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Postby Digivolver_Indy » Thu Jul 01, 2004 9:11 pm

Hey, everybody. I'm having some anger management problems. Any suggestions? Thanks.Image
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Postby Zilch » Thu Jul 01, 2004 9:17 pm

Pray. Hard.

Also, find a way to get it out without hurting anyone. My suggestion is running.
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Postby TrigunX89 » Fri Jul 02, 2004 3:34 am

Yes, those are good ideas. Also music. Loud, angry, Christian music. Maybe Demon Hunter. Although I don't have either of their CD's, they sound good on the few songs I've heard. Same with Disciple. Project 86 is a bit softer, but also good. :rock:

Now if you can't stand hard rock or metal, this is pointless. Take Zilch's advice instead. :sweat:
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Postby Saint Kevin » Fri Jul 02, 2004 5:40 am

Anger huh? I recommend talking some of your issues out with some friends. Not just any friends mind you, but Christian friends, that can bring God's perspective to bear on the things you are angry about.

If you ever want to talk, PM me or look me up on AIM.

Also, solicit prayer from the Christian around you. I'm praying for you by the way.
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Postby SwordSkill » Fri Jul 02, 2004 8:05 am

I can't remember where I read it (I think it was here) but the suggestion involved imagining the object of your anger in a pink thong. Tasteless yet effective.

Do something physical to get rid of the knot in your stomach or the balloon about to explode in your head. (By physical I do not mean knocking off someone's two front teeth...sports will do. I won't recommend sports that involves a lot of body contact, though.) Sweating is a good way to shed the excess adrenaline and it keeps you focused somewhere else.

And remember that when you get visibly angry, you've already lost.
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Postby Heart of Sword » Fri Jul 02, 2004 8:51 am

Pray.
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Money, get away
Get a good job with good pay and you're okay
And all and all you're just another brick in the wall
Shoutin’ in the street gonna take on the world some day
But Bismallah will not let me go
Because I'll see you on the dark side of the moon

Tommy used to work on the docks
Union's been on strike
Bright eyes burning like fire
And exposing every weakness
However carefully hidden by the kids

Who will love a little Sparrow
Who's traveled far and cries for rest
Spare him his life from this monstrosity

I've seen a million faces and I've rocked them all
And if the band youre in starts playing different tunes
We will we will rock you
We will we will rock you!

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Postby SManBeyond » Fri Jul 02, 2004 9:33 am

What makes you mad, and is it that big of a deal? It could be that it has something to do with you not being in control of everything, in which case you need to realize that you need to give those things to God. Since I don't know you, I can't say. My advice would be this: Think about why you get angry and think about why God considers unrighteous anger a sin.

Another suggestion is that sometimes certain things put us in certain moods. You might want to consider cutting out things in your life that subconsciously put you in an angry mood.

But budget time to pray and read the Word more often, first and foremost.

I'm praying for you. We're all in this together.
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Postby emoanimechild » Fri Jul 02, 2004 10:08 am

Praying definantly helps, praying not only for you, but for whoever your angry at. Once I am able to to this i usally feel more calm, and like I did the right thing. It is by no means easy though, thats why whenever i get angry and just can't forgive the person I find another way to vent. Such as talking to friends, drawling (you can only imagine what a mad picture looks like), buying a feather(pillow so I can hit it), or even taking a walk. After trying these I usally feel better, but what helps me may be different for you my suggestion is that you find a way to vent whenever you do get angry, and try to pray for those your angry at.
Also if someone is upsetting you try to tell them before you get to mad. I hope this helps and I will keep you in my prayers.
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Postby spiritusvult » Fri Jul 02, 2004 10:39 am

I'm sure you've heard all the good advice about anger management. I have one myself. I was driving across the country with a friend of mine. I said, "John, are you angry with at anybody?" He said, "No."
"Not anybody at all?" I replied.
"No. What's the point?"

I thought about that, and realized that it was pretty good advice. However, I took it to prayer. There was a particular person with whom I was quite angry, and had been for some time. I asked the Lord to tell me how to forgive him(the person I was angry with, not God). God said I should buy him a loaf of bread. I thought it was foolish, but I did it. That person is now a friend of mine.

What I mean is that there is really no point in being angry (with the exception of righteous anger), because it only hurts us. The question is, how are we able to forgive. For me, it was a loaf of bread. Pray and ask God how you can let it go. A lot of words. Sorry, I tend to be a bit long-winded.
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Postby Fsiphskilm » Fri Jul 02, 2004 10:51 pm

Sometimes it's a horm
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Postby Chazz » Sat Jul 03, 2004 1:01 am

I've got anger problems too. Try some of these ideas on for size.

WHEN YOU ARE ****:

don't do anything rash. this is very important. many times when you're really **** off, bad ideas sounds like good ideas. I've actually considered suicide, killing people, running away, when I was really really **** off. These are not good ideas.

don't listen to what your heart is telling you. Your heart is an idiot. It'll tell you what you want to hear, and pretty much only that. It's the "yes-man" of the human psyche.

chill out. go somewhere quiet. think logically about the problem. If you are considering a resolution to the problem, think as far into the future as you can. Ask yourself, "is this really what I want to do?" Again, listen to your BRAIN.

Don't fight back. Fighting makes things worse. (yes, even if you're bigger.) Don't talk trash. Don't go for the last word. Consider getting them back sometime far in the future. Usually by the time you were supposed to go through with that plan, you'll be cooled off and thinking rationally.

Rational is good.
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If nothing else seems to work, have a friend or yours tell a joke, or watch a funny movie, (gotta plug my site ;D -The Crucible, or Taffy of Death. http://www.estarman.com/movies.htm somehow laughter always seems to work for me.

Also try to keep in mind that when you are **** off, things don't usually make a lot of sense.

Do what you can.
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