Hey, jumping in kind of late here. The thread's pretty long so I've just read some posts, skimmed through a few, and read staff posts. Sorry if what I'm about to say has already been addressed, but I do have a bit to add to something like this.
Yamamaya (post: 1463518) wrote:Girls are always innocent, even in the case of pregnancy. The boy is the monster who got her pregnant. It appears that people never stop to consider that it takes two to tango.
Not necessarily. I have one friend who got pregnant when she was 17, before we even got out of high school. Some of the comments and looks that people gave her were truly heartbreaking, and definitely not showing the type of Christian love that we're called to give. :-/
My mom? Similar story. She was pregnant with me at 19, and a lot of people blamed her for it because my father was the "innocent minister's kid". Now, a lot of people *do* view him badly now, but that's because he cheated me out of hundreds (if not thousands) in child support and abandoned us instead of helping her raise me, so that was something he brought upon himself an entirely different way.
But, I do see where you're coming from. I'm just saying that there are double standards in which girls get the short end of the stick, too. And sometimes there are standards for both, but the standards for one gender are not very well known by the opposite gender.
That's always made me so made, though now I just roll my eyes at the memory of it.
