That Dude (post: 1385194) wrote:When God made Gelka, he decided to mix bubbles, rainbows, sharks, cupcakes, chocolate chips, puppies, kitties, and fun all into one bunch.
Tsukuyomi (post: 1419404) wrote:I would say something like,"I'm sorry, but I'm not looking for a relationship right now.", but still that may give him hope for later... How about,"I'm sorry, but I just don't like you that way.." Just be honest with him and I'm sure he'll understand. Maybe, you can become good friends!
If that doesn't work, then you can always pretend you have a boyfriend...
Etoh*the*Greato (post: 1419446) wrote:Violence is a pretty good option. Threat of violence works well too! My best buddy growing up found an interesting way to deal with people stalking his sister. See, one kid was harrassing his lil sis so he showed up on the school's campus one day and waited by the punk's car. When the guy came to drive off my friend sat on the driver's door and engaged him in a lil chat. The guy started trying to threaten my friend and puff himself up like a lil snot but while he was threatning my friend, my friend proceeded to draw out a lighter and ignite his arm on fire which had previously been soaked in some flamatory substance. While my friend talked to the guy he calmly watched his arm burn, then topped off the conversation by saying "You know... There is nothing you can do to hurt me."
The guy never came back.
If you let this go on, it could worm its way in and change your mind. You don't want that to happen [this has happened to me and it is NO fun to have to fix], so just make it clear on no uncertain terms that he shouldn't be so clingy and obsessed with you.
Nate (post: 1419542) wrote:Yeah, don't let him have hope! Eliminate all remnants of hope in his mind and soul! You have to completely and utterly destroy him emotionally! I'm sure it won't cause him to feel resentful towards women and then turn him into a violent jerk because he feels women are all stone-cold witches! THIS IS THE BEST IDEA EVER.
EDIT: I am half-asleep so I am aware I am being heavy on sarcasm but seriously since when was "ignore a person's feelings and force them to abandon hope and love" ever a good idea? You can tell him in no uncertain terms that he doesn't have a chance with you without being rude.
I dunno whatever I don't even have any good advice anyway.
Besides, ending someone's hope that one particular person will date them does not mean the end of all hope and love ever go hide in a cave and never come out you creeper. It just means that you're letting them know they're wasting their time and emotional energy on you.
But rejection was always less painful the less time I had wasted liking a person.
I mean seriously saying something like "The less time this person spends liking me the better" or even "The less time I spend liking this person the better" just seems...robotic. Void of emotion or feeling.
treat others how you want to be treated
" wrote:Why don't you
Come right out and say it?
Even if the words are probably gonna hurt
I'd rather have the truth
Than something insincere
[SIZE="7"][color="MediumTurquoise"]Cobalt Figure 8[/color][/SIZE]UC Pseudonym wrote:For a while I wasn't sure how to answer this, and then I thought "What would Batman do?" Excuse me while I find a warehouse with a skylight...
Yuki-Anne wrote:Wow. You've gathered inferences and made implications about my personality which I find incredibly disturbing.
I actually agree with most of what you said. There is no call for being unnecessarily rude or mean.
It's just that I had this experience where I let a guy down nicely, and he kept on harboring those feelings for a long time, and then brought them back out. I had to be "painfully blunt," as I guess I unfortunately put it.
No matter how much cushioning you give the truth, they're still getting punched in the gut with an iron fist, and there's nothing you can do about that.
I'd rather have the truth from someone than be allowed to continue in false hope. And if I'm displaying a pattern of behavior that actually drives people away, I would want someone to tell me so that I can stop.
but if you know God is calling you to (if you'll allow me to use an extremely thinly veiled self-referential example) go be a missionary in Japan
But perhaps I am making a leap of logic that lack of rejection = encouragement.
Htom Sirveaux (post: 1419460) wrote:Slap him.
No, really. Straight-up let him have it.
Yeah see that's what I'm saying. Unfortunately a lot of others don't seem to agree. Telling a girl she's pretty, hanging out with her, these don't seem creepy or stalkerish to me. Now granted, he may be doing other things that airi didn't mention and I don't know about, so I'm not saying she's falsely accusing the guy. I'm just saying he seems like a decent guy who's maybe a bit socially awkward, but he's trying to be friendly. So advice saying "Tell him he's being creepy or a stalker" just seems mean. Then he's going to get the idea "If you ever compliment a girl at any moment you are immediately a disgusting gross pervert" and then he lives a miserable life alone and ashamed of himself.
Saying "You are a creep/stalker" is one way to make it worse unless he's genuinely acting like one; and again, I think girls like to throw around that term unfairly. Someone was telling me about an image they saw that I think is appropriate. It was a girl walking down the street and a handsome, athletic-looking guy said "Hey, you're pretty hot" and the girl was all "OMG he noticed me!" The next panel was an overweight guy with glasses and acne saying "Hey, you're pretty hot" and the girl was like "OMG what a creepy pervert!"
But I am horribly jealous of you. I've never known what God was ever calling me to do, and still don't, and wonder what it's like to know with absolute certainty what God is telling you to do. It certainly seems a lot easier than living life with anxiety and uncertainty and not knowing what to do.
goldenspines (post: 1419674) wrote:Man, can't we just find a happy medium for all of this? None of this "slap his face"
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