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This is thread that is an update on my thread about Women, blah thread.

Since I been gone for a week on my trip and so. I sent some e-mails to people that know the girl that I been trying to get a hold of. All of them have came back that they haven't seen her for a long time. I even trying to see anyone knew if she been to class and all my e-mails that I have sent her have never been sent back to me, but I haven't got a reply.

Here is the thing. I'm still worried about her, but in a way. I haven't shown it that I been worried as of late. I'm starting to feel that my mind is telling me to give up on this matter and move on. I know this is odd question or so, is this normal? I have use to let things really get to me and upset me and as of let I haven't and its like when around people that I feel this way or about people that I care about.

Am I just blocking my feels for this girl to where I don't get too worried or what?

Hey I remember the 'women.. blah' thread.... i cant remember what it was about... But I wanted to be the 1st to reply, so hold one ill get back to you
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Okay Im back, hey I posted 1st for you're women-blah one aswell, weird...
This is the whole "I like the girl but dont know how to say it or when" thing right.. yeah cool. Well that does suck that shes not replying to your emails, or at least not checking her account, and it has been a long time since she went missing (as u mentioned in the other thread ie asking for prayer).

Is it normal to not care anymore about something that you've cared strongly about for awhile,... I think yes it does happen. I liked a girl (i dont know if i mentioned the same one last time?) and told her i kinda liked her and she didn't tell me she had a b/f although we were good mates, and when i found out it hurt and i really care for the situation, like worried about how it was all going to turn out etc. But over time i didnt care anymore.
To quote Spike "whatever happens, happens".

Personally, I reckon you should give it a rest, you've done everything a friend can do and worried about her, and should continue to be concered for her saftey and where-abouts, but the ball is in her court right? Shes not replying to you so.... Its not up to you anymore.

Am I just blocking my feels for this girl to where I don't get too worried or what?

Maybe, I think thats probaly subconsious, and if you dont know.... how should we (one of the other guys will know, they'll tell you)
Good Luck eitherway Zero22, cheers for the up-date aswell.

I think it's healthy to let it go. It doesn't mean you don't care about this person, but there's only so much you can do. It's okay to move on; the matter is in God's hands.

[quote="EireWolf"]I think it's healthy to let it go. It doesn't mean you don't care about this person, but there's only so much you can do. It's okay to move on]
i agree w/ eirewolf

c.t.,girl wrote:i agree w/ eirewolf

I agree with C.T.,girl who agrees with Eirewolf

I feel a bit better about this on thinking about letting go. When I frist felt about letting go and I felt that I was starting not to care anymore. I was worried that was being selfish and maybe slip into depression.

I'm glad you're feeling better about it. Letting go is not being selfish. In fact, holding on can sometimes be selfish.

I had to tell myself this over and over after my sister died. I grieved, but for a relatively short amount of time. Pretty soon I could think about her and talk about her without feeling very sad. At first I thought there must be something wrong with me -- Didn't I love her at all? Why wasn't I still grieving. like my mother was? How could I just be fine about it so soon?

But I realized, with the help of my Dad and the Holy Spirit (an odd combination, that) -- Everyone grieves differently. It doesn't mean I didn't love her, or won't miss her. I just understand that she is with the Lord now, and nothing I do can bring her back. I will see her again someday.

There are times when I feel sad, and miss my sister terribly. But most of the time, I can look at a picture of her with a dry eye. And that's okay. You know what? I think she would approve. She wouldn't want me to sit around and cry for her forever.

Of course, this is a more extreme case. But you've experienced a loss, too. I just wanted to tell you -- It's okay, and healthy, to let go.

I get what you're saying WingZero. No there's nothing strange or selfish about that feeling. I've had the same thing happen with me I poured all my feelings and emotions in one person and when it just didn't work out the feelings went away alot quicker than I expected. You've done all you can for now just keep praying and see how things turn up.

Thanks everyone.

One thing that I guess made me feel hard about letting go was, she was really one of the few people in my life after I found out that I had a bad health problem that look at me as a friend and not turn their back on me.


Anyway, this is still going to be hard for me to deal with in a way. More now then ever. I tried calling her again and I got this from voice message.

This user no longer has service with this cell phone service or something like that.

well, ya gotta make sure that she isn't like, living under a rock or something. But i guess that you should find out.

Mr. SmartyPants wrote:well, ya gotta make sure that she isn't like, living under a rock or something. But i guess that you should find out.

Yeah, I know. The thing that gets me more is, if she is okay. Why do this, just close herself to everyone. I mean, its like she just went in a cave and doesn't want to be around people anymore. Phone doesn't work and no replys to my e-mails. Why I worry about this, she has always pull through when things have gotten rough. I don't know if maybe her dating another jerk, her father dying, working a job and having problems doing well in college if this has set her off or what.

Yeah that would about do it.