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My boyfriend bought me a promise ring...it is so pretty!
I thought it was a sweet gesture...seeing as he knows he has to ask my dad if he can marry me before he proposes engagement.
But....
certain people that I know think it is stupid that he would even spend the money on such a thing...they say he should have just bought me an engagement ring.
I don't know...
like I said, I think it's sweet....even though he said I can't have it yet...because he DID say that...because it isn't the right size (it's a little too big....)
hmmmm.....

i think that is sweet, i want to get one for my girlfriend, i wanna see a picture

of my ring?
I don't have one...
but it is a litle oval peridot (I LOVE THE AUGUST BIRTH STONE)
with two little diamonds on each side of it...
he got that one because he knew I liked peridots...

=)

That's sweet of him.

awwwwwwwwwwwww. thats sweet. you're very lucky.

I hope someday my boyfriend does something like that for me! ^_^
He sounds like such a sweetheart! Don't let anyone discourage you or your boyfriend, it was a sweet and friendly thing to do! ^_~*

Thanks....I was excited! I just wish he'd give it to me already...but, he is afraid I will lose it since it isn't the right size....

Just keep it in thought. Ask God and see what He thinks. You never know, sometimes we loose things when we least expect it but I believe that if you wear this ring and keep it in mind a lot (which I don't think would be hard) then there's no way you could loose it! ^_~*

Maybe you could wear it on a necklace until you can get it resized.

true, true!

Aaaaw, that's so so so so sweet! You're lucky!

I think it's nice of him. Plus I agree, it's always nice to consent the parents before asking to marry their daughter; more respectful I think.

I know what an engagement ring is, but what specifically is a promise ring? A promise that they are/have been exclusive? Like a step under engagement; eventually plan on getting engaged?

Sorry, I don't know much about that stuff...

http://www.promise-rings.info/index.html

Above is a link to a place that has info onthe meaning and history of promise rings.
For Steve and myself, it is pre-engagement.
...and I agree that the tradition of asking the father for their daughter's hand in marriage is more respectful...kinda romantic, too, if you think about it.


and, thanx for the congratulations.

Aw. <3 <3 Congratulations from me as well.

I'm also in favor of asking the father first.

Same here. A girl's father is the best person to screen prospective husbands, and having the man ask the girl's father for her hand in marriage shows he respects both her and the father. I'm all for it too!

my husband bought me a promise ring.

no engagement ring

bought me a wedding ring.

TO me, i think an engagement ring is kinda pointless because you have to get another one in a couple of months neways... well unless you have those interlocking wedding/engagement rings.

I also had a purity ring that was on my wedding finger and i put my promise ring on my other hand.
~NL~

As a guy, I got briefed by other (men) that you should be very careful buying your girlfriend ANY ring, unless it's THAT ring (engagement). Because she might just take it that way, and you know how we feed about commitment. XD

That said, I think the ring is a very important symbol of bonding. If you are both communicating well and understand what it means, cool.

Oh, and don't shoot him cause he got the wrong size (Do my fingers look fat to you?), it takes serious sleuth work (or theft) to figure out someone's ring size short of blatantly asking them. Good Luck!

=)
Oh...I didn't shoot him. I just told him that it didn't matter that it is a little too big...that I wanted it NOW!!!! because...why did he show it to me, if he wasn't going to let me have it....

::sigh::

Hey...don't feel bad....before I googled it I thought they were merely pre-engagement as well...
even though, I have heard of giving children or....pre-adolescents rings as a vow of abstinence til marriage.

livewire wrote:Hey...don't feel bad....before I googled it I thought they were merely pre-engagement as well...
even though, I have heard of giving children or....pre-adolescents rings as a vow of abstinence til marriage.

Ah, that makes me feel better, than.

I've heard of the abstinence rings, but I've always seen the "true love waits" rings, though.

At any rate, I think promise rings are an incredibly sweet guesture. Good guy you've got there

Thanx....I totally agree!
it took me forever to find him....and, truth be told, he was right in front of me...I just had to get completely right with God first in order to see him.

SP1 wrote: it takes serious sleuth work (or theft) to figure out someone's ring size short of blatantly asking them.

check when their asleep.
Okay, sorry that was weird. ^^;;;
I think it was totally sweet of him to buy one for you!
He sounds faithful and really nice, good luck!

Myself, since we're marginally on the topic, I'd probably side with SP1. I come from the background where a ring means "something," so if I were to give a ring to that special someone, it would probably be an engagement ring right off the bat.

shooraijin wrote:Myself, since we're marginally on the topic, I'd probably side with SP1.

Someone side's with me! Must...resist...urge...to...glomp...

I ain't getting you a ring either.

lol....
well...promise rings DO mean something....

I know it does, and I'm sure it wasn't given to you flippantly, but I figure if I'm giving a ring to anyone, it will have a marriage proposal attached to it. That's just me, natch.

[quote="Eriana"]check when their asleep.
Okay, sorry that was weird. ^^]
You know, the whole concept of trading class rings while you are seriously dating sort of fixes this one. Though it has the drawback of simply not working sometimes.

When I went to get my wife's rings, I was more subtle, though. She had given me one of her rings at one point, and I found out it fit my pinky fairly good. So when I went shopping, I just used that to fogure it out. *shrugs*