I don't know what to do anymore

[seaglass27]

[quote="goldenspines (post: 1528399)"]WRONG.
It's not your fault, so don't you DARE think it is.
In my small experience with having mostly guy friends growing up, I know guys love to compete and fight over who's the best at something (even as my friend, my three guy friends would compete over who I liked to hang out with the best. XD]

We aren't all like this, goldy.

[K. Ayato]

Maybe not, Jordan. But we all deal with unwanted (and in some cases unnecessary) drama in our lives at some points. I went through private school, so drama wasn't as crazy as media portray it in public school, but it was still there.

[goldenspines]

We aren't all like this, goldy.

Hence why I mentioned I only had limited knowledge on the topic in regards to my own experiences with guy friends. It gives me a lot of hope that guys are not all like that and in fact, I KNOW all guys aren't like that.
Don't even get me started on girls, though. They can be worse and I know more about them. XP
But we all make total fools of ourselves when we're teenagers, sadly.

I apologize if it seemed like I was generalizing. I didn't mean to. I posted what I did in order to best help Sam's situation. From her description, it seemed like the two boys were not acting respectfully towards her or each other, but instead were chasing after their own selfish interests. Both boys and girls alike can display this behavior while growing up. But even so, it's not behavior to be encouraged, especially if innocent parties (like Sam) would be negatively affected by it.

[Xeno]

We aren't all like this, goldy.

No we aren't, I certainly wasn't but many of my friends were. So imagine how that turned out when we tried to settle things. Them wanting the whole fighting thing and me wanting to discuss the situation (but I also knew Goldy was just making a broad generalization).

Either way, I'm gonna just go along with what all the ladies are saying and advise to ignore the children until they get their stuff figured out. And unless guy #2 has specifically expressed an interest in you don't assume he has a crush on you, you could be completely wrong, and then you'll look terrible for telling him you can't be friends anymore because he likes you when he didn't at all.

[TheMewster]

So they keep calling huh? Can you block numbers on your phone? Maybe even change your number if you have to? I'd pray for these kids too if I were you. Jesus said to love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

[Atria35]

So they keep calling huh? Can you block numbers on your phone? Maybe even change your number if you have to? I'd pray for these kids too if I were you. Jesus said to love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

They aren't persecuting her, and they aren't her enemies- they're just being idiots.

[Xeno]

So they keep calling huh? Can you block numbers on your phone? Maybe even change your number if you have to? I'd pray for these kids too if I were you. Jesus said to love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

Did you even read the thread?

They aren't persecuting her, and they aren't her enemies- they're just being idiots.

+1000, quoted for truth.

[AdriTan]

I'm with the whole be upfront and honest with him. Its gonna be hard and will make ur stomach churn but it is the only way to stay friends and niy more than that

Oh and to those who r being jerkish be nice but be firm don't take their blahness

[Cc4FuzzyHuggles]

I'll pray!

And as said previously,

I'd pray for these kids too if I were you. Jesus said to love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

I have to agree at least a little bit. Perhaps the bible verse being implied here (Matthew 5:44) was slightly harsh for this situation and not exactly perfect....
BUT.... I think I get where Mew was going with it too. I think the verse is right to some degree, it just needs to be viewed from a different and wider aspect.

True, neither boy is actually an enemy, however, anyone who we get in an argument with or anyone who hurts us either physically or emotionally can feel like an enemy at least at that moment. Sort of like a temporary enemy, even if they're family or friends.

But, I don't think being mean, fighting, or worrying yourself to death over those who are upsetting you, is the right answer.
Instead, I think praying for the ones who offend you, upset you, or are worrying you is the way Jesus would handle things. Which is slightly represented in the above quote.
And also I think communication can really be the key to some things, but calmly and sternly, seriously where needed, and most of all with honesty.
(So, I think for your first original concerns with the kissing, you've handled it well already.)


Now, previously it was just the one boy who was upsetting you, whether it be making you uncomfortable or by arguing.
However, it seems your worried over two boys all of a sudden.
No, they aren't really doing anything wrong to be enemies, however, they are upsetting you.
So, instead of filling with anger or stress, I think trying to remain calm, and praying for them, calling on God, and trusting God, is the best thing you can do and let things work them selves out.

You've done a good job about coming for prayer requests so far. I think that's what Jesus would of done. Now just keep praying not only for yourself, but for them, and the situation. Stay strong in your prayers and try not to stress over it too much.



--- Slightly off Topic. You can choose to skip if you want. ---

Sorry for getting off topic a bit here, but I do think the one kissy boy could use some prayers of his own though.

The boy is only 11 and he's already trying to be kissy with the ladies? O.o;
I sure hope he was only playing around.
But if he wasn't, and was pushy for your lips, he might get pushy for others' lips too. And that would be my concern.
I know it's not much to care about when it's just a kid copying adults, in-fact it can even be a bit cute. I also realize he is just a kid and your strong and can say no to it, however, not every girl is like that.
His actions could be something to worry over as he gets older and stronger, if he were to be serious about it. Not necessarily for you, but for other girls he might take an interest in.

So, although he's not much of a threat now, and hopefully he's just going through a phase, he could still probably use some prayers that he grows into more of a gentlemen with respect for girls. And also, I think these days, almost anyone could use some prayer support to be strong against lust, especially as they're growing into that crazy hormone stage of life.


So, yea... I'll be praying for all three of you. xD