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Does anyone ever feel psychologically older then they are?

PostPosted: Wed Feb 04, 2009 9:34 pm
by Dante
I've noticed this. It just seems like over the last several years that I'm psychologically (as in how I feel) feeling older and older at a VERY rapid pace. And further more, its not a positive feeling. I'm 22 going on 23 and I feel like I'm in my 40's.

I mean, when the pastor talks about dating I'm the one who might oddly feel like I'm too old to be considering "that childish stuff". When others that should be of similar age are singing or clapping, I'm unfortunately finding myself giving sharp looks to imply they should "act more mature". Or when kids "my own age" (and yeah they're my age but I still call them kids) approach me for friendship I feel I'm more likely to shun them and seek out discussion with someone who is much older. Often times when asked in exercise courses to do exercise I often find myself making the comment "I'm too old for this kind of thing."

Overall, I just feel like I'm becoming an old man in this body, even though spiritually I feel much younger. It's really weird.

Anyone else feel this way?

PostPosted: Wed Feb 04, 2009 10:20 pm
by That Dude
It's really funny because I've felt like that since my early teens...But as I've grown older I've started to find myself feeling younger, I think that may be because I've grown more spiritually mature and keep on finding out how pathetic I am without Christ.

Anyway I still have a problem calling people my age and sometimes older "kids." My oldest brother always says that I'm like an old man mixed with a young geek...Or something like that.

PostPosted: Wed Feb 04, 2009 11:15 pm
by Midori
I'm not quite sure whether I feel 23 or 15 right now... But yeah. It's amazing how little your feeling of age depends on your actual age as you get older. When you're 4 or 5, your age is the most important thing about you. When you're older, it matters less.

PostPosted: Wed Feb 04, 2009 11:38 pm
by Kurama
I feel psychologically younger than I really am. O.O I wish I felt older but I just haven't hit that yet in my life.

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 5:42 am
by Raiden no Kishi
Only in the "Dang kids! Get off my lawn!" sort of way.

And seeking out people older than you for conversation is generally a good thing. More teens and twentysomethings shoud do it.

.rai//

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 6:26 am
by Robin Firedrake
I feel younger... And considering my age right now that isn't really a good thing.

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 7:05 am
by Mr. SmartyPants
Yes. It's not quite uncommon, actually. =)

We have three different types of ages: Chronological Age, Biological Age, and Psychological Age.

Chronological: How old you really are.
Biological: The point age which your body is developed at.
Psychological Age: The age which your mind is at. Decisions on what kind of person you are as well as your maturity/immaturity level. May be tied with your biological age depending on how quickly your brain developed compared to other people.

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 7:14 am
by EricTheFred
Every time I have to deal with some issue my teenager has created for himself and the rest of us, I feel about 47....

Oh, wait...

Seriously, it's a common thing for the well-grounded or moral conscious to look around and conclude they're surrounded by immature people, or conversely, to think they themselves must be emotionally older than their age. After all, they worked through the same issues when they were younger than this. Just don't start feeling self-righteous about it. Sometimes we don't notice our short-comings when we focus on our neighbors. Remember that bit about the mote in your brother's eye?

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 8:19 am
by ich1990
I think this is fairly normal, especially for those of us who were forced to "grow up" much earlier than normal (starting college at a young age, etc.). In fact, throughout my entire life I have mainly associated with people who are decades older than me. I am simply not very comfortable around teenagers.

The trick is to remember that acting like your age does not mean that you have the maturity of that age. So, go ahead, act childish and use bad puns. It is really much more fun than acting mature, and you won't be able to get away with it forever. When a serious situation pops up, be serious. Try to achieve a healthy balance and remember that you don't have anything to prove to the world.

I hope I don't sound preachy. This is something that I have had to work through, I hope my comments help you.

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 8:37 am
by Shao Feng-Li
I always kinda feel younger than 19, but maybe that's because I always thought I could have boyfriends, go out parting and swear when I got older. Of course, those things never happened. I'm kinda like- "Yippie- about 1/4 of my life is over."

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 9:18 am
by The Liar XIII
Honestly, I do.
Especially when I write. Just this whole other side of me comes out. Kind of like a brilliant, sad, disturbed, mature kind of character.
While, this joking persona I portray on CAA and other forums is just me on an every day basis.
Most of my poetry and my short stories comes from this side. This person I love to be, this older character.
It's just weird. I just get this excellent feeling of maturity and creativity. It's hard to explaining.

This side really came out when I started listening to The Doors.

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 6:47 pm
by ADXC
Wow, good topic. Yeah I do feel as if Im way more mature than my guy classmates. I mean I usually seem like the only one who is working when everyone else is just playing around worrying about nothing of the sort. At times I can be a little spontaneous and not feel older than I am, but when Im sober(Not hyper off of chocolate.) I usually am very serious to what I am doing and not wanting to goof-off.

Spiritually though, Im still learning. I may be a teenager at best as far as my spiritual life goes. I don't spend nearly the amount of time in the Bible that I need to and I usually only spend just 15 minutes a day in the Bible. So spiritually Im not grown up at all.

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 7:19 pm
by minakichan
I used to feel like that.

I got over it, thank goodness.

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 7:25 pm
by xblack_x_rosesx
I think its pretty common.

In some ways I feel older, in some ways I feel right about where I'm supposed to be.

I mean, I love feeling like this young girl in her "prime". I get to party and be a seductress without feeling weird, so... I think I'm good there.

But most of my friends are older then me. I mean, I bonded really well with this 27 year old... a decade older then me. We went out for coffee a ton, but people were telling me it was unnatural for me to hang out with someone so significantly older then me.
Most of my friends are at least 2 or 3 years older then me, but I consider myself more mature then them in most respects, so I have no clue.

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 7:48 pm
by Robin Firedrake
Ok. Here's me.: Not accepted by other people my age, most adults like me. They tell me I'm very mature for my age, I think "I'm not old enough to drink coffee yet!"

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 8:35 pm
by SailorDove
While growing up, I always was around & preferred the company of those older & younger than myself. We were pretty much on the same wavelength. So unlike when I was stuck in a classroom, (or other environment), with teenagers my own age. Then I'd be either quietly lost &/or socially inept.

Surprised no one mentioned that verse about "being childlike, not childish" yet.

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 8:46 pm
by Whitefang
At the moment, I feel 2 years older in my physical age, but my mental age is about where it should be. I used to feel extremely mature for my age in high school, but looking back I would have reacted to various situations drastically differently.

I didn't smoke, didn't have sex, didn't do drugs, didn't drink, etc. (Uh, still don't, but that's irrelevant). But even still, I realize that, looking back, I wasn't as mature as I had made myself out to be. I still react poorly in social situations, but that's because it's something I have to work at to be successful. I feel as though I am definitely maturing as I age at a steady rate; but having the regrets that I have just makes me realize how far away I am from understanding much of anything, so now I feel that maturity is irrelevant and responsibility is what I should focus on as I develop now.

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 9:07 pm
by KeybladeWarrior
I feel around 4 years younger than my actual age. I am still immature and have not learned to drive. XD

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 9:20 pm
by xblack_x_rosesx
KeybladeWarrior (post: 1286835) wrote:I feel around 4 years younger than my actual age. I am still immature and have not learned to drive. XD


XD
I lol-ed at that =P

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 9:52 pm
by PrincessZelda
When I was younger, I did. Now it's kind of the reverse. I seriously can't believe I'm as old as I am.

Oh yeah, and when I was like, 13-14, people would think I was 17 or so, and now that I'm 18, people think I'm 16.... o_o

PostPosted: Thu Feb 05, 2009 10:09 pm
by xblack_x_rosesx
Haha, me too.
I think it's just cos I'm so tall.
Well, I mean, people always think I'm older. Still. So, not a "me too" entirely =p

PostPosted: Fri Feb 06, 2009 5:59 am
by Sailor Kenshin
Pascal (post: 1286583) wrote:I've noticed this. It just seems like over the last several years that I'm psychologically (as in how I feel) feeling older and older at a VERY rapid pace. And further more, its not a positive feeling. I'm 22 going on 23 and I feel like I'm in my 40's.

I mean, when the pastor talks about dating I'm the one who might oddly feel like I'm too old to be considering "that childish stuff". When others that should be of similar age are singing or clapping, I'm unfortunately finding myself giving sharp looks to imply they should "act more mature". Or when kids "my own age" (and yeah they're my age but I still call them kids) approach me for friendship I feel I'm more likely to shun them and seek out discussion with someone who is much older. Often times when asked in exercise courses to do exercise I often find myself making the comment "I'm too old for this kind of thing."

Overall, I just feel like I'm becoming an old man in this body, even though spiritually I feel much younger. It's really weird.

Anyone else feel this way?


Alas, I feel the opposite---and I'm old enough to be everyone's grandparent. :p

I think, though, that when I was younger, I felt the same way you do.

PostPosted: Fri Feb 06, 2009 10:34 am
by soul alive
I'm the 'baby' in my class-year at school, and that's saying a lot, considering we have people who are 50+ in the major I'm in, so I've felt younger than I was for several years.

At the moment, I think I feel pretty close to my age, of course, being stressed out 24/7 from grad school tends to take things like that out of my thought process... lol

PostPosted: Fri Feb 06, 2009 11:13 am
by LadyRushia
I've always been the youngest in my class/grade. I started college at 17 while a good number of juniors in high school are 17. I didn't skip a grade or anything, I just have a late birthday and started kindergarten when I was four (before they changed the law). Most of my friends are older than me anyway, but I generally feel like my age; however, there are times where I feel more mature/smarter than most people my age, and I've been told that by a good number of adults, so yeah, XD.

PostPosted: Fri Feb 06, 2009 2:02 pm
by Doubleshadow
I've always been mentally older than my peers. I suppose it comes from being as smart as I am from all the reading I did. Now that I'm in grad. school though, I'm around people of similar intellect, so I now longer feel like I'm surrounded by overgrown babies all the time like I did in high school.

PostPosted: Sat Feb 07, 2009 8:50 pm
by Mr. SmartyPants
Sailor Kenshin (post: 1286897) wrote:Alas, I feel the opposite---and I'm old enough to be everyone's grandparent. :p

I think, though, that when I was younger, I felt the same way you do.

Mind me asking how old you are? XD

PostPosted: Sat Feb 07, 2009 9:11 pm
by minakichan
Alas, I feel the opposite---and I'm old enough to be everyone's grandparent. :p

Wow.

I sure wish my 93-year-old grandma could use the internet... and remember that yes, I am related to her, and no, I'm not the maid.

PostPosted: Sat Feb 07, 2009 10:55 pm
by ShiroiHikari
Most of my friends are older than I am and I still often feel like I'm surrounded by teenagers. XD

Sometimes I feel like an old geezer lady and sometimes I feel like a little kid. It depends on who I've been hanging around.

PostPosted: Sat Feb 07, 2009 11:56 pm
by Popsicle
I often feel older than I am. But I know in a couple years I'll probably look back at myself and be like,"wow, I was stupid."

PostPosted: Sun Feb 08, 2009 12:49 am
by RandomBurrito
I'm sorta opposite. I feel younger than what I really am; I mean c'mon I'm 83! Ok, just joking about the 83 thing (obviously) but I do often feel younger than what I am; though, occasionally, I do feel either the age that I am or older. It all depends I guess. Did I make sense? ._.