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My friend is dating a mormon and from what i can tell she is coming over to his house next week and has already asked him to have intercourse with her. i fear she is making a mistake but she wont listen to me. what should i do?

That's... very curious behavior for a Mormon. Most Mormons I know are very conservative in regards to relationships. Encourage her to resist him.

Indeed! Try to convince your friend that premarrital sex is not a good thing. Pray for her of course that God will give her wisdom. I'll be praying.

Actually, the Mormon isn't the one pushing the issue. It's the girl. I'll be praying.

I'm totally confused.Which one is the Mormon and which one is your friend again?

the girl is my friend and the mormon is the guy she is with.

And your friend is pushing the Mormon?

yes, from what i hear. she has not been herself since she met this person. i fear she may stop being a christian in order to stay with him.

I'll be praying too!

yikes. prayer. definitely.

Hmm...it's going to take more than prayer I think.It might have to take an old fashioned intervention by you and her other friends.

mitsuki lover wrote:Hmm...it's going to take more than prayer I think.It might have to take an old fashioned intervention by you and her other friends.

Sorry if this offends anyone, but I don't believe in "interventions". Look, all you can really do is give your friend your honest oppinion in the matter and pray for her. Ultimately, what she does with her b/f is really between her, her b/f, and God. God has a plan for everyone. Just be carefull. Interventions can easily turn into something that ends up on a daytime talk show.

So you really think that nothing can be done then.
I would disagree on that.I would have to say they would have to do something rather active to prevent her from doing something that she will regret later on.Perhaps she won't listen to them,but if she knows how they feel about the situation it might deter her at least some.
Short of kidnapping her and locking her up in a convent an intervention is the only thing that I think will work at this point.

All you can do is convince her that premarrital sex is not a good thing and pray for her.


After that, she must choose on what she wants to do.




Col. Roy Mustang

And even if she does choose to do this thing, remind her that you're still her friend and will be there if she needs you.

Yeah I agree that intervention can actually HARM the situation rather than help. Do as much as you can to convince her to not sleep with him and PRAY like MAD! Hopefully the Mormon will resist!

Do your friend's parents know anything about this? If she's over eighteen they may not hold much sway over the situation, but if she grew up in a Christian home (I don't know if she did or not, but say she did) her parents might be able to reason with her. I don't know if you'd want to play the part of tattle-tale or not, it was just a possibility that crossed my mind. And a lot of that would all hinge on whether or not she respects her parents and has a good relationship with them.

Other than that, maybe you could talk her into speaking with her pastor or a Christian counselor? I'd take the approach of reminding her of all the consequences that can result from this. Pregnacy is an obvious one. Also, after you've given your purity away, it's a downhill slope that can lead to all kinds of impurity. If this boy leaves her, will she be willing to have a sexual relationship with the next boy she's with? Or the next? Try to get her to think of all the heartache she could suffer because of this. Since it seems that she's decided to leave God out of this all together, if she refuses to see a conselor or a pastor, use those angles to remind her that it's a huge decision that definitely doesn't need to be taken lightly.

I'll be praying for you. Remember, God is in control of the situation, so just try to be sensitive to what he's calling you to do and leave the rest in His hands.