Tsukuyomi (post: 1405230) wrote:Do you have any other hobbies, DrFaust ^^? You should try to pick up writing or drawing ^__^ It'll help keep your mind off of things I know it's easier said then done, but it is a start
Of course, I'll be praying and feel free to PM me if you want ^^
Dr.Faust (post: 1405248) wrote:Yes music and games, both of witch I need a computer. I need to see online lessons for music and toturals for games. I'll try to play music when ever I get the urge to sin. God Bless:angel:
heero yuy 95 (post: 1411559) wrote:Last night, after looking at pornography for the umpteenth time I came to the conclusion that I really need some kind of outside intervention. I've been battling with it on and off since I was 14, and now I'm twenty, six years later. It took me a long time, but I have to admit, I simply am not strong enough to always avoid the temptation in a place where I have easy internet access. So I've decided the best step to take would be to download some free blockers and/or accountability software. Could someone please send me a link to a website where i could download these things?
Sheenar (post: 1413469) wrote:K9 Web Protection is a free service that I've used in the past that has proved helpful.
http://www1.k9webprotection.com/
Yeah, I had a fall in this area here in the wee hours of the morning. Was so much easier to avoid looking at things I shouldn't when I had a computer owned by the State of Texas. It was my goal to keep my new laptop free of this stuff, but now, almost a year after I purchased it, I fell. I feel utterly disgusted with myself. I knew that I shouldn't have gotten on the Internet this late at night (I woke up and felt nauseous and couldn't go back to sleep.) This has been a struggle of mine off and on since I was a teenager. It started as a general curiosity but it damaged me for years, even in the years I didn't look at anything (the images stay with you for a LONG time --which is why it's best not to get involved in the first place and why this stuff has some serious effects psychologically.)
Lately, I haven't been praying or reading the Word very much at all --and it's during those times that I am very vulnerable to fall into old sins (because then I'm relying on my own strength and not Christ's.) I've slipped into a bit of depression since the loss of my service dog, my cat, and because of all the problems at the apartment and with my health. Instead of going to God and letting Him take all these things, I have withdrawn into myself.
I am desperate to get out of this cycle. I do well for a while and read the Word and pray regularly, then I go through a lengthy period of hardly doing any of that at all and fall into sin. I hate it. I hate all of it. I want out. I hate being a Romans 7 Christian --I want to be free of this.
I don't understand why I go back to this time and time again --I KNOW it doesn't satisfy and that it just sucks life and joy out of you and produces guilt --and that it's just plain not worth it. Yet I do it. Even though I don't really want to. I hate it.
ChristianKitsune (post: 1423751) wrote:Now here's where I'm worried about myself. Since that is the case, I really don't want to be "uneducated" in this field... I want to know how this works, so when I finally do get married, I will know what to do, what to expect and how not to get hurt...
So I've started reading stories that are a bit more explicit in nature...and right now they aren't a HUGE problem... like I don't fantasize about it or anything...but at the same time I feel a huge guilt from reading them... They aren't published stories, but rather things that people I know write...and I love to read what they write. I really love these stories! They are interesting...
But I do believe that because of this, I've become very confused... and I'm worried that they will sort of open the doors to new things that I don't want to get into. I don't currently want to get into pornography, and I don't think I am, yet. However, because of this guilt, I do feel a barrier start to form between myself and God. And that's not okay...
Sorry if this was a long post... but any advice/prayer would be helpful.
Hiryu (post: 1423795) wrote:You could always ask your parents. At first, it may seem awkward and you may feel embarrassed, but they're probably the best people you could ask. Got any friends who are married? You could find something out at the library too, I'd imagine.
Atria35 (post: 1424235) wrote:Oh! That's also an excelent suggestion. You could ask your parents (though this can be highly embarassing, and you'd beed to judge as to whether they would talk to you about it. Some parents I know won't), and friends are usually safe people to go asking such questions with if you have any that have experience with this (I have an unmarried friend who.... likes men. While I don't approve, she has proven an invaluable resource when I have a question about anything, and is very open and willing to share without getting lewd). ANd libraries usually carry a few books about sex and sexual health. While it can be embarassing to check them out, they are invaluable resources. My only complaint is that those books are not as comprehensive as I would care for- while they have the absolute basics with tab A and slot B, and are excelent for discovering the anatomy of both sexes, that's far from everything that goes into sex.
Dr.Faust (post: 1424897) wrote:Sliped up again. I wish I can just quite this cold turky. I would like to talk to some one about God and anime and stuff. If you would like to talk my skype is Dr.FaustSNK . Pray for me as I do for you all. *Sigh* so sick of posting about this problem
So to you who are frustrated about masturbation I would say the following:
God is well able to deliver you. If he isn't doing so at the moment, he may, incredible though it may seem to you, have a prior concern with something else in your life.
Your view of the seriousness of your problem is exaggerated. If you search the scriptures, you will find a lot about virtues God commends to you and sins he warns you about. How do you measure up to them? How about forgetting your problem and taking the commands of Scripture seriously? You hurt no one but yourself by masturbating, but whom have you hurt this week by your sarcasm, your coldness, your forgetfulness, your laziness, your lack of tact and courtesy? How many minutes have you praised God in the last twenty-four hours?
Thank God for all your sexual feelings. Don't hate them. They may be as difficult to manage as an unbroken horse, but they represent one of God's richest gifts to you. He made you to feel sexual desire. Be glad and rejoice in it. Thank him, too, for the day when you will be master of your sexual drives. Though it tarry, it will come, if you let God be master in other areas in your life.
Quit hating yourself. Refuse to listen to the endlessly torturous accusations of the accuser of the brethren, who accuses you day and night (Rev. 12:10). If you are cast down, God waits for you with wide-open arms. By all means groan, but take your shame to the throne of grace where blood will wash it away. Your will is being freed and will be freed from the grip of masturbation, too, one day. So learn to laugh at your chains, in faith.
Refuse to let masturbation cause you discouragement and self-disgust. Thomas R. Kelly said, "Humility does not rest... upon bafflement and discouragement and self- disgust at our shabby lives, a brow-beaten, dog-slinking attitude. It rests upon the disclosure of the consummate wonder of God." He also says "When you catch yourself again, lose no time in self-recriminations, but breathe a silent prayer for forgiveness and begin again, just where you are. Offer this broken worship up to Him and say: 'This is what I am except Thou aid me.' Admit no discouragement, but ever return quietly to Him and wait in His Presence."
This is what we are, except he aid us. He knows it. We know it. Acknowledging it is the first step to a true walk with God in any area of our lives. As we turn to look at graver sexual problems, as well as petty ones, honesty with ourselves, with God and at times with one another will be a step towards health and spiritual growth.
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