The Problem with Black and White
PostPosted: Fri Oct 22, 2010 9:56 am
In light of CAA's recent test drive with theological discussion, I thought I might share this article with you guys. It's written by Donald Miller, author of Blue Like Jazz, and has a lot of good things to say about discussing ideas with others. Here is the article in its entirety, and here's an excerpt that I thought might be particularly helpful for everyone to read, read again, and apply to the way all of us approach controversial topics on the board.
What do you all think? Discuss!
[SIZE="4"]"H[/SIZE]ere are a few ways I’ve had to train myself to not think in black and white. And it’s been one of the hardest thing I’ve had to do:
1. Disengage your ego from your ideas: Our ideas aren’t really ours, they are just ideas. They may be true ideas, which makes them important, but they aren’t our true ideas, and people should have the free will to either agree with them or not. It is very difficult to be honest with ourselves about whether our egos are involved, but it’s the territory of a better thinker.
2. Understand there is much you don’t understand: We begin to think in black and white when we assume we know everything. But this is an illogical assumption. Especially if we are young. Those who think in black and white and defend their camps will have a hard time engaging new and valuable information because they have already built their home halfway across the desert. Admitting something else is true means admitting we were wrong, and that’s a very difficult thing to do.
3. Walk away from black-and-white conversations: When the conversation becomes about defending one's identity, it’s time to politely move on. If the conversation is calm, and nobody is defending their ego, you’d be amazed at what information unfolds in the discussion. (I often respond to comments on my blog, but I won’t get into black-and-white arguments for this very reason. These discussions go nowhere and don’t help me find truth.) Winston Churchill said it this way: “A fanatic is someone who can’t change his mind and won’t change the subject.”
Use these phrases often: "At this point," "I’ve come to believe" or "I’ll never stop learning, but I’m attracted to the idea that …" Some will read these statements as weak, and wonder at what point we should take a stand, but I see these as strong and humble statements. When you make statements like this, your listener hears that you are objective and have sought truth. You are, as such, thought of as more trustworthy, and your argument is given more weight."
What do you all think? Discuss!