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Postby Sapphire225 » Wed Apr 27, 2011 6:36 am

Okay, I have a really close friend who, after a "Clothesline Project," had a breakdown and I went to check up on her after my last class. Anyway, she opened up to me and her roommate that she was going to make a shirt as to how she was beaten and abused by her mother when she was little (which she told me earlier) and that she was molested by her uncle when she was little (which I did not know until that time). She is also going to see if she can find a way to tell her mother (whom she is on better terms now) about it, so she can see if her uncle will be sentenced to jail longer (he is in jail for raping and impregnating his niece but is said to be let out in about 3 weeks). Please pray for her to find consolance for her and her mother and rest of her family, as well as for her uncle to stay in prison longer to serve full time for what he had did.
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Postby shooraijin » Wed Apr 27, 2011 9:30 am

Whoa. Do it fast, because statute of limitations may apply on the uncle.
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Postby Atria35 » Wed Apr 27, 2011 11:02 am

What Shooby said. Even if her mom isn't supportive, the police will be able to listen and help. SHe'd also probably benefit from calling the RAINN hotline:
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Postby ABlipinTime » Wed Apr 27, 2011 6:22 pm

hm... Not that it didn't happen, but I've heard of psychological cases where a person's mind can get impregnated with a false memory just based on hearing of the event happening to other people (i.e. getting raped or abused). I'm not sure that this is the case, but regardless, I do think it's better to forgive (even if you don't forget) than press charges. Who knows, maybe just telling the uncle he is forgiven will make him think twice about his life.
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Postby steenajack » Wed Apr 27, 2011 6:56 pm

Hey, Ablip, while I agree that it's good to forgive, if someone committed a crime and hasn't recieved consequence for it, imo it's best that he get's it. I mean, your idea about her forgiving him upfront might be a good idea depending on the situation and how things work out, but unless he's actually sorry about what he did, idk if it be okay to let him loose just yet. Because, what's to stop him from possibly doing it again unless he's genuinely seeking help for that. There are people out there, and while it may seem harsh, they have to go to jail. It's not just best so that people can sleep at night, but also so that the person who committed the crime can have the opportunity to get better. Forgiveness isn't just about letting something go, it also tends to involve being willing to want this person's life to get better in a sense. Seeing the criminal through God's eyes. But since we shouldn't start a debate about this in a prayer thread, since that would not be appropriate, (rather not debate anyway), let's get back on topic.

I will be praying for your friend Sapphy. Please, let us know how things turn out. Do encourage her to tell the police about it, since child molestation should not be treated lightly. It's a really serious issue, and it's important to tell something like this to the police. Also, just out of curiousity, has she ever received some sort of counceling for the abuse? Cause that is something that one should seek counceling for. Again, I will be praying.
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Postby Sapphire225 » Wed Apr 27, 2011 7:17 pm

ABlipinTime (post: 1474938) wrote:hm... Not that it didn't happen, but I've heard of psychological cases where a person's mind can get impregnated with a false memory just based on hearing of the event happening to other people (i.e. getting raped or abused). I'm not sure that this is the case, but regardless, I do think it's better to forgive (even if you don't forget) than press charges. Who knows, maybe just telling the uncle he is forgiven will make him think twice about his life.


I highly doubt this might be a false memory, given that there is a lot of evidence that she has been through alot. Also, according to her, I'm not the first person she told, as she had told someone else before the Clothesline event in a therapy session. Also, I agree with Steenajack]not[/I] his first time in jail and that he has done worse things in the past that are not accounted in the legal system for due to lack of testimonies, to let him out to commit another crime wouldn't be right. Had he been genuinely sorry, it could have been a consideration. But apparently, he isn't.

Also, yes, she has had therapy and told her Guidance Counselor about it. I myself have told her to go to the police, and I am considering telling them myself should she not do it for her sake. First, she's finding a way to tell her mother, and hopefully, she'll find a way to tell the police as soon as possible.
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Postby ABlipinTime » Thu Apr 28, 2011 4:11 pm

I'm just making suggestions. It's hard to say much considering I don't know much about the situation. Can't blame a guy for making suggestions.
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Postby Sapphire225 » Thu Apr 28, 2011 4:25 pm

ABlipinTime (post: 1475226) wrote:I'm just making suggestions. It's hard to say much considering I don't know much about the situation. Can't blame a guy for making suggestions.


No, I don't blame you. :) And I do appreciate the suggestions.

Anyway, to update, she told her therapist who is now filing a report against him. Some progress is being made, although they are trying to find his last name (he is her mother's half-brother and there is barely any documentation on him). She has yet to tell her mother though.
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Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you."
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Postby Atria35 » Thu Apr 28, 2011 4:41 pm

I'm glad to hear that she got up the courage to confess what happened to somebody. Praying that somehow she finds the courage and will to continue.
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Postby TheMewster » Sat Apr 30, 2011 7:49 am

Woah.... Prayed for her! She needs prayer badly!
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Postby broly146 » Sat Apr 30, 2011 7:56 am

I am praying for her
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