A little advice needed for a hopelessly clueless guy.

Postby **Destroyer2000** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 6:07 pm

Haha. Anyway, this friday is my girlfriend and I one month anniversary. I want to get her this little gift, this dogtag with a picture of the two of us on the day I asked her out. It has a space to put a little message at the bottom, but I'm not sure what to say exactly. I don't like to use the word love, as we've been together only a month, and that is a strong word anyway. It's not good to use unless you are absolutely certain of it. So, any advice for this guy? I've been called a hopeless romantic, but yet, all of my romantic-type thinking leaves me in my time of need, haha.

Postby **Mr. SmartyPants** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 6:18 pm

Here's an idea, write "Stay Happy". It gives a ring that you're a selfless man; so if you two ever part, she'll still remember that all you want her is to be happy (With or without you).

Postby **USSRGirl** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 6:56 pm

O.o Eh... from a girl perspective, I'm not sure if "stay happy" really sounds quite right. Kinda sounds like you wanna dump her soon. How about somethin' sweet that can be both friendly and romantic? Like: "Always Thinking of You" or "Always Near My Heart" (see cause it's a necklace... get it? UGH. I dunno! I'm better at writing tyrannical speeches! Go look on the back of Hallmark card and steal whatever it says there! XP)

Postby **c-girl** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 6:56 pm

I'd go with Mr.Smartypants suggestion, that is so sweet! >^-^<~<3

Postby **Mr. SmartyPants** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 7:00 pm

USSRGirl wrote:O.o Eh... from a girl perspective, I'm not sure if "stay happy" really sounds quite right. Kinda sounds like you wanna dump her soon.

You kidding me? "Stay Happy" is legit. And frankly, when you're in a relationship, you want your companion to stay happy (Of course there are times which that is not the case, but generally speaking).

"Always near my heart" or "Always thinking of you" is extremely superficial and false. For one thing, it's a promise that you can't guarantee. You don't know if things will work out later down the road, and eventually that statement will be a lie. But even if a relationship does break, it's nice to wish your ex happiness down his or her future.

Thus, why "Stay Happy" wins. So if you two ever do break up, she'll always remember you as that sweet guy that wanted nothing but for her to be happy.

Edit: Alternatively, "Don't Stop Smiling", "Always Smile", or other similar things work as well.

Postby **Destroyer2000** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 7:06 pm

Yeah, but stay happy does sound rather...final. As they said, almost like it was the last words of a relationship. And trust me, that's not the case.

Edit: "Always smiling" or "Don't Stop Smiling" Sounds good, as both of us were...for lack of a better word, giddy, in that picture. One of the few of me where I am smilng like a fool, haha.

Postby **Mr. SmartyPants** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 7:09 pm

Destroyer2000 wrote:Yeah, but stay happy does sound rather...final. As they said, almost like it was the last words of a relationship. And trust me, that's not the case.

xD Well I disagree. I think it's lovely. It only sounds "final" because all the sappy romance movies and tv shows and all the drama that gets forced into our heads.

But it's your call, dude.

Postby **Destroyer2000** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 7:27 pm

Yeah...I'm looking and stuff and thinking. It's likely going to be something with 'smile' in it, though.

Postby **Tommy** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 7:32 pm

Mr. SmartyPants wrote:You kidding me? "Stay Happy" is legit.

Says the GUY.

Since when has a guy made you one of these?

How about something like:

Nothing is more True Than My Love for You.

Unless that feels too rushed, corny, or won't fit.

*Assumes it would fall under all three.*

Postby **Ashley** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 7:44 pm

Yeah, I agree, if you put "love" or "always" on there she will either: A) freak out that you're so serious so soon or B) become emotionally attached to you way too quickly.

I think something like "I love your smile" might be okay, though. Or maybe "I am so blessed by you"--something that shows your gratitude to her for being in this relationship.

Postby **K. Ayato** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 7:45 pm

How about this one? "No matter what happens, keep smiling."

Postby **Destroyer2000** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 7:48 pm

Yeah, I like those. I'll have to see the maximum length, though. Haha.

Website · Postby **Alice** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 7:49 pm

A dogtag? What will those kids think of next? :grin:

Postby **Destroyer2000** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 7:51 pm

It looks like a dogtag. It's more of a slab of metal with an engraved pciture on it, though.

EDIT: IT looks like this: http://www.classicengraving.org/heartpendant.gif

Website · Postby **Alice** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 7:57 pm

Aww, it's a heart. Only a guy would call that a dogtag.

Postby **RedMage** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 8:07 pm

'Scuse me, I'm a guy, and I wouldn't call that a dogtag. :eyebrow:

But then, I'm a hopeless mushy romantic.

Postby **Mave** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 9:23 pm

I think "I love your smile" works. It's still romantic and yet, not begging for commitment. It's like a general encouragement and support for her happiness and self esteem.

I would not mind getting that. LOL

Postby **Mithrandir** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 9:46 pm

Take notes, guys. There's some hidden advice up there.

(No really, go re-read it...)

Postby **Alexander** » Mon Apr 23, 2007 9:59 pm

*falls through the roof*

I HAVE THE SOLUTION!

*confetti falls in*

You should write: "Somewhere in time, a miracle of friendship is given."

It isn't directly romantic, but it's very warming at the same time.

*goes to get materials to fix the hole in the roof*

Postby **Mr. SmartyPants** » Tue Apr 24, 2007 3:40 am

Alexander wrote:*falls through the roof*

I HAVE THE SOLUTION!

*confetti falls in*

You should write: "Somewhere in time, a miracle of friendship is given."

It isn't directly romantic, but it's very warming at the same time.

*goes to get materials to fix the hole in the roof*

I like it... but I bet it's too long. xD

Postby **Destroyer2000** » Tue Apr 24, 2007 7:13 pm

Alright, I got it made. I'll post the pictures of the front and back sides...
On the front is just a picture of me and her. On the back, it says,
"Patrick and Tori
E.S.T
03-27-07"

The E.S.T. is "Ever since time" so that no matter when she looks at it, she will still remember that day. Lord willing, we will still be together years from now.
Let me know what you think!

Postby **Icarus** » Tue Apr 24, 2007 8:03 pm

<.< >.>

/me takes notes...

Looks good, Destroyer.

Postby **mitsuki lover** » Wed Apr 25, 2007 11:26 am

hmmm...it's a bit uber serious for only having been together for a month.What if you break off?You should seriously have waited a longer while before even thinking of going off and doing something like that.A year or 2 would have been better IMO.
If you really wanted to give her something to commerate your one month anniversary of being together you should have picked something nice but less
likely to cause problems in case you split up later on like flowers.

Postby **Destroyer2000** » Wed Apr 25, 2007 12:41 pm

Uber-serious? I don't think so. It's not like it was insanely expensive or anything. It's just a locket.

Postby **RedMage** » Wed Apr 25, 2007 12:59 pm

mitsuki lover wrote:hmmm...it's a bit uber serious for only having been together for a month.What if you break off?You should seriously have waited a longer while before even thinking of going off and doing something like that.A year or 2 would have been better IMO.
If you really wanted to give her something to commerate your one month anniversary of being together you should have picked something nice but less
likely to cause problems in case you split up later on like flowers.

Even assuming you're correct, I'm afraid the time when this advice would have been helpful had come and gone by the time you posted.

Postby **Miss WWE 2007** » Wed Apr 25, 2007 1:10 pm

"Thanks for the memories..."

Postby **Mr. SmartyPants** » Wed Apr 25, 2007 1:25 pm

mitsuki lover wrote:hmmm...it's a bit uber serious for only having been together for a month.What if you break off?You should seriously have waited a longer while before even thinking of going off and doing something like that.A year or 2 would have been better IMO.
If you really wanted to give her something to commerate your one month anniversary of being together you should have picked something nice but less
likely to cause problems in case you split up later on like flowers.

I can't really see advice from a single, middle-aged man being worth taking. Sorry.

Postby **Destroyer2000** » Wed Apr 25, 2007 1:31 pm

Haha, yeah. Thanks for the advice, all. "Thanks for the memories" sounds final, as well. And I must agree with MSP on that last comment.

Postby **Kaligraphic** » Wed Apr 25, 2007 2:13 pm

How about "Requiescat In Pace" or "Go With God" or Sayonara"

Postby **ich1990** » Wed Apr 25, 2007 2:51 pm

I would suggest putting the link to this thread on the bottom. That way she would see how much effort you put into thinking up the "perfect three words". She would be practically obligated to like it. Think of if your aunt Thelma got you a polka-dot tie, would you say "uggh, not another tie!"? No you would say "wow a tie, thanks alot aunt Thelma". If she likes it, you win, if not, you win. As a second option I would go with "You are not forgotten". It is a nice neutral saying that has a good ring to it.

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