Virgin over 18? Do they still exist?

[Gypsy]

I feel bad that I found this thread so late.

I think many, many good points have been made here, and just for the sake of having my say, I'll re-hash.

When the time comes for me to fall in love and think about marriage, sexual purity will be an important factor. Naturally, I would prefer that my future husband would have saved himself for marriage. It's not only the issue of being a virgin, but it already shows his level of commitment, morality, self control, and last but certainly not least, his spiritual walk and acceptance of God's plan.

However, I also understand that mistakes are made. Everyone is human, and therefore, no one is above sinning. Maybe the guy I'm going to be with didn't get saved until later on in life, and he already made some mistakes. Or, maybe he was already saved and lost his virginity. If that is the case, I fully believe that God will give me the heart and mindset to love, trust, and think of him no differently than if he had saved himself for marriage. Regardless of his past, he is still the one God made me for, and I fully intend on keeping myself pure for him.

I'm sure almost everyone has heard it, but there's an excellent Rebecca St James song that fits very well here. It also brings up a very, very good point. I believe that it is absolutely essential that single Christians pray for their future mates. Even if you doubt you'll ever get married - it's not going to hurt you in the least to pray for that person. The neat thing is, you may have already been praying for each other long before you meet.

Wait For Me
by Rebecca St James


Darling, did you know that I, I dream about you,
Waiting for the look in your eyes when we meet for the first time
And darling did you know that I, I pray about you,
Praying that you will hold on
Keep your loving eyes only for me

Because I'm waiting for, praying for you, darling
Wait for me too, wait for me as I wait for you
Because I'm waiting for, praying for you, darling
Wait for me too, wait for me as I wait for you
(Darling wait, darling Wait)

Darling, did you know I dream about life together
Knowing you will be forever.
I'll be yours and you'll be mine.
And darling when I say, "till death do us part",
I'll mean it with all of my heart, now and always faithful to you

Now I know you may have made mistakes,
But there's forgiveness and a second chance.
So wait for me, darling wait for me, wait for me, wait for me

Wait for me, darling Wait
Because im waiting for you, Because im waiting for you
So wait for me, darling wait
Wait for me



[align=left]I love the lines "... Now and always faithful to you." Even if you've made a mistake, it's never too soon to praying for and start saving yourself for that furture someone. I often pray for my brothers' future wives as well.

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[Locke]

my mom has that cd. the lyrics are so moving she sings them

[Saint Kevin]

Here's something interesting...it seems it's not a sin to marry one of the opposing belief -> Corninthians 7:13 -> If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is consecrated through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is consecrated through her husband. Otherwise, your children would be unclean, but as it is they are holy

(Emphasis mine)

I have to disagree with you there. Paul was talking about believers who already had unbelieving spouses(i.e. they were both married as unbelievers and then one of them got saved). Just because your spouse is a unbeliever, that doesn't give you a right to divorce them. But I do think single believers should not marry unbelievers. To marry an unbeliever is to submit yourself to much grief that you otherwise wouldn't have had to deal with if you had married a believer. At least, that is what I've been told.

6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness

[Mithrandir]

> Has anyone noticed how Shoor's avatar looks like Citan Uzuki from Xenogears?

In this case (briefly OT), my avatar is actually Tofu-sensei from Ranma 1/2.

There's even a kind of physical resemblance...

You know there's a reason I got you addicted to that anime, right?

[YesIExist]

I was thinking. Claims to virginity are relative to one's definition of what virginity is. And there are different types of sex (don't believe Clinton's claims).

[Knives]

umm yeah im 13 and still a virgin ! YAY!!!!

Yah im _ _ and im still a virgin

[Gypsy]

I was thinking. Claims to virginity are relative to one's definition of what virginity is. And there are different types of sex (don't believe Clinton's claims).

While I see your point, I seriously hope no one feels the need to define. As has been stated before - being an unwed virgin and being sexually pure are indeed seperate things.

Please, please remember that we have younger members here.

[DrNic]

Please, please remember that we have younger members here.

Yeah, I could be scarred for life!

...sorry, I've always wanted to say something like that. Perhaps we should kinda stop talking about things like that. Talk to your Pastor about it if you're that confused.

[HikariChan]

i dont mean to be talking about this subject. sorry. but alot of kids at my scholl thinks if you havent had sex like in jr. then your weird. i dont get it. and ppl talk so openly about it. well sorry but jr is way to young to be doin that type of stuff!

[Enthralled]

21 and still a virgin, and proud to say so! Alot of my unsaved friends think I'm weird cause I don't even care about trying to find a girl, and that I've never even had a girlfriend... well, actually I did in 6th grade haha! But we never even really talked or hungout outside of school, so I don't think that counts haha. I mean, there's more to life than constantly being on the lookout for someone.

Anyways, my thinking is that if God has someone for me, awesome, everything will work out the way its supposed to. If not, awesome!

[Kisa]

*Raises hand*
21 virgin and proud of it!
Only after marriage!
^_^

[Inferno]

Yah im _ _ and im still a virgin

your so pathetic knives.

[bemanisuperstar]

This thread is slowly starting to depress me.
Now that I know they are out there....
Where can I hook up with one:^(

I'm not allowed to here.

I'll be quit now and go back to being sad about my matital status........

Mods if you wish to close this thead please do. I'm just going to keep complaining about my status anyway.

[madphilb]

I'll tell you right off, bemanisuperstar, that I was in that mode all through High School and beyond. It's a very secular social mentality that we as Christians need to learn to ignore in our own lives, and find a way to effect society in a way that that attitude will not be so normal.

It took a divorce and alot of soul searching and learing from God before I began to understand this, and I'm sorry I didn't earlier... just the energy wasted worrying about such things could have been put to much better use (even if it had been playing stupid video games

The whole concept puts you in the wrong frame of mine, and has you focus on the wrong thing. Every relationship I've ever been in has been ruined because of it (including my marriage).

In the end I'd recommend Ray Mosholder's Singles book (Singles Plus?), as it looks at the blessing that single life is... you need to learn to live as a single, joyously with God before any relationship such as they one you're looking for will work.

In the end, God is in charge of things, your life too if you put him there. When it's time, when you're ready, God will supply what you need/desire, but I'd trust him first with teaching you how to be single.

Even married people have to live a "single" life at times (esp. if you travel, etc.).

I'd say relax, learn to love being single, God'll take care of the rest (and pray for Him to be working in their lives, to perfect them for the time).

Otherwise you may very well wind up with more heartache than you can imagine.

[inkhana]

your so pathetic knives.

Inferno, please refrain from making personal comments about other members and keep conversation constructive.

[YesIExist]

While I see your point, I seriously hope no one feels the need to define. As has been stated before - being an unwed virgin and being sexually pure are indeed seperate things.

Please, please remember that we have younger members here.

My point is is that there are degrees of purity, in my opinion. You could be "technically" a virgin, but still have done other things. Professing total physical purity when it just isn't so is deceptive (again, in my opinion). Not to say that there are not people on here that aren't completely physically pure.

[Vyse]

I'm 20 and I'm a virgin, only after I get married will I loose that, I came close to loosing it once... I'm so so glad I didn't.

[Hitokiri]

Where can I hook up with one:^(
Mods if you wish to close this thead please do. I'm just going to keep complaining about my status anyway.

hey, being single is not bad at all I mean seriously....you save money

I've been single for most of my entire life and I plan to be until I find the girl who God plans to be my future wife

Just keep praying for that special girl God has planned for you. Be patient.

[shooraijin]

My point is is that there are degrees of purity, in my opinion. You could be "technically" a virgin, but still have done other things.

A good point to make, but one that shouldn't be explored in detail.

[bemanisuperstar]

hey, being single is not bad at all I mean seriously....you save money

I've been single for most of my entire life and I plan to be until I find the girl who God plans to be my future wife

Just keep praying for that special girl God has planned for you. Be patient.

well maybe the process could be sped up if I was directed to some good
Chrstian Dating sites.

[Ashley]

Ok, enough already. We asked you to stop fishing around for girlfriends here, and jokingly or not, that's what I'm picking up again. Just start hanging out with the right crowds more--by "right" I mean Christian friends that won't pressure you into doing things you know you shouldn't--and God will provide you with a mate when He feels you're ready. Won't happen any sooner than that. And you can count on Him to do so, because the bible says that He knows all our needs even before we ask Him.

So alright, there's your solution. As for the sound-off part of this thread, I think it's gone far enough. Lots of good things have been said, so I think I will give this thread some euthanasia and let it die peacefully into the archives.