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is it strange that i get attached to people very easily, its like i barely know them but i care a great deal about themway more than what they care about me, i know i shouldn't let myself do this because it's gotten me hurt sooooooooo many times and it hurts so much when you lose that person, it's led me to depression and even to the brink of suicide(i thank god for being here today) quite honestly i don't know what to do....

yeah, I know what you mean. I used to do it a lot and then I made up my mind to never get so close to someone again, but I quit that too because it only hurts worse.

So, it isn't strange to me that that happens to you. I don't exactly know what to do about it either, but once I find out, I'll be sure and post here! -.- hopefully it won't take me that long to find out. lol.

merrick wrote:is it strange that i get attached to people very easily, its like i barely know them but i care a great deal about themway more than what they care about me, i know i shouldn't let myself do this because it's gotten me hurt sooooooooo many times and it hurts so much when you lose that person, it's led me to depression and even to the brink of suicide(i thank god for being here today) quite honestly i don't know what to do....

Trust in God. He'll give you the answers you seek. I'll pray that He does.

That's not a bad thing. Caring for people makes this life worth living. I think you just need to balance that with the realization that we are flawed and often do things we shouldn't and generally treat each other poorly. Even so, know that you are loved, so even if someone hurts you, you are still wanted and cared for by way more important people than them.

you have a big heart.

Actually I remember every single one of my teachers, their face, personality, vioce, and guestures, as if it were a movie playing on TV in my mind. Teachers, freinds, co-workers. EVERYONE. No one gets lost, I remember all.

I just don't want to be forgotten...

...exactly!!

and what that person told you sounds good. I will definitely try to remember it.

Hey Merrick, you sound like a wonderfully caring Christian young lady. I think that is great that you care for people like that.

In fact, it will be a blessing a lot later in life when you're a mom. It also means that maybe you are being called to reach out to people in your life in some way. I would guess you have a mercy type gift.

And, you will find that there are many people in this world who do not reciprocate the caring. That's okay, we are all very different. As long as you stay loving and caring and never allow that to be lost. Having a tender heart is such a wonderful thing. ^____^

that is very true, but never ever ever let your heart take control of your brain

I get attached to people, but I have only once had a huge loss. My grandma used to take me to her house to spend the weekends when I was little, and she had a big black lab/dobie mix named Lady. Lady was the sweetest, most gentle dog, and would do everything from taking my hat off for me when I came in the house to herd me around the front yard, keeping me out of the street. We were very close. One day, I found out that she was very sick and had to be put to sleep (only a few years ago, maybe 4 or 5). It was terrible. I cried for months after that...

But I've never thought of commiting suicide. Life has sooooo much to offer me...my pets, the wind, the woods, my family, God's love, my friends. If you ever think of killing yourself, just keep in mind the grief that you will cause those around you...the sobbing at funerals, people's wonderings if they could have done something to save you and having to live with that. It is far more terrible to lose someone to suicide than to lose someone to something natural.

Life is wonderful, and one of the many things that comes with it is the price of love: losing them. But loving and caring for others is worth the shock of death. Everyone's hearts carry those scars, but we, unless we've murdered ourselves, have all gotten through it. So keep caring, keep loving, and remember that they care for you as well.

Mr. SmartyPants wrote:that is very true, but never ever ever let your heart take control of your brain

Exactly. Remember that the heart is deceitful above all things. But Christ did redeem us...

there's not

i am not really gonna respond to what volt and the others are talking about...

Merrick-

Like most of the other people here have said- there is nothing wrong in getting attached to others. And yes, half the time, you will probably care more about them than they do about you. And when the time comes for you and them to seperate, i'm sorry to break it to you, but it will hurt.

But here's what i do: be grateful you had that time with them. The experience that you went through with them (y'know, before you have to separate) is something beautiful that no one can ever take away from you. It is a gift that God gave you. Yes, we cry because it is gone. But we are even more joyful that we had the blessing of knowing that person.

Just a bit of advice.

Ice

thanks, to all of you guys, good to know people care