seeking advice

[Guardianking500]

there is a person i've been friends with for 4 years now, but a couple of weeks ago she dropped me and and all of her other friends when she started talking to one of my ex-friends. according to him she is tired of crying over me and says that i hurt her but is not being specific about how i hurt her. from what i can recall i've done nothing that would keep her from wanting to be my friend. she is also being kinda judgemental saying one of her friends was kinda freaky and saying she didn't like another one even though she never met her.
i ask for your advice on the situation. she has been my best friend for 4 years and i still consider her to be my best friend.
what should i do since she won't talk to me?

[Alice]

Maybe she had feelings for you, and since you didn't return them, that's why she cried?

[Guardianking500]

we did go out for a while but now she is just throwing away all her friends for this one person. and i think he told her to get rid of her friends or he wouldn't go out with her.

[Alice]

Well, I don't know what to say. Guess you can't really know what's going on if she won't talk to you. My best advice would be just to pray for and about her.

[Ashley]

Well, I usually reserve my advice for my column, but I suppose I can dispense some here.

I would say you need to gently ask her what's going on. Explain that you and her other friends are worried about her and want to help her, and maybe gently prod to find out why she was so hurt by you. I think if you can communicate to her that you genuinely care and wish to make it better, she may open up to you.

[Wind]

ummm... I am the girl in the situation I am not throwing away all my friends over this I just am trying to distance myself from all this I don't want to cause any more problems or hurt feelings I just don't want to hurt anyone

[Guardianking500]

hurt goes away with effort. you must work through things to be able to stop the pain. when you stopped talking to others you hurt their feelings and they follow the golden rule "treat other as you wish to be treated".

[Wind]

I can't help that my mom wants me to never talk to you again and I just want to be friends with you but I doubt that's ever going to work I really care about you and I know all to well what it takes to work through pain I have experienced so much of it in my life you will never even know how much. I didn't want to break up the friendships you have with Chris and Tara I am sorry