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On Saturday, the day before my birthday (I'm 15!), I went with my best friend to Boscov's with her cousin. And as I walk down the hallway, we are talking about how they are going and stuff like that. Anyway, my friend asked how is she with her girlfriend. After a while, she tells me she broke up with her (Mind you, when I thought she said girlfriend, I thought she meant a friend that's a girl)

To my shock, I found out she's a lesbian! And, I know I shouldn't judge people for what they like (even though it is wrong), but I feel uncomfortable around her a bit, but I try to act like I didn't know.

When I came out wearing a brown and white collared polo shirt and normal jeans, her cousin (Jessica or Jasmine, I forgot) looked me up and down. Then she said, "You have a nice chest."

I'm shocked and horrified, and my best friend just pulled her away while I'm trying to contemplate what just happend.

So after the embarrassment and yelling from my friend to her cousin, I buy the shirt (I didn't have enough for the jeans) and leave.

So anyway, I'm trying not to be rude and also keep my distance away from her cousin, but she keeps looking at me and I have to look away.

It was UNTIL she had to leave, my worst fear of that day was confirmed. As my best friend and cousin left, her cousin past by me and whispered, "You're cute." before going inside the van.

I'm horrified, and I don't really want to see her again. But it turns out, she graduated (she's a senior) that week and is staying with them for a month or two so she can get more money for college and the fact she wants to attend University of MD. Chances are, I will have no choice BUT to see her again.

But I'm scared, because on a daily basis, I go to my friend's house and her cousin is gay and that's just not right. I want to tell her that I don't like her like that, that I'm straight and have a boyfriend, but she's much taller and she's kind of intimidating. (Why is all this happening to me this year!?)

So in other words: PLEASE HELP!

First of all... Gay people are people too..you should not be afraid of them. Their life style is odd, but they need God too just like the rest of us..

Secondly, being afraid is silly, jus tell her that you are taken. She will probably stop. But because you aren't saying anything she probably thinks that you aren't taken..

I have friends who are gay too, and I think they are really nice people...but they know where I stand, and I know where they stand...and we respect each other's lifestyle, even if we don't agree...

Granted, I haven't seen this friend in ages...but still...you just gotta show them Christ's love, and not be afraid. Again, they are people too.

While I agree with CK--homosexual people struggle with issues just as each of us struggle with issues--I think it's only right to give a balanced perspective.

First and foremost, if this girl is in college, she's probably at least 18. Homosexual or heterosexual, minors (you) are protected against sexual advances by adults(her). Those kinds of remarks are the beginning of what one might deem to be sexual harassment. If you feel unsafe or uncomfortable, don't stay in that setting, and please[i] don't be afraid to tell you parents or another adult you trust how you're feeling. Please. Furthermore, you can make it abundantly clear that you are [i]not interested in her sexual advances.

I know it may not be a popular option, but you could stay away from the house. Look at it this way: Imagine if the 18 (?) year old male cousin of your friend had come to live with her and he had made those comments about you. Wouldn't that make you very uncomfortable and, perhaps, keep you away from that house for your own safety?

Just be cautious.

Make it very clear that you are straight.
If she continues to make comments like "You're cute." or "Nice chest.", that's sexual harassment.

You are very right to feel threatened by this, do not feel bad about it.

How would you handle this situation is she was a male?
Hopefully you would take action if a guy that was bigger and stronger than you made his rather impure thoughts regarding you so boldly known.

It all starts with a thought, and thoughts lead to action.
Protect yourself from that action.

If you make your feelings regarding this matter clear, the girl might choose to respect it and you might even end up becoming friends.

Perhaps she was testing the water to see where you stand sexually, and maybe once she figures it out she'll give you the respect you deserve.

However, if things continue to escalate, I suggest getting your parents involved.
Your parents will not be angry with you for bringing something like this to their attention, but they will be angry if they find out that you were keeping it from them.

D'oh...yeah I was gonna say that it's kinda sexual harrassment too...I would also tell your parents, like others have suggested...

^^; sorry.

If she keeps coming on to you, tell her to back off or you won't be coming around. After all, she is a pervert in one of the worst ways. You may respect her, but you don't have to respect sin.

I'm sure your best friend will understand that her cousin makes you uncomfortable. Her cousin makes ME uncomfortable and I don't even know her! If you tell your best friend that you don't want to be near her cousin she will probably listen to you and act accordingly. Hopefully you will still be able to hang with your bff while avoiding her cousin.

Just tell her you don't swing that way and if she keeps harassing you you'll tell
your friends parents about it.

Whatever sexual orientation one may have, I wouldn't put up with sexual harassment of any form. I would avoid her as much as I can. But if she still comes for me, I'm telling her to back off or I'll report her.

I would have done the same thing if it were a guy.

If i were you, id hide a banana on her and let a gorilla lose on her.. but thats me.


but being serious, you need to communicate to that girl that your not gay, and your most defiantly not interested. if she persists, you need to tell your parents and your friends parents so they can handle the situation for you.

Rule one: GAYS ARE PEOPLE TOO.

All right. I've had my own issues with stuff like this, reversely. Occasionally I've met the gay person who is just so out there sexually who wants to seduce any living creature...but you know what, I've met a lot of straight people like that too, probably even more so on the straight side. First I'd mention it to your cousin, that you don't enjoy her talking to you that way at all, and see if that stops it. If this doesn't work for whatever reason, FIRMLY tell her that you are straight, uninterested, and have a boyfriend.

If all else fails, just tell your cousin that you won't hang around her if her friends keep hitting on you. Gay, Straight, or whatever, you should NOT have to deal with that.