dothackzero (post: 1597234) wrote:Yeah, how will a girl figure out that she likes an introvert if he's never really saying anything?
Yuki-Anne (post: 1597262) wrote:Also, just a question... do you like anything other than video games? Is there a possibility of you liking anything other than video games?
Mr. SmartyPants (post: 1597264) wrote:Oh yeah. Appearances. Totally. What do you look like? Maybe we can give you cosmetic or fashion advice!
K. Ayato (post: 1597265) wrote:Also, make eye contact when you're talking to people. I understand that with some cultures, keeping your eyes down when you're talking to someone is a sign of respect, but here in America, maintaining eye contact when talking to someone indicates confidence and maturity.
Not only that, it also tells the person you care about what they have to say. Ever seen in movies or TV when one character is trying to say something, and the other person is looking the other way or is engaged in a text conversation, and how angry the speaker gets? That's because lack of maintaining eye contact 9 times out of 10 for the person trying to speak says "You and what you have to say are not as important to me as what I'm focusing on right now".
So whether you're the speaker or the listener, keep your head up and maintain eye contact. Even if your confidence level is a negative 25 and your maturity level is that of a 5-year-old, at least your audience will get the idea you're a caring person if you can look them in the eye for longer than 5 seconds.
dothackzero (post: 1597277) wrote:I'm not even sure if I'm doing eye to eye contact or eye to breast(Just being honest). But I think I tend to do more eye to eye contact. Well, this girl I've been hangout with anyway(since she's the only girl I get to hang out with right now.) But yeah, I think I look more at her eyes, and she does have pretty eyes.
Mr. SmartyPants (post: 1597321) wrote:You should show us a photo of yourself or something if you're comfortable with that.
tronethiel7 (post: 1597337) wrote:I'm saying this all out of love for you man. I beg you to consider it. You can't get your stuff together apart from being saturated with the word of God and steadfast in prayer. This is CAA after all. If your focus of Christ is clear then the other issues will gain so much perspective for you.
tronethiel7 (post: 1597337) wrote:Though I think that there has been some good advice in this thread, I do feel as if the importance of God ultimately has been somewhat overlooked. Most of these issues are not ultimately ones of practicality and I feel like that is where the focus is being given. But as a Christian, at least if you believe you are, you are not doing things because of their consequences, negative or positive. You do all you do for the sake of the good your are compelled to do by the Holy Spirit. You do not need self confidence, you need confidence in the God you serve. You don't need to improve your self, you need to allow him to sanctify you. You don't need to stop staring at girl's breasts expressly because it's impolite and they don't like it, but because your moments of lust are moments when you are not giving proper Glory to god, and whatever you do, you should give glory to Him. Man,you need to pursue a woman only when you're absolutely comfortable being without one for the rest of your life. Find your worth in those things which are not temporal and of this world. In Him Alone.
I'm saying this all out of love for you man. I beg you to consider it. You can't get your stuff together apart from being saturated with the word of God and steadfast in prayer. This is CAA after all. If your focus of Christ is clear then the other issues will gain so much perspective for you.
You do not need self confidence, you need confidence in the God you serve.
You don't need to improve your self, you need to allow him to sanctify you.
You don't need to stop staring at girl's breasts expressly because it's impolite and they don't like it, but because your moments of lust are moments when you are not giving proper Glory to god, and whatever you do, you should give glory to Him.
Man,you need to pursue a woman only when you're absolutely comfortable being without one for the rest of your life.
You can't get your stuff together apart from being saturated with the word of God and steadfast in prayer.
Xeno (post: 1597537) wrote:Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
Okay, so where to start with this. I'm going to skip over the theology issues of whether he believes he's a christian or not, and the holy spirit compelling him to do whatever. I'm going to start here:
Actually, yes he does need self-confidence, because without self-confidence one generally hasn't the motivation to do things. It's all well and good to have confidence in god that he will do or provide for you, but you ultimately have to be the one to put forth the effort to achieve the things being offered.
And by what means of sanctification would one go through that doesn't result in improvement? Sanctification typically requires one go through a process of self improvement to attain a higher level of spirituality. It can be attributed to coming from a higher being such as god as the compelling factor, but still it's something the individual does, not an overnight occurrence imparted to the person.
Yes...yes he does need to stop staring at women's breasts period. Because it's creepy, and impolite, and it objectifies women. And if you want to tie lust into it you can, but that's a secondary factor because ultimately its an issue of not respecting women.
I absolutely agree with this.
Prayer allows for some to find a place of calm and zen in their lives, for others it does not. Bible reading may allow other to find guidance, but it is hardly a guide to dating and relationships or a moral compass for life. I get what you're trying to say, but...no. People live their lives and have their stuff together all around the world without being "saturated with the word of God and steadfast in prayer." Lets focus on the real issues here, and that is not dothack needing to read his Bible more.
dothackzero (post: 1597234) wrote:I don't really want to do this hug, but I'll do it anyway.
Vilo159 (post: 1597573) wrote:Mission accomplished men, now onto phase two!
What does a hug mean to you? From your posts, it sounds like you want a hug because it is what is required for accomplishing your mission, which is a terrible reason to want a hug. It needs to have meaning to you, not just be a stepping stone. You should want a hug because that person's hugs make you happy, make you feel good (I mean that in a totally non-sexual way).
Vilo159 (post: 1597573) wrote:Maybe I'm wrong, maybe you know this already, maybe you do actually hav a love for the peoplae around you, but it doesn't seem like it. Prove to us that you do.
dothackzero (post: 1597579) wrote:I like hugs from girls because they good to me. Not really sure if my hugs means anything of the girls I do though.
I am looking for ways to expand my main group(with girls), but I'm still choosing that are fun(not in a sexual way), that I just want to be around, the girl I invited over today was mostly because she's just an interesting person(She's 5 years older than me.) Though within that I still am laying the ground work to be able to find a wife(weather it's one the girls I'm hanging out with, or their friend that I meet through them.)
But still it does have a lot to do with me just wanting to be around them, and for the fellowship.
tronethiel7 (post: 1597544) wrote:Well, I wouldn't expect you to agree with everything I'm saying, but we do have something in common. I'm "a"theist and you're atheist. Let's be friends "xeno" what I mean?
dothackzero (post: 1597595) wrote:Hugs from girls feel good, they are nice and comfortable.
If you need to know more than that, find a artical on why hugs are good for you. I'm sure that would explain my reasons better than I could.
Actually, I'm only trying to force things for now. Besides, I'm trying to get some guys in there. It's just most of the guy friends I have from that group are kinda just across the state/country right now. College and stuff, you know.
dothackzero (post: 1597549) wrote:So yeah, I also asked one of my other friends(girl), though facebook the first time to hang out. She couldn't make it. Would she have directly said something if she didn't want to come
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