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um some of u might of seen the physical attraction to girls thread for guys and i wanted to make one for girls to post their thoughts about it

note:look at physical attraction to girls thread to understand this one

I was wondering when somebody would make a thread like this for us. Well, I already said some of what I thought about the subject in the boys thread so I won't repeat myself here, but I do think it'll be interesting to see what others will say.

ok since theres no posts i kinda feel embarrased but i thought u girls might want to post sice that was a guys thread
ok lol a post ^_^

Sure! I'll post! YAY! 200th post! *daces* I lack the shyness gene!

without being shallow, I think that physical attraction does matter. It certainly isn't the most important thing in a relationship, but is important nonetheless. I mean, that's really how most relationships start out, isn't it?

You always hear how people say "I loved him/her from the moment I first laid eyes on him/her!" or "It was love at first sight!" I think that the person should be attractive to you. Not that they have to be a cover guy or anything.
Then again, I don't date because the guys I know, cute ones included, are just way too obnoxious. Just because someone is handsome doesn't mean his personality isn't repulsive.
THE most important thing for me is that the person is TOTALLY 100% sold out for God. And that they treat you with respect and Christ-like love. I think that that's what makes someone attractive.

hope this doesn't come out wrong...but...i think physical attraction is important...this might seem shallow but i want the guy i marry to be good-looking...i think that you can't jsut suddenly know who your "soulmate" is...i mean...i pay attention to how a guy looks and then get to know him better...does this make sense? ack...well...that's my two cents...

Well, it's not the most important thing, but the person you get married to should be attractive to you. And plus, once you start to like someone for who they are, they may seem a little more attractive to you... But, attraction is pretty important.

hmm was waitin for this! ^_^

While Physical Attraction might be important...I don't usually look at it, unless the guy is totally icky looking, like doesn't take care of themselves or something..then It might turn me away from them.

But ultimatlely, I think personality is important. I really think this. You could have the ugliest guy in the world but if they are sold out for Christ that kind of changes things for me.

yeh, I take the Feministic stance on this.haha.. I don't care about looks I am not that shallow... So I guess I really don't care..

I wish more people looked at beauty from within...sure would make my life easier.. :rolleyes:

Hm, well, I do, of course, find some guys physically attractive, and there have even been times where I saw a guy for the first time and all I could think was "He's gorgeous," but I've never fallen for a guy due to looks. At most, I'll just want to draw whoever that lovely guy is because I find the composition of his face aesthetically pleasing. XD I've been fortunate in that it's always been the personality that attracted me to a guy, and often, after getting to know him, I'd think he was cute, but I think that mostly stemmed from him rather than his surface. I think that whoever I marry will be the most handsome man on earth to me because I'll see his passion for Christ, and that's what'll get me.

I like to look at pretty boys but most of the guys I ended up being attracted to was because of their personality.

starfire wrote:Then again, I don't date because the guys I know, cute ones included, are just way too obnoxious. Just because someone is handsome doesn't mean his personality isn't repulsive.
THE most important thing for me is that the person is TOTALLY 100% sold out for God. And that they treat you with respect and Christ-like love. I think that that's what makes someone attractive.

I can NOT agree with you more.
I like a guy to be physically attractive to some degree, but it really comes down to if i connect with them on a spiritual level (but what do i really know? i'm too young). But I think if i really felt something for a guy, his appearance wouldn't matter really.

starfire wrote:Sure! I'll post! YAY! 200th post! *daces* I lack the shyness gene!

without being shallow, I think that physical attraction does matter. It certainly isn't the most important thing in a relationship, but is important nonetheless. I mean, that's really how most relationships start out, isn't it?

You always hear how people say "I loved him/her from the moment I first laid eyes on him/her!" or "It was love at first sight!" I think that the person should be attractive to you. Not that they have to be a cover guy or anything.
Then again, I don't date because the guys I know, cute ones included, are just way too obnoxious. Just because someone is handsome doesn't mean his personality isn't repulsive.
THE most important thing for me is that the person is TOTALLY 100% sold out for God. And that they treat you with respect and Christ-like love. I think that that's what makes someone attractive.

I find some guys attractive but I think it really does matter what kind of relationship you want. I'm one of those people that would want to have a boyfriend to hold onto. When I can start dating I don't plan to date my heart out. I just want Mr. Right, wherever he is, and that's all.
And I really agree with you a lot Starfire. ^_~*

ChristianRonin wrote:hmm was waitin for this! ^_^

While Physical Attraction might be important...I don't usually look at it, unless the guy is totally icky looking, like doesn't take care of themselves or something..then It might turn me away from them.

But ultimatlely, I think personality is important. I really think this. You could have the ugliest guy in the world but if they are sold out for Christ that kind of changes things for me.

yeh, I take the Feministic stance on this.haha.. I don't care about looks I am not that shallow... So I guess I really don't care..

I wish more people looked at beauty from within...sure would make my life easier.. :rolleyes:

Yes, I agree. I mean, you have to not think he's ugly... (Sorry, I didn't read anyone else's posts after this...-_-)

Well, see, the thing is for me, I think it's impossible to think the guy you're in love with is ugly. When I worked at camp, I met a lot of guys and the thing I realized while I was there is that even the most unnatractive person can BECOME attractive to you once you get to know them. For instance, one of the guys there who I actually would have considered dating if I were a dating girl was one of the guys who I didn't even notice at first. I mean, I honestly don't think I gave him a thought other than "he looks kind of conceited" until the middle of the first week I was actually on staff with him. The reason I thought he was conceited was because he would always kind of hang off by himself, which I thought meant he thought he was better than everyone or something. And he really is only average looking. Anyhow, the first week I worked there I really got to hang out with him a lot and the longer I was with him the more physically attractive he became to me. I think when you know someone well their inside really starts to shine through and blinds you to the outward imperfections. And even the hottest guys become ugly if they're jerks or pervs or whatever-- who cares what an apple looks like on the outside if it's rotten in its core? I don't know, I think I'm the female version of MSP, I don't think looks really matter. Yeah so maybe initially it helps you notice someone, but that's hardly been the case for anybody who I've really liked. I don't think that looks are essential to a relationship, and that you'll experience enough physical attraction just from getting to know a person with inner beauty that you won't even truly see the exterior any more. That's my two bits.

ya yumie i feel the same way

I'm a guy, are y'all attracted to me?

Don't m

well taking notes couldnt hurt our minds may be complex but less spongy than u think
^_^
and im not going to type one big boring post since almost all of its been said already by yumie and a few more of u guys so...yeah^_^

i totally agree shmmer

Dragonshimmer, I couldn't agree more with what you said...

attraction is important when it comes to being married...
but, that is also where love comes in, because, attraction without love is just lust and love without attraction is purely friendship.

i couldnt agree more ^_^

I think you have to be initially physically attracted, but what keeps you interested is what they are like inside.

i think it is important to me... first that they are a christian,have a moral platform and then the physical part.

I only like azn guys, married one partly because of that. I like thinner guys, so i would say race was a very important facet for me.

~NL~

There is this guy that I'm very attracted too, but you know what? I don't think most people would call him handsome....but he has a gentle smile that makes you feel welcome (he works at a video store), pretty blue eyes..he's very tall and husky, but he carries his weight well...there is a point btw...lol..my point is, that yes attraction is important, but sometimes attraction can come out in the personality also. If there was a guy that I find really attractive and then later found out he's a jerk, then that will turn me away from him really fast. A good personality is what attracts me to a guy, not just his looks.

I don't think it is the most important thing. But, still important! Most important thing I woul look for in a guy is being a true man of God. One who will be a justful leader and treat me with respect. That is definitely what I want In my man if I ever get married! Me married! Anywho, Attractiveness is important too. Only, thing is that it is varied. I might think some guy is handsome while someone else thinks he isn't. Just the way it is! If I think my guy is the cutest thing in the world, it really doesn't matter what others say. That is what I have to say about that! Hope you enjoyed my rambling

ya same here reirei ...theres this guy that i like and i dont think most people would be attracted to him but i like him because i like guys who are more cute than hot with a sweet smile but if the one god has out there for me is diffrent then that would make me just as happy but i feel that the inside of a person comes first before physical attractionbut even so yes physical attraction is counted

Wow we're all such wise ladies around here XD I agree completely with Yumie and Dragonshimmer (and everyone who said the same thing but I remember their posts specifically)
Like... there's lots of cute guys in my school but half of them I could never even consider actually dating. The ones I would date would be the ones focused on their walk with God more than girls and who would encourage me in my faith. And I can drool over those Jrockers (XD) but a guy I would really want to date would just be an average guy with his priorities straight.
So, yeah... attractiveness is important important to me but some things have higher priority than that. Luckily I go to a Christian school where we have a nice little group of guys that are exactly like what I just described ^o^

I hope I get to marry a cute guy (cute according to MY definition). But in the end I suspect I'll become physically attracted to any guy I like enough to marry. XD;;

[quote="Alice"]I hope I get to marry a cute guy (cute according to MY definition). But in the end I suspect I'll become physically attracted to any guy I like enough to marry. XD]


As long as you're attracted to him...does it matter at what point in time the attraction started? :p

This leads me to wonder how many people aren't actually physically attracted to the people they marry. I'm sure it has to happen somewhere.

dragonshimmer wrote: As long as you're attracted to him...does it matter at what point in time the attraction started? :p

This leads me to wonder how many people aren't actually physically attracted to the people they marry. I'm sure it has to happen somewhere.

Hmm, that's an interesting thought. . .

Well, I don't know if this thread is still alive enough for many people to respond to this, but I was just thinking-- a lot of people say that it's good idea to make a list describing the things you value as important to choosing a future husband. Have any of you guys ever done this? My Sunday school class did it one week. It was interesting. These were some of the things we came up with.

He MUST love Jesus
He should be a gentleman
It would be nice if he was funny
He should listen well
It would be nice if he was attractive, although not absolutely essential
He should be kind (face it, you can meet a pretty cold guy who is by societies standards a gentleman)

You know, that kind of thing. We came up with more but I can't remember them. Anybody else ever done this??