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over the past few months, I let the stress get to me, and I slowly slipt in to a huge funk... for some reason I hid it. I dont even theank my closest freands realized it. I felt realy alone. even my dreams were hunting me.

well I theank it was yestorday when I finnaly realized that telling a girl, how much I liked her realy lifted a huge amount a stress, on me. and thoe I sorto feel I scrude up on that, I feel like my old self again. I thank you lord.

I'm glad you're feeling better. Good luck with this girl that you like. ^_^

Glad your feeling better! Telling the girl you like her... I don't know what the anwser was, but regardless it always feels a lot better getting that stuff out in the open. You can't always hide your feelings and emotions. I've done that for about 18.5yrs. It really adds a huge burden on your shoulders. This past year I have taken notice of it and am trying my hardest to tell the people around me my feelings and such. Because like you, you can't always keep your feelings locked up in a jar, because when it gets full, it'll pop. ANways, glade your feeling much better

That's a good lesson, there. One I could learn. Whether it works out with the girl or not.

well thanks.... but I.. well whats agrivating is that.... well she has not talked to me sens I told her. now I feel like I am just endtroding on her. the lask girl who told me we should just be freands, never talked to me again. tell me how do I stop loving sombody that made me forget to breath. I even had dreams about her, every night.

Here is my advice to you, spartan. There is a girl out there for you. God picked her just for you, and He also picked you for her. If this girl that you like is the one for you, then the relationship will work. If, for some strange reason that she dose not like you in that way, then she is not the one for you.

(I think that your friend did know.)

wilson1112000 wrote:Here is my advice to you, spartan. There is a girl out there for you. God picked her just for you, and He also picked you for her. If this girl that you like is the one for you, then the relationship will work. If, for some strange reason that she dose not like you in that way, then she is not the one for you.

(I think that your friend did know.)

what wilson says is 110% true ^^

wilson1112000 wrote:Here is my advice to you, spartan. There is a girl out there for you. God picked her just for you, and He also picked you for her. If this girl that you like is the one for you, then the relationship will work. If, for some strange reason that she dose not like you in that way, then she is not the one for you.

(I think that your friend did know.)

Well put. I must say wilson, though it wasn't directed at me, that was comforting to read. Arigato. ^^

Anyway, good luck to you spartan, God bless.

well she has not talked to me sens I told her. now I feel like I am just endtroding on her. the lask girl who told me we should just be freands, never talked to me again.

I've had the problem too, where it seems to just get "weird" between y'all then it slowly breaks off. I've had a few cases of that too. WHat I would suggest is to make that extra effort to be there as a friend. Don't go in the situation with the only intent of pushing harder to get a girlfriend. If she isn't ready, don't rush it. But there was nothing wrong w/ expressing your feelings, your heart can't help how it feels. To you it may seem overbearing, but perhaps not to her, though I may be wrong. Just don't force a relationship or the friendship, that may be a bit creepy or stalker-ish even if that isn't your intent . Just be there for her. Whether it works out or not isn't the issue anymore, it's preserving that friendship. By expressing your feelings one may put a dint in the relationship, but that only means you have to work that much harder to keep the friendship. Actually it may even make the friendship stronger. Good luck buddy.

Just a hint: Girls are crazy.... can't understand them if my life depended on it.

agasfas wrote: Girls are crazy.... can't understand them if my life depended on it.

Sometimes, we can't figure ourselves out either. That's often the reason we run from people who like us. Because we don't know what we're thinking.

And my advice concerning this situation? Go to this girl and tell her that you understand that she doesn't feel the same way as you. Tell her that if a romantic relationship won't work, you would love to be just friends with her again. Tell her that you desperately want a friendship with her again. Assure her that you're not gonna try to approach her about this romantic relationship again. (And if you say that, you have to keep the promise).

I once had a young man tell me that he wanted to have his friendship with me back (he'd hurt me pretty badly). I had given him a piece of my mind and had, in essence, threatened to never talk to him again. Scratch that-- I totally intended to never talk to him again, but he apologized profusely and said that if I didn't talk to him again that he would have lost something very special to him. That was important, and after I blew off some steam (directly at him, unfortuneately) I felt bad for having treated him that way when he was so gracious in his apologies.