Marriage anyone? Anyone at all?

[Heed]

Hey. Well, I am anything but new here but I havn't been around CAA for a while because of work, graduating college, and getting engaged.

Anyway, I am getting married on Feb. 10, 2007 and I am about to tear out my hair... I can't wait for the wedding to be over. Seriously, planning the event is so stressful you will pray for it to be over with so you can just enjoy life with your mate.

I am just wondering if anyone else here is in my shoes... Or anyone who has just gotten engaged or married here? Give a shout. It's great. I love my future bride. She is mazing however I sometimes wanna just jump off a bridge. Lol... j/k

[That Dude]

I'm not even going out with anybody but I hear you. They say that the preperation for the ceromony is one of the hardest things.

[FadedOne]

I like to think i'll love my future husband too much to do this to him. This is why i'm planning on having a tiny ceremony with just immediate family....and then inviting everyone else to a picnic luncheon. They have to bring stuff. I'd rather tell them to bring food & not worry about gifts. That way it's more fun & far less stress. (yea...am i completely out of touch of reality? I scare people when i say this stuf. That and the 'get married in blue jeans' bit )

Anyways, man i wish you luck...no taking short jumps off tall buildings, k? Hope the date comes quickly & you have a beautiful joyful wedding & future w/ your wife.

[Angel37]

I'm engaged and HOPEFULLY the wedding will be relatively cheap, simple, and stress free......

Yeah who am I kidding?

[HitomiYuriko]

SP1 and I have been married for almost 16 years. So any question just give me a shout

[EireWolf]

Congratulations, Heed!

Just a month to go... the wedding will be over, and then you and your bride can relax and just be together. It'll all be worth the craziness, then.

I planned my (and Mithrandir's) wedding almost by myself, so I know how stressful it is. Just think... It's even more stressful for your fiancé. Almost certainly.

Just keep looking forward to February 11th.

[Nate]

Sometimes I'm glad this is a stress I won't have to deal with... XP

[K. Ayato]

Congrats! I know how you feel about the stress before the wedding. I was one of the bridesmaids for my cousin Grace, and during wedding rehearsal, she just lost it. I mean, she was crying her eyes out. Everything was going crazy, but somehow everything fell into place the next day.

[Tenshi no Ai]

Congratulations^^ Lucky you^^

Nah, never been engaged/married, but I really can't wait for the day^^ It can be an exciting thought just thinking about it, but of course I don't have any stress to worry about it... yet.

But yeah, hope things turned out great and good luck to yous both in the future^^

[Warrior 4 Jesus]

I'm single also, but I'd just like to say Congratulations Heed! and also Congratulations Angel37! God Bless you guys richly.

Hitomi, that's an awesome achievement mate! Gives the rest of us hope for a long Christ filled marriage in the future.

[JesusFreak84]

Cool beans. Congrats!

[Ashley]

I'm not engaged yet; however, I know 14 couples getting married by this July, and I'll be a bridesmaid for one in March. Needless to say, I'm surrounded by crazy people!

Yeah, it's stressful, but you just have to remember why you're doing it. And too, though I'm not the expert, I think it's important to keep your cool about details. Will people really remember if the napkins were peach instead of peach flesh? Will someone remark to your beautiful bride if she uses scalloped silverware rather than pronged? My point is that people get caught up in all these little details that don't REALLY matter--that no one will even notice--spend themselves into a hole, and then feel utterly exhausted by the time the big day is there!

You can do this! You'll be just fine. And don't forget to post pictures!

[Sammy Boy]

I got engaged, I am getting married towards the end of this year.

Yes, it can be rather stressful, with the planning of the events in the ceremony, the banquet, the items, the people who will be helping out, the renting of the limo, the speech, the games. And then there is the honeymoon planning and the mortgage...

Ah.... a whole project unto itself. LOL

[Taliesin]

congratulations all engaged couples (there are more than I thought) and have a wonderful married life.

[Hakaii]

Congrats! My wife and I got married in May, 2006. We went through kind of the same thing... at first. After we started to plan out things, we decided to just go to the County courthouse and get married quickly. (If we waited any longer, we would've gone nuts) While this sounds a little cheap and easy, we do have plans for a nice weding with family and friends. When I get into the Air Force, we are going to renew our vows in a really nice ceremony.

[TriezGamer]

[quote="FadedOne"]This is why i'm planning on having a tiny ceremony with just immediate family....and then inviting everyone else to a picnic luncheon. They have to bring stuff. I'd rather tell them to bring food & not worry about gifts. That way it's more fun & far less stress. (yea...am i completely out of touch of reality? I scare people when i say this stuf. That and the 'get married in blue jeans' bit ]

Out of touch with reality or not, I respect that -- mostly because I want the same thing for myself -- though I don't intend to be adamant about it, I find most girls I meet want a 'normal' ceremony, so I don't think I'll be getting such a treatment.

Both of my parents were remarried after a while being single -- and both of them took a minimalistic approach to the wedding. My dad took it to excess and didn't have a ceremony at all -- no one was invited, because they just went to a court house and had the paperwork done. My mother's wedding, though, felt way more personal than any weddings I've ever been to.


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Heed: Congratulations, and don't let the stress get to you too much. Prayer can also work wonders. I hope you have a wonderful time.

[mitsuki lover]

So now we know for sure that K.Ayato is female.

Personally myself whenever I find Miss Right I think I'll just skip the entire formal ceremony and elope.Less stress on everybody involved.

[Warrior 4 Jesus]

Congratulations on your engagement Ultra! Best wishes to the both of you! God Bless

[Tommy]

Sometimes I'm glad this is a stress I won't have to deal with... XP

No it's something you think you won't have to deal with because you have no self esteem.

Me?

I'm becoming a priest so I'll have an excuse.....Therefore, I can accurately say what you just said.

On the other hand, congrats Heed! I think all the stress will be worth the fact you're getting married, right?

[Ashley]

I'm becoming a priest so I'll have an excuse.....Therefore, I can accurately say what you just said.

Not all priests are celibate. I'm dating a pastor-to-be, which is in biblical terms the same office. Though seeing him in his clerical robes does confuse a lot of my friends.

[Tommy]

Well, yeah, my Dad's a pastor. I was just trying to make some sort of twisted dry joke.

[Heed]

Well, thanks for the support. Luckily I made the decision that I am not doing Tuxes. Black suits with a white shirt and appropriate colored tie will do nicely. No limo, just my fiancee's car (because hers get more miles to the gallon and hers is a bit newer than mine :p) Anyway, yah, I am not as nervous about the wedding as I am about the money and bills situation. I just graduated Bible college last Spring and now she is done. We both have school bills however mine are much much more than hers. She had financial support in college, my parents wanted to help me but I know they could not so I had more loans.

We both are going to be missionaries in JApan as well, however we need some form of missionary support that wll help with all our bills.

That is the most stressful thing for me right now. :X

[Tenshi no Ai]

Don't worry about the finances, God will provide you with what you need^^ I mean, I've heard SO many amazing stories of people who have prayed for financial aid, and miraculous things have occured^^ But I understand about all the worry with that on top of a wedding... I'll be praying and I hope things work out great for everything^^

[Ashley]

We both are going to be missionaries in JApan as well, however we need some form of missionary support that wll help with all our bills.

Sweet! My boyfriend and I plan on being missionaries in Japan, too. Gambatte!

[Sammy Boy]

While this sounds a little cheap and easy

I want cheap and easy! But ... families and friends need to be satisfied. It's easy to say that marriage is just something between two people, but I don't think that's true. It's something between two families.

Congratulations on your engagement Ultra! Best wishes to the both of you! God Bless

Thank you!

[Syreth]

This is why i'm planning on having a tiny ceremony...

...I think it's important to keep your cool about details. Will people really remember if the napkins were peach instead of peach flesh? Will someone remark to your beautiful bride if she uses scalloped silverware rather than pronged? My point is that people get caught up in all these little details that don't REALLY matter--that no one will even notice--spend themselves into a hole, and then feel utterly exhausted by the time the big day is there!

I'm all for simple ceremonies, but in my case, I want to do whatever my lady wants whenever that time might be. It seems like the less you choose to worry about, the more enjoyable the experience will be for everyone. It's really about the marriage, not the wedding ceremony.

[indyrocker]

Congrats to y'all! whenever I get married its gona be intresting since I'll more than likly get married at the church my dad plays at and not have to pay for the hall rental and that would be awsome. However there are a few things that stand in the way of such a joyus ocation number 1 I am singol, number 2 I have no romantic intrests that will have me at this time, number three they would have to be crazy if they were intrested in me nuff said.

[andi]

Congratulations to all those who are getting married! I hope it is not too stressful! And like someone said, it's more about the beginning of marriage relationship than the ceremony. It's sort of like graduation--once the ceremony is over, you're just glad to be out of school. You may talk about the ceremony a few times after that--but not a whole lot.

[kaji]

My wife and I are going on our 5th year in 2007. ^_^

My advice is... ELOPE! Save your money and the stress. What you want is to BE married, so just do that and then go have fun. Your mom can cry and eat cake in the comfort of her home, while you send the family pictures from your honeymoon.

Seriously though. Marriage is one of the greatest gifts that God has given us, enjoy eachother.

EDIT: BTW why didnt I know that you guys were all praying about going to Japan as missionaries!? My wife and I are in school now preparing for the Lords service in the same area. We should seriously talk some time.

[Doubleshadow]

Congrats to all the engaged couples and newlyweds.

Just go cheap! Cheapo weddings are a little known benefit to being poor. My Mom and Dad were married in home made dress with borrowed tuxes (they one was yellow and the other powder blue!), the picture man was a friend who volunteered (the one and only picture of my folks is blurry), and my grandparents church is so country, the didn't replace the out houses until less than ten years ago! My grandma married my grandpa in a pant suit after a bus ride from WV to Missouri with no family present in front of a justice of the peace on the Air Force Base, then went back to her mother until the paychecks for a married couple started to arrive! My closest friend who grew up just down the road told me her Mom got married in overalls! (You Canadians are crazy.) When my oldest cousin got married, the dinner was a pot luck at the church and the cake was a sheet cake bought at Foodland!