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If anyone remembers a few threads that I had in July and Aug, about a girl that I really cared about that sent me an e-mail about how she was dating a jerk and was getting tried of life. I tried to get a hold of her by phone and e-mail and even went out looking for her and never could find her.

Well, she e-mail me today and she fine.

That is the happy part.

The mad part is, I have had feelings for her and felt that she could come to me if she was having problems or need someone to talk to.

But what happens, I don't get to help her and it feels like she just turn and ran away from me. I have been worried sick since Aug and had problems sleeping and was thinking about her and praying that she was okay.

Now I feel confused and don't understand why she ran away from me this whole time.

Now I'm starting to question the trust that her and me really have as friends now. Sigh!

Then again, I feel that I could be selfish about this whole thing. Blah!

Now I'm going to go to bed in a bad mood.

Wingzero22

Man, Im the first again!!!!! Why is that?
Mate its good to hear the update and that shes fine. The whole situation does suck though. I can totally understand why you're confused, and admittedly something like that hasn't exactly happened to me, but look... If its not getting any better, and you now know shes okay... how about putting her out of your mind... not forgetting about her, but let her organise her life and issues. You could tell her that you do feel kinda awkward about the whole friendship/trust breach you're feeling. I reckon you should just forget about it for the timebeing. But its up t you in the end. Best Wishes mate.

I didn't catch the first thread, but I would like to encourage you, anyway, with what you've related.

First, you know, it's got to be even harder for her to go to you when she knows you have feelings for her. That's my read of her side. Second, when one feels down, one generally tries to convince oneself that nobody cares. Depression feeding on itself, you know. So I would hope that it wasn't personal or intentional that she made you worry for so long.

I'm a worrier myself, and one of my friends started calling me "Mother Hen." So I tried (and am trying) to back off a bit. It's OK to worry, but I try to pray for them and dismiss the thought as "in God's hands" each time I feel concerned.

My particular worry these days just got back in touch with me after two months of silence. I was concerned, and thought about just showing up on the doorstep... But it turned out for the best when I received an eager phone call last weekend. Let her come to you, she knows you're there!

*Shrugging off shrink's coat*

Good luck!!! Godspeed!

Yeah, that why right now. I feel not telling her anything on how I feel. I feel that in a way that I need think about it for a bit.

There is a part of me that makes me feel that I should just be friends with her and move on as that.


Wingzero22

I hope y'all can work this whole situation out. It can be frustrating when you really want to help someone but they don't give you the chance to. Continue to be her friend but give her a little space. Just be ready to be there for her if/when she comes around or is ready to talk. Perhaps she is dealing w/ some demons or problems she needs to work out. Maybe she is confused or perhaps she is embarrassed about something. I don't know the whole story so i can't really say. But like I said, just be there if/when she comes around. Stay strong. Even though it's not a prayer thread, I'll be sure to put in a prayer for y'all. I really hope y'alls friendship can continue. Friendship is a very valuable and precious, I would hate to see that end. But at the same time you have to live your life. Hopefully everything works out. Be strong and good luck.

There is a part of me that makes me feel that I should just be friends with her and move on as that.

I think that's a good idea.

She knows you're there for her if she needs you, but she might need to work things out on her own. Keep praying for her, but let her have her space.

Too, I'm starting to feel that all my feelings for her is really a crush then anything else. Since makes me feel odd in a way, I never would have fought that at my age you still can have a crush on someone.

It just makes me feel that I want to be her friend then anything else then not at all.


Wingzero22

Wingzero22 wrote:Too, I'm starting to feel that all my feelings for her is really a crush then anything else.

It just makes me feel that I want to be her friend then anything else then not at all.


Wingzero22

I've got this ruefully sympathetic expression on my face right now (just thought I'd give you that visual ). I actually dated a guy for a while, and there was one issue on his end that wasn't up to par. Because it was honesty, I couldn't overlook it. I broke up with him when I realized he just plain didn't have the guts to do it himself.

Now that we're not together, I'm extremely lonely, etc. But I feel similarly -- that it's probably more crush than anything else (he obviously wasn't right for me, not at that point in his spiritual development). But it's powerful, whatever the feeling is.

Hold fast! Whatever the reason, this is where God wants you right now. Even though it feels really, really awful. I keep feeling like I should be doing something to help the situation, and it's just a time for me to sit back and be patient.

Godspeed, I hope this at least let you know you're not alone!