater personal growth and maturity on your part.

[EireWolf]

Yes... I'll second what he said.

Besides, long-distance relationships are always difficult (speaking from experience). It's probably best to keep this a distant friendship and not try to make something more of it, especially since she lives 4 hours away and you guys only hung out once. I know it's difficult not to be with someone you like and get along so well with. But at this stage of your life, a long-distance relationship is almost guaranteed not to work.

I'm sorry; I know that's not what you wanted to hear.

[ChristianKitsune]

sadly for you, i agree with the others before me.. you need to listen to your parents, they know what is best, even though you may not think that to be true!!!!

[Kenchii]

ok.

sounds good. It doesn't matter... I was pretty confused before (with my friends telling me the oppisite of what you guys are posting) but now im clear. it doesn't matter.

thx a lot. you can lock this thread or something.. eh ..

[termyt]

Also, if "it's meant to be," it'll survive you not being together at this fair.

[olorc]

at this stage in life for you I agree with the others to obey your parents and not see the girl, also I suggest not getting involved romantically with the opposite sex until you get past high school at least. This is only my opinion, but it seems so far to have worked for me. A friend of mine who is older than me and who I respect for his solid grounding the word said once, "don't date unless your interested in mariage." now I admit that this may sound sort of narrow-minded traditionalistic and sort of puritanical, if you think about it from a stand point of what your motivation is, I think it makes sense. I currently have several female friends that I am very close to who I will think of as sisters most likely for the rest of my life, had I acted on transitory desires and urges, I most likely would've tried dating them only to see that I wasn't ready or we weren't a good match and would currently not be speaking to them because it would be way too uncomfortable. Taht's only my take tho.

[Maverick]

I agree with the previous two posts. After all, if it is meant to be, it will happen. God blesses thoses who are obedient, and part of being obedient to God is being obedient to your parents. Also, feel free to wait things out. Based on experiences, long distance relationships don't work unless you have a solid "dating" relationship built up first. However, just keep chatting with her, get to know her, become friends.. It will happen, just be patient.