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Today I was over at my boyfriend's house.
After he and I had eaten some soup his mom made for lunch, rented and watched a movie, pigged out on junk food, walked to the Panorama mall and back...we were sitting around trying to decide what we should do. We have had these free movie tickets to AMC theatres for a while...so, he asked his twin brother if he was going to the movies and he said, yeah, with their friend JR and his cousin. So, Steve left to go and ask if he and I could go. So, we went with them. We got to the Northridge Mall a little over an hour early for the film, so we ended up walking around a bit and ran into some other friends of the guys, who then ended up hanging out with us.
No one said a word to me accept Steve...and, with the acception of him and his brother, when I was referred to it was as "your girl" or "Steve's girl" even though nearly everyone there knew my name.
I was so uncomfortable in the situation. I felt out of place.
Steve noticed I wasn't happy and, when we were in the theatre he asked me what was wrong. I told him it was nothing. He then said, "are you sure? you wouldn't lie to me?" and I told him that I was fine.
But, I wasn't....
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It doesn't look like you were disallowed from talking. Why not strike up a conversation? Sometimes you need to take the initiative.

Its either no one sees you, or they all stare down your neck.

It is easy to feel uncomfortable and frustrated by how others treat you, but just remember that it is easier to just let it go. If you feel invisible, then just shrug it off and do what you want.

Man's empathic sight stops at the tip of the nose.

I tried talking...whenever I did...I would either be talked over or completely ignored!

I hate it when that happens. :[ Sometimes people are so rude even if they don't mean to be...

yeah...I actually just talked to Steve on the phone...he told me that he knew that it was going to be hard...and that it is going to be hard....these are people he has known all his life...and suddenly here I am....
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I guess I am taking it hard because I am the kind of person who can usually strike up a conversation with ANYONE. Perfect strangers talk to me like I am their long lost pal....usually...and yet, this group of guys who know my boyfriend so well...I couldn't even get them to acknowledge me by name....

Oh my. What an awful feeling that is.

That and being stared at.

Well, al least it sounds like your Boyfriend was noticing you. From the sound of it he was concerned about how you were feeling. You ought to have told him what was wrong. Us guys are pretty thick sometimes. It takes more than subtle hints to get us on the right track.

As for his friends, there would have been no way for them to know that you were feeling this way. If I was with a group of guys, and one of them had his girlfriend with him, I would probably stick to talking to the other guys. They were not ignoring you in order to make you feel bad, but probably in order to avoid awkward situations.

Thats just my take on the situation. Try not to be upset, noone ment you any harm, they were probably just not thinking.

Yeah, that is a painful thing to go through. And it's not gonna be an easy thing to resolve. Hopefully you and Steve can work out something so that it's not much a shock to his friends that your his girl.

lol...yeah...I don't like being stared at either....

::sigh:: I am tired...and I am not feeling well....
Steve gave me his cold....
so, i am gonna go to bed...

Oh...Scribs...thank you for that! I really appreciate your viewpoint...it makes sense and I feel better knowing that....
thank you....

Sweet dreams everyone!

I am going to say this very lovingly and very callously because I have felt this all too many times.

Stop stewing about it. I have roared and wept over how a few people have treated me and by doing so I forget those who treat me well.

Make an effort to show them who you are, and if they don't see you, so be it. All you can do is be who you are, and you aren't just Steve's girlfriend.

I don't think she was asking for admonition. She probably just wants to talk about the situation and see if there were others that felt the same way.

ShiroiHikari wrote:I don't think she was asking for admonition. She probably just wants to talk about the situation and see if there were others that felt the same way.

*Sigh*

I pray to God that the pain thrust upon me will be used to strenghten me.

I wish for Livewire not to be burdened by the memories, that is why I said it, and not to be a jerk. (Of course I know that is not what you meant, Shiroi) Frustration is best dealt with quickly.

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I'm on a soapbox again... I'm so stupid sometimes.

I do apologize.

Thank you for the apology...
I just needed to talk about it....
to see if anyone had any insight....
that is all....

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