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I dunno, sometimes I think that she is being too strick on her son (my cousin, shes like 35 and her son live on our home) and I don't think she's being too effective helping him study.

First off: She yells many times

Second: It seems like she expects for him to know it right away, because she is "comparing" him with other kids (EXTREMELY BAD IDEA!!!!! You're gonna end up him having a lack of self confidence!) And constanty goes like "Why can't you learn this? Hurry up and memorize this and that and blah blah"

And Third: She is making learning not fun for him. Thats how kids learn a lot when they're younger. Because learning is fun for them. I have a bad feeling that things won't go well as he goes through elementary school soon...

meh, any suggestions?

If she is as mean as you say. I don’t think she would like you telling her that she doing something wrong.
You might get your head bit off.

Tough, sounds like something for a 'Dear Abbey' collumn.

Well, you could be direct with your feelings, talk to her and be honest and caring toward her as you suggest a change in her teaching strategy. If she is not the kind to take this sort of advice well, you could suggest getting a tutor so that she isn't the one primarily teaching him. Some people just don't make good teachers.

If you really don't feel like talking to her will do any good, then at least you can be there for him. Give him verbal support. Compliment him on everything he does well, even when he fails, tell him you're proud of him and happy that he keeps trying anyway. Be his friend. If he knows that someone else cares, and will give him praise for trying, it will at least counter some of the negative input he's getting.

If you really don't feel like talking to her will do any good, then at least you can be there for him. Give him verbal support. Compliment him on everything he does well, even when he fails, tell him you're proud of him and happy that he keeps trying anyway. Be his friend. If he knows that someone else cares, and will give him praise for trying, it will at least counter some of the negative input he's getting.

this sounds like solid advice to me. quoted for emphasis.

indeed it does

At the risk of sounding quite rude, considering your age it's not really your place to say ANYTHING to your aunt. At most you could speak to your own mother or father about it, and let them --the adults-- speak to your aunt.

But if you really really really want to do anything, I suggest you stick with helping your cousin himself, and leaving the big guns to your parents, your aunt's equals.

Ashley wrote:At the risk of sounding quite rude, considering your age it's not really your place to say ANYTHING to your aunt.

indeed

but she's my cousin... but i suppose being 35 automatically makes her an aunt o_O

I read your opening post and formulated in my mind somthing similar to what Ashly just said (she posseses much wisdom)

despite the fact that she is your cousin, she is 20 years your elder, so I think you would be out of place saying anything to her. Perhaps you ought to talk to your parents, if you are truely concerned. Unless she is downright abusive, I think you should just deal with it.

pardon my heartlessness

piloswine wrote:I read your opening post and formulated in my mind somthing similar to what Ashly just said (she posseses much wisdom)

despite the fact that she is your cousin, she is 20 years your elder, so I think you would be out of place saying anything to her. Perhaps you ought to talk to your parents, if you are truely concerned. Unless she is downright abusive, I think you should just deal with it.

pardon my heartlessness

I agree with this. In my other post I did not even look to see how old you are. In the future I will remember pay more attention.

there is NO way she is abusive. I personally feel her teaching methods are wrong though. Although i have suggested better ways, she didn't seem to understand.

hmmm, well if its just that, I sugest you either talk to your parents, or just clam up about it because it is obvious she isn't going to listen.