CAA: Christian Anime Alliance

The situation has been resolved...that and I have gotten over it.

You're right. Obeying your parents is all well and good, but when it crosses a certain line, it's time for a change. A no-holds-barred, 3-hour conversation would do the mom some good.

Hitokiri wrote: Like I said, I'm all for obeying your parents but not if thier psycho mothers who decide when you are going leave the house (which is when he's 24) or start liking a girl (when he's 21 he can officially date).

::phew:: I needed to get that off my chest

That part right there creeped me out more than anything... So she actually said you can't leave till you're 24 and you cant start meeting females till you're 21?!

o_o; wow...no offence, but like you said, obeying your parents is a good thing, but not when they act like a psychotic control freak. =/ Maybe you can ask your parents or a pastor to talk to her...?

17, you say? Fortunately, when he's 18 he'll be a legal adult and can legally make his own choices. But I agree, something must be done.

Fortunately, few homeschooling moms are near like that at all (I'm homeschooled and though Mom is still a little leery of anime, she DID buy me the first 5 vols. of Rurouni Kenshin and is very good to me.)

Rai

that's insane. somebody should do something :[

If you live at home, deal with it. (not trying to be mean) Since I doubt they charge him rent or make him pay for water, eletric, or food...a few crazy rules seem fair. I still live at home, and thats the breaks to mootching.

That's just not right. Rules and discipline are one thing, but parent have responsibilities to their children as well. This means not only love and respect, but also the practical need to raise them to become people capable of functioning in the world. Social and moral development must mean eventually allowing kids their own freedom, and trusting them to do right.

Remember this is a minor here, and not some 25-year old loafer. The point is his upbringing here, not leeching off of mom & dad.

Shatterheart wrote:If you live at home, deal with it. (not trying to be mean) Since I doubt they charge him rent or make him pay for water, eletric, or food...a few crazy rules seem fair. I still live at home, and thats the breaks to mootching.

Refer to the first post.

Yea "baby facto

I have a friend who is in the same situation, more or less. I've known him since 4th grade and now he's 19yrs and still treated like a 5yr old. He's afraid to ask his dad if he can hang out, so he makes excuses so he doesn't have to. Then, he has to share his room w/ his 11yr brother... He got kicked out of his own room b/c he was watching TV late at night. He had a girlfriend for 2yrs and never told his parents, never talk to her outside of school, held hands, kiss or ever really to show emotion besides a hug. He's afraid of having his parents know or getting into his business... so she broke up w/ him because she wasn't getting the respect she needed. I mean, seriously what kind of relationship is that?

His parents seemed to be very strict, more on him then his other 2 brothers. All he ever does is play video games and watch anime. I'm not saying it's bad to do those things, but thats all he does 24/7 it seems. THen he went to Baylor, his parent told him he couldn't take his PS2 (that he bought with own $) because it would dirupt his studies. So then he played online rpg's 24/7 and has a 1.2 GPA... then his parents pulled him out of college b/c he's not doing his studies and now lives at home again. Before coming back he met this girl online. Now he says they are dating and she's just turned 13yrs. I've told him countless times that it's really messed up and wrong. But no... he says he's in "love." What the heck!? What does a 13yr old know about love, let alone my friend? Anyways, I think a mix of his parents and his cowardness towards them socially stunted him.

I'm not saying not to obey your parents, b/c you should. If you live under thier roof and such, what they say goes. But, there really needs to be a limit on socially restraining your chrildren. If you don't let them live life, they will never mature. My friend, although an adult sometimes makes me think. We can chat like adults, but something about him just doesn't seem right. He seems like he's caught in the past and acts something about him just doesn't seem like he's matured. I mean, his parents make him goto sleep around 10pm (most of the time) and he also can't talk on the phone much of the time or hang out. He only goes to community college 2 days a week (Wed and Thus night) for about 3hr and can't hang out b/c of homework. What homework, the classes he's taking really doesn't call for any. They sreiously treat him like a little kid most of the time.

So yeah, I can somewhat relate because my friend is fairly similar. Parents should be there to set structure, but there also needs to be a limit to or things like this happens. It just seems like he can't funtion in the real world w/o his parents "know how" or telling him what to do every minute of his life. A 19yr old w/o a mind of his own... very sad.

Refer to the first page first post.