Ever feel the whole (chrstian) world is out to get you

Postby **bemanisuperstar** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 3:13 pm

I am trying and Trying to find a chrstian singles group in my area EVERY church I contacted has refused to get back to me about this.

Anybody else here have a simular experence where just about Every Church you try has been unable to suit your needs?

Postby **Nia-chan** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 4:28 pm

I haven't had that experience... of course, I'm only fifteen, so... *flees*

Postby **bemanisuperstar** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 4:32 pm

I've felt this way ever since I attented a poorly run Assembly of God almost against my will.

Not by my parents mind you but my cooky godmother.

I find a decent church finally that my parents attend and they don't have a singles group. Not only that I just feel like I don't belong and all the couples rub it in my face.

Look for a Prayer request from me in the Prayer request forum

Postby **Nia-chan** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 4:40 pm

Maybe you could find a different church. I hate feeling like I don't belong. But maybe you could meet a Christian girl a different way. ^_^

Postby **bemanisuperstar** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 4:42 pm

I'm banned from looking on these forums and I'm a bit old for you Nia Chan if that what you're getting at

LOL

I've been looking for a new Church but all my inquries are being pretty much ignored

Postby **Bobtheduck** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 4:43 pm

Hmm... Any church that preaches people have to be married is in severe error... Paul said it's a gift to be single. That teaching, whicn I have seen in many churches, is a very dangerous teaching and if they look down on you for being single, it may be a good time to get out.

And, yes, you can't do your search here. And I don't think that's what Nia was saying at all.

Postby **bemanisuperstar** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 5:04 pm

My Middle name is Paul.............

Not so much the church preaching it but the people are that way.
I really want to ask them for advice but I don't feel like I'd get a decent answer

Postby **Hitokiri** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 5:30 pm

So let me see...you're trying to find a church that doesn't have couples??

Thats kinda hard to find sense most churches have couples but anyways...try and find a church that is good and offers Guys Bible Study (i go to one though alot of guys are dating but thier girlfriends dont attend hence the name GUYS bible study).

I've noticed that you seem to really hate couples, right? Every single one of my friend is in a dating relationship (except me) and it doesn't bother me at all (well it did when my best friend and his girlfriend was making out in the car as we were going to a youth convention :dizzy:

) Maybe you should try to not get so offended by them.

Living your life in syalbasy (sp? - without a mate) isn't bad at all. I was considering that since I couldn't find a girl. But I've prayed to God and waited for bout 18 years (never had a true GF) and now God has blessed me with a girl that possibly could end up in a dating relationship.

Give it some time. But try and go to a church that offers a Guy Bible Study. Or in your home church, start one yourself with your guy age group.

Anyways.....
for your question. I feel perfectly fine at my home church. I don't feel like it's meeting my needs and it's helped me grow. Been going there for a loooonnnngggg time and it's almost a second home so no complaints here.

Postby **bemanisuperstar** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 5:32 pm

I don't really Hate couples just young couples jumping into a marrage that's going to fail in a year anyway.

My brother thinks I should get married too and that's a pretty good endorsement from somebody who spends his life tormenting me

Postby **Hitokiri** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 5:37 pm

heres my advice:

Pray bout it and wait for God to reveal who you will marry. Patience is everything. But as you wait.....enjoy the life of bieng single (you save alot of money :lol:

) Kidding ladies.

Anyways, that reminds me. My best friend (whooses 20) and his fiance whoose 20 to (they are pretty young to get married) are getting married this summer.

Im super exicted (im bringing the possible GF to it

) Though I doubt that it will end in divorce cause they are a couple for God. Plus they have been dating for like 4 or 5 years (its Dr. Oz, who hasn't been on CCA for a while)

Postby **bemanisuperstar** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 5:53 pm

I still think couples who marry too young won't last Couple for God or not.

I don't want to get married for a few years but I at least want somebody in my life.

Praying about it hasn't been very Fruitful. God Just loves to take his time with things.

Postby **Hitokiri** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 5:57 pm

bemanisuperstar wrote:God Just loves to take his time with things.

its true

Just have patience...waititng is a good thing. But like I said...enjoy the single life!!

Postby **Vyse** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 6:07 pm

bemanisuperstar wrote:I still think couples who marry too young won't last Couple for God or not.
.

Thats your opinion, and its very disprespectful to sterotype people that you don't even know reguardless of statistics.

Postby **Mave** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 6:26 pm

It's quite hard to find a church to settle in when one of your criteria is "No Couples" especially at your age (I know coz I'm in your age range as well). Ppl at our age are just going to partner up eventually. You're the first person I've seen who's bugged enough by couples that it decides where you will worship and seek God. Perhaps focusing on God rather than the congregration/attendees might help.

If not, there is one more alternative: Look for a men's small group. There's got to be such groups out there. There's one in my church. Good luck!

You're entitled to your opinions on early marriages but I'm pretty sure that God has allowed some to marry early as part of His greater Plan. So, I can't agree with your statement ("it won't last").

Postby **bemanisuperstar** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 6:36 pm

Or maybe just to annoy me.......

I apoligze but I'm really really really annoyed by all this (being the only single person I know) and I want to do something about it before it costs me my sanity.

I was going to correct something But I forgot what I was going to say

Postby **true_noir_chloe** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 7:09 pm

I direct you to the scriptures in my sig; especially Psalms 40: 1-3

First of all, I don't think it was funny that you made the comment you made to a 15-year-old girl, remarking on what you told Nia-Chan. It's obvious she's not on the prowl for you. You're 22, and I think you should act a bit more mature. If you spoke that way to my daughter, then I'd be banning you right now, even though I know I have no mod powers what so ever.

Second, God gives us the mate we desire, when we desire Him more than anything else. When I met my husband I had settled in my heart that I would be single and serve the Lord, wherever He would lead. Your attitude needs an adjustment. And, if it doesn't change, Lord willing, you won't have a wife. Because, a woman does not deserve a man who wants her more, and wants to feed his personal need more, than He desires the Lord.

I'm not against you, bemanisuperstar, I'm for God, and you need to be too.

Postby **bemanisuperstar** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 7:15 pm

[quote="true_noir_chloe"]I direct you to the scriptures in my sig]

Obviously I was joking

Postby **Lochaber Axe** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 8:02 pm

bemanisuperstar wrote:Obviously I was joking

Simply put, don't joke with humor like that.

A girlfriend is not going to magically land in your lap (pardon if that metaphor is too sexual based on the current discussion) if you actively seek for her. That can be misconstrued as selfishness. Build relationships with girls first, don't pay attention to couples, and just live your life.

God is not slow in giving you a wife; it's just that you are not ready for one right now.

Postby **inkhana** » Wed Apr 21, 2004 8:08 pm

A girlfriend is not going to magically land in your lap (pardon if that metaphor is too sexual based on the current discussion) if you actively seek for her. That can be misconstrued as selfishness. Build relationships with girls first, don't pay attention to couples, and just live your life.

God is not slow in giving you a wife; it's just that you are not ready for one right now.

This is good sound advice.

In the meantime, you have sufficient advice and you know you have our prayers. Thread closed.

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