The self-improvement(with the help of God of course) thread

Postby **Vyse** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 1:03 pm

I just came up with this silly little idea, I thought we could all admit the faults that we have in our faults(thus helping ourselves) but we'd also have the encouragement and prayers of our peers and of course the full support of God. We can also track the progress of ourselves here. Sorry if this is stupid.

For me... I get into arguments way too much, I mean well, but I don't always express it in the best way, I'm too forceful with what I belive in at times.

Postby **DrNic** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 2:05 pm

Umm...could you explain that again plz. I don't quite understand what your asking. Do you mean like tell everyone whats wrong in our lives that we wanna change?

Postby **Vyse** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 2:17 pm

DrNic wrote:Umm...could you explain that again plz. I don't quite understand what your asking. Do you mean like tell everyone whats wrong in our lives that we wanna change?

Yeah, you got it ^_^

Postby **skynes** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 2:22 pm

I am incredibly Impatient, Nasty, Bad Tempered and Unforgiving.

that count?

Postby **Aka-chan** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 2:35 pm

Sounds like me sometimes, skynes. Only, the Lord has also blessed me with a bad memory when it comes to things people have done to me, so I canâ€™t hold a grudge even if I want to. I can be impulsively vindictive at times, though. I never remember to count to ten; any suggestions on helping me think before I say something?

Postby **skynes** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 2:39 pm

Well as a friend of mine said:

When your dad's mouthing off at you (I don't get along with my dad) imagine him in a pink thong...

a sickening thought but it puts me in so much laughter I can't be angry!

So you can try imagining the other person in a pink fluffy thong.... with tassles.

Guaranteed to put you in so much laughter you'd never be nasty.

Postby **DrNic** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 3:34 pm

I use waaaaaaaay too much bad language sometimes. Trying to get out of the habbit.

Postby **YesIExist** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 3:41 pm

skynes wrote:Well as a friend of mine said:

When your dad's mouthing off at you (I don't get along with my dad) imagine him in a pink thong...

a sickening thought but it puts me in so much laughter I can't be angry!

So you can try imagining the other person in a pink fluffy thong.... with tassles.

Guaranteed to put you in so much laughter you'd never be nasty.

Postby **CDLviking** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 3:53 pm

I am a procastinator. Unless it's a group project I always wait until the night before something is due to do it. When I'm in groups I get my work done promptly because I don't want the others to do poorly because of me.

Postby **Bobtheduck** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 4:11 pm

Um... I'll pass on the thong thing... I have a short temper, I'm impatient with my parents, I really get mad at certain issues, I frequently desire things like a 5000 dollar computer, I get arrogant about my knowledge of certain things, but then insecure when people know more than I do. I have a hard time startin things and getting motivated to do things (still haven't started my homestudy of math, and I'm not even doing my normal studies for Japanese very well) I stay up too late, and then sleep in too late. I eat when I'm lonely, which is a lot, and usually drain the house of snacks within a couple days. I feel a sick sort of satisfaction when people who I disagree with fail. I also give up on myself and other people...

For the shortened version, i don't have love... That really scares me, because I know what I John says...

Postby **Azier the Swordsman** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 4:24 pm

I have a short temper which tends too blow up every once in a while... I get very agitated by small things sometimes... I have a hard time getting along with my mom... I often procrastinate about stuff... and I have very bad spending habits. I'm trying to work on all these things, I'm getting a little better at it, but it's going to take a little time...

Postby **Vyse** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 4:33 pm

I'm really glad that everyone is taking this seriously, your doing a great job everyone ^_^

Postby **Link Antilles** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 5:37 pm

Hmmm...... I don't plan ahead well. Also, I have a hard time trusting people and seeing the good in some.

[Quote=Bobtheduck]I have a hard time startin things and getting motivated to do things (still haven't started my homestudy of math, and I'm not even doing my normal studies for Japanese very well) I stay up too late, and then sleep in too late. I eat when I'm lonely, which is a lot, and usually drain the house of snacks within a couple days. [/Quote]

I was that way last year when I stopped working out. I started again this year as a New year's resolution I plan to keep 'til the day I die. The repeatition gets me motived to do things and clears my mind (I guess that way I like techno). I can also go to sleep faster and not over sleep. ^^

Postby **Aka-chan** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 6:56 pm

I'm also really bad at coming up with answers. -_-

About procrastination, though, I've found it helps to be accountable to someone for whatever you have to get done. It could be something like having your parents setting small deadlines that work up to the big project (I'm really bad about keeping my own deadlines, though). Another idea I saw was between two AP history students; they had to pay the other a penny for every page of reading they fell behind on.

And about the pink thong thing...O_o It could have slightly adverse effects on my mentality, but it's certainly an original idea.

Postby **cbwing0** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 7:30 pm

I'm glad that someone started a thread on self-improvement, as it is a great thing.

Anyway, I do have some faults that could use prayer and work to eliminate. First and foremost, I often have trouble being assertive. This results in lots of missed opportunities and general dissatisfaction with myself. I honestly don't know how I will ever get married with the way I act in this area.

Usually I encounter some situation, pass up an opportunity, then convince myself that I really didn't care, even though I know that I should if I want to change.

I will pray for all of you seeking to improve, and I hope that you will pray for me.

Postby **CDLviking** » Sat Mar 27, 2004 11:47 pm

Wow, I never would have guessed you had problems being assertive. You seem so confident to me.

Postby **SwordSkill** » Sun Mar 28, 2004 2:50 am

I'm arrogant, mistrusting, and when I get angry or feel any sort of negative emotion, I tend to swallow it down instead of letting it go which results in me getting very bad stomachaches.

Postby **cbwing0** » Sun Mar 28, 2004 6:36 am

CDLviking wrote:Wow, I never would have guessed you had problems being assertive. You seem so confident to me.

I'm flattered.

The problem manifests itself primarily in the areas of evangelism and relationships. I have no trouble asserting and defending my views in a public setting (verbal or electronic) or with being courageous, but evangelism and relationships are difficult for me. The hardest part for me is just getting started; i.e., going up to someone to start a conversation.

Postby **skynes** » Mon Mar 29, 2004 9:25 am

I've rarely/ if ever started an evangelistic conversation with evangelism.

I tend to actually use my music. Taling about music n stuff allows me to bring in all my Christian bands into the conversation and then from there move on toward the Christian part of the convo.

Might help you trying something like that.

And about the pink thong thing...O_o It could have slightly adverse effects on my mentality, but it's certainly an original idea.

LOL!

My dad has this overtly large belly... I think my mentality will be more affected...

I just imagine... this blob in pink. He slaps one side of his belly and it ripples over to the other and makes everyone seasick!

Postby **kaji** » Mon Mar 29, 2004 9:48 am

The first step to over comming any of our sins is to confess them with our lips (or text in this case).

I have always struggled with motovation, and percrastination (and spelling for that matter ^^). Simmilar to what CDLviking had said earlier, if others are envolved I tend to be able to over come this, that I do not bring them down with me. But, by my self? Not a chance.

Even when I do get motovated, it tends to not last. Maybe its just that I loose interest, but that just seams like a lame excuse that I tell my self to avoid responsibility.

Anyway, I will pray for all of you. I guess life wouldnt be as fun if we were all perfect.^^

-kaji

Postby **TwilightApostle** » Mon Mar 29, 2004 10:51 am

Bob - I have almost all of those shortcomings too. I wish I had some way to help you, but I don't since I'm currently dealing with them. The thing I CAN say is that you seem like a really cool guy, and you have a friend in me if you ever need to talk or something. I'm a firm believer that two people coping with problems is more efficient than one...even if they don't have any answers.

I also have a big problem with lust, stemming from a TREMENDOUS lack self-control, which stems from other, older things. It almost ruined my new relationship. And of course, the guilt that comes from knowingly sinning leads me into a shame spiral, which more often than not ends up in depression...though I've coped with that really well recently.

Twilight Apostle
-The most annoying thing in the world is knowing you should do/not do something, but not having enough discipline to follow through.-

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